Valeria
What should you do if a child is being bad and you tell the parents but they ignore it and the kid is still being bad.
I'm an 8th grade student who would like to be a child care worker in the future. I really like children but I would like to know more of what I should prepare for in the future. #Childcareworker
2 answers
Cleo Elbilia
Cleo’s Answer
I would try to go directly to the source. Maybe engage with the child and try to understand, why are they misbehaving? Could it be for attention or love? Are they trying to make themselves feel better? These are difficult questions that he/she might not even know. Try to make the person see how their actions is impacting others but also themselves, ie: If he/she is being mean/rude, it will not only hurt someone's feelings but it will also make this person seem less approachable. As a result, they may have difficulty making new friends. Most actions have reasoning, only they can be difficult to understand. Try to help rather than reprimand and always encourage positive behaviours.
Hello Valeria!
Like it was said above, children can be difficult at times because they don’t know how to properly show their emotions. Maybe the child is upset that their parents are gone or simply want some time to themselves. There’s some type of root cause to the problem. I would try to understand what the child is feeling.
Also it’s important to keep a professional attitude when working with children, especially in the classroom. I would suggest to not call children “bad” because they aren’t bad, just feeling emotions they don’t know how to express. When having to work with a difficult child, it is easy to get frustrated. Especially since you have communicated your concerns to the parents. I know you can solve the problem!
Good Luck!
Julianne Hallett
ambrosia Tijerina
ambrosia’s Answer
so some ideas to your question as to what should you do if the parents are not addressing the issue. This is a hard topic as it is someone's child we are discussing. One reason the child could be acting out or misbehaving is that they are performing these acts as a cry for attention. Depending on the child's age they may not know how to express their emotions or use the right words for what they are wanting. You should try getting on their eye level so they do not feel you are acting like someone who is bigger and more their equal and ask them what they would like. Now I know call me crazy but this does make the child feel heard even if they do not say anything. You or the parents can try having the child draw or point to what it is they are wanting. Work on their words and identifying the feeling they are having during the action they are performing. What I mean by this is, if they are on the floor crying you get on the floor next to them and identify (hey ((child's name)) I see you are crying are you feeling sad? What made you sad or mad was it this... was it when I said this... ect) their feelings so they learn the emotions and then once you identify the feeling and the why you correct the problem and talk to them as they are human and talk about ways they could have expressed it differently.
Another example is if the child is running in the street screaming for not apparent reason to you (scary I know but it happens) and you grab them out of the street (still screaming) you gently set them down get to their eye level and talk to them. " now (child's name) you cannot run in the street and scream, I understand you are feeling mad or scared but you need to use your words and say I do not want to go in there or you need to use your words and tell me why you ran away." often times they are too young to talk which is why teaching them sign language is awesome! they can tell you or point to what it is they are trying to say. It is not that the child misbehaves but is trying to communicate the best way they know how and unfortunately is in the form of acting out.