Mia-Kristen
My friend would like to go to and out-of-state college but her mother is worried about her safety. Is there any advice you could give that would help convince her mother to let her pursue an out-of-state school?
My friend also faces financial problems. Her mother has low-income and her father is out of the picture for various reasons. The father has been in trouble with the law and there is currently a restraining order against him from the family. He has never felt the need to provide the family with money even though he has lots of it to spend for himself. This is one reason why her mother does not want to send her away. She is worried that the father will follow her and do something bad, and she would have no way of knowing about it. #college #safety
4 answers
Ken Simmons
Ken’s Answer
It really does not matter what school you attend, as the most important factors are how well you do with the school work, which is an indication to an employer about what kind of employee you will be, and the effort that you put forth in your networking to set up networking connections that will help you throughout your education/career journey. Here is an important video for you to watch: ## http://www.ted.com/talks/julie_lythcott_haims_how_to_raise_successful_kids_without_over_parenting?utm_campaign=social&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=facebook.com&utm_content=talk&utm_term=education ##
Here are some good tips for reducing college costs:
http://www.educationplanner.org/students/paying-for-school/ways-to-pay/reduce-college-costs.shtml
Ken Simmons
Spruce Cox
Spruce’s Answer
Hey Mia-Kristen,
Your concern about your friend is commendable, but I can only respond to your friend’s interest in going to school and what she might study. That has to be the main reason a particular school is chosen, whether in-state or out. Perhaps you can help your friend most by keeping college and career discussions separate from other topics because neither one is a solution for the other. God bless.
Bronwyn Acosta
Bronwyn’s Answer
My daughter is a Freshman at an out-of-state school. One of the things we felt strongly about was her access to us (bus or plane), so a campus where she was in the middle of nowhere and unable to get home fairly quickly (or vice-versa) was not really an option. That might give her mother some peace of mind. Maybe they can do some research and determine a time limit (for example, XX hours away by bus or plane) that they are both comfortable with.
I completely understand her fear for her daughter, but at some point, her daughter needs to be on her own for her own growth and happiness. When she gets to school, she should immediately talk to her advisor as well as campus police about her potential situation. Most campuses are quite adept with security measures and they are required to maintain privacy for her.
Best of luck!
