What are the steps to become a nurse mid-wife and a OBGYN?

Hello Monica! Excellent question and great field to get into. I will start by answering what the requirements and qualifications are to become a mid-wife nurse.

MID-WIFE

First -- You will need to get your Bachelors degree (undergraduate degree). There is no direct bachelor's program to be a midwife.

Make sure you cover the sciences -- Chemistry, biology, anatomy, physiology and health.
Make sure you cover the Social Sciences too -- Psychology, sociology and anthropology and if possible add women studies and literature.

Basically talk with the college adviser and tell her/him what it is you want. Look into Nursing. Some pursue that path and become RNs then Mid-wives.

Second -- Get experience by doing internships at a birthing center, or offer to volunteer. Contact midwives in the area and ask them what you need to do to be successful. They will also be able to help you make sure you continue down the right path to your desired goal.

Third -- Apply to Midwifery graduate programs. There are several different programs that have different styles. Some require nursing school, some are more focused on the philosophical aspect.
Majority of the Midwives in US are Certified Nurse Midwives (CNMs) but it is possible to become a Certified Midwife (CM), however it is only recognized in a few states. Do your research and really think about the right path for you. Keep in mind, your personality is just as important as your grades.

Fourth -- Complete the degree and pass the National Certifying exam, administered by the American Midwifery Certification Board (AMCB)

Fifth -- Find a job -- Hospitals, Clinics, and Birthing Centers. Consider your own private practice too. You can also be an educator for UG or Graduate levels. Health Policy is also another popular choice for CNMs and CMs.

OB-GYN

First -- You need to take an UG program such as Pre-med.
Second -- Get accepted to Medical School -- HIGH GPA IS REQUIRED.
Third -- Residency at a Medical facility
Forth -- Pass the state medical board exams
Fifth -- Pass specialization exams

The combination of schools, it will be approximately 12 years of school to become a OB-GYN.

Here is a little more information about the difference between OB-GYN and Mid-wife. Maybe this will help you decide which path you would like to take. :-)

Understand that OB-GYN means Obstetrician-gynecologist and that means they are doctors who specialize in women's health.
Understand that CNMs means people who are Registered Nurses who undertake additional training in Midwifery.

OB-GYN are doctors, so they look at pregnancy and child-birth through scientific and medical lenses. It has its advantages and disadvantages.

Research I found on advantages and disadvantages
A medical approach is beneficial if you have a higher risk pregnancy and are likely to need specialized medical care. OB-GYNs are the only health care professionals who can handle any complication that develops, including the need for surgery.
On the other hand, a medical approach sometimes leads to unnecessary drugs or interventions. Some women who use obstetricians find that their pregnancies and birth experiences become unnecessarily medicalized. Childbirth is a natural process, and most healthy women do not need high-tech interventions.

Mid-wifes tend to focus more on natural and less pain medication and pregnant women are less likely to have Cesarean sections.

Another thing to keep in mind is -- what is it that you want to do when helping Pregnant women. Do you want to be there for them Emotionally, Spiritually and help them achieve as natural birth as possible or do you want to work with all sorts of Pregnant women who may or may not have medical complications that may or may not need more advance medical interventions. Both avenues can achieve natural birth, however the OB-GYN will give you the knowledge to approach more complicated situations.

I know this may be a lot of information to process. If you have any questions, ask away. I hope this helps. Good luck with your journey and best of luck in school!