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Insomniac Roomate

How to tell my roomate that she cannot wake me up at 3 am and organize the room at that time?
I should breeth in/breeth out first!!!

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Daniela’s Answer

Hi Paulina!


Living with an inconsiderate roommate, unfortunately, is all too common of a problem for college students. It is especially stressful when living in the close confines of a dorm room. While it may be tempting to be inconsiderate too, that usually is not the best course of action.


These are some guidelines for dealing with an inconsiderate roommate:

Daniela recommends the following next steps:

Ask nicely. Another tried and true method is ask the roommate to discontinue the behavior. Now if the roommate is someone who didn’t realize the behavior was offensive, the roommate may be willing to change and may be grateful that it was brought to the attention of the roommate.
Confront the behavior. If after trying to ask politely for the behavior to stop, it may be necessary to confront the roommate and the behavior directly. Be clear that the behavior needs to stop with no wiggle room for maybe.
Talk to resident assistant. If nothing has worked yet, then the next step is to visit with the floor resident assistant. That student should be able to give advice or even visit with the offending roommate to remedy the problem.
Talk to the hall supervisor. Taking a higher level on the chain of command can lead a student to the hall director or supervisor. There is usually some type of complaint policy to be followed. If claims are justified, then the roommate may be required to deal with the hall director. This may lead to changing roommates as it is difficult to live together once it has accelerated to this point.
https://www.startschoolnow.org/how-to-deal-with-inconsiderate-college-roommate/
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Rhonda’s Answer

You need to have a sit-down conversation about 'quiet hours'. I completely understand about being a night owl and having an energy burst in the middle of the night, but being roommates means respecting the other person and not just considering yourself. If there is any contention, perhaps having a third party will be beneficial.
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Nikita’s Answer

Hi Paulina,

Sorry about your roommate situation! I would recommend that you have a conversation with her about her nighttime habits if you have not already because it is completely possible she doesn't know how loud she's being. However, what is important to remember is, if she does not respond well to your initial conversation and keeps doing things at night, you should continue up the ladder to your RA, if that doesn't work go to their supervisor, and if that doesn't work, try to request a room change. You deserve to have a good night's sleep and it is crucial to actually get good work done in college. Good luck!
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