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What is the best way to cope with being far from home in college?
I'm from Kansas going to Chicago and I've never had to deal with being so far from my family, let alone pretty much everyone I know.
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A’s Answer
The best way to cope with being far from home in college is to build a new sense of "home" by creating routines, finding a supportive community, and staying connected with loved ones. Join clubs, study groups, or cultural organizations where you can meet people with shared interests or values. Set regular times to call or video chat with your family—it helps ease the distance. At the same time, explore your new city, decorate your space with things that remind you of home, and be patient with yourself as you adjust. Feeling homesick is normal, but over time, Chicago can start to feel like a second home too.
Thank you, this is really helpful.
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April’s Answer
I am sure you can check in at home as much as you need and call often. You need to get busy finding what you like and what you hate. The more things you try and the more fun you have, the easier it will be. If you are anything like me, I was home sick living 20 mins away! Parents know you have to go live your own life. But there is nothing wrong with staying close, even if you are far apart. Now is the time to have adventures and find out about yourself. Don't rush into anything too quick and if it isn't fun or getting you closer to your goals, do something else. Life is too short to be sad. Go make memories that you can share with your family in 10 years. Pretty sure once you are 30, they can't ground you anymore.
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Megan’s Answer
After finishing college, I made a big move from Michigan to Oklahoma for work. It was tough at first, knowing I'd probably only see my family during the holidays. But this challenge helped me step out of my comfort zone, make new friends, and find creative ways to stay in touch with my family. The good news is, as a college student, you'll be surrounded by others who might feel homesick too!
Here are some things I did:
Say yes when invited to things by others! It's a great way to go to things you may not usually go to and make friends. And if you don't want to do go to something you don't have to...unless you get invited.
Connect with your advisor. They are there to help you with not just your course load, but also managing college life. They can refer you to other resources that your college offers.
Find regular time to connect with your family. For me, the commute to work is the same time as my mom's, so we talk on the phone during that time. It's easy and built in - you'll find what works best for your relationships.
Find your routine things (even better if they have built in opportunities to build community)! For example, if you normally go to church on Sundays, find a church nearby and go on Sundays. Having a routine will help when it feels like the homesickness is too much.
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Patricia’s Answer
Study hard and call home often. You can always write to your friends. You'll make new friends in no time, just don't party because you can ruin your chances for a positive college experience. There are plenty of extracurricular activities. Did you play sports in high school or play in the band? If you played in band, there is likely a community band nearby that would welcome your talent.