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KAREN
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What can I do to boost my self-confidence when facing the public
A girl from Hong Kong that needs inspiration and encouragement #public-relations
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Daniel Indish
Process Improvements, Lean Six Sigma, Continuous Improvement, Operational Excellence, Manufacturing, Quality, Industrial Engineering
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Providence, Rhode Island
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Daniel’s Answer
Karen -
You've submitted a number of thoughtful questions. I hope you get great answers.
As others have recommended, I'd also suggest Public Speaking through Toastmasters International.
Hong Kong has a number of Clubs. The environment is friendly and supporting. There are a lot of resources and materials in various languages, including Mandarin. There is a special set of modules specifically related to Public Relations. You can visit and experience a meeting before you join. You can network and be welcome at any Toastmasters International Club in the world.
You can find a Club here.
https://www.toastmasters.org/find-a-club?q=Hong+Kong+SAR&radius=25&n=&advanced=0&latitude=22.3331&longitude=114.191&autocomplete=true
Please also check out this TED Talk from Amy Cuddy, “Your Body Language May Shape Who You Are”. Amy talks about power poses, including the “Wonder Woman” pose. The transcript is in 51 different languages.
https://www.ted.com/talks/amy_cuddy_your_body_language_may_shape_who_you_are/transcript?language=en
The more confident you act, the more confident you will actually become. It's worked for me as a shy Engineer. Good luck!
You've submitted a number of thoughtful questions. I hope you get great answers.
As others have recommended, I'd also suggest Public Speaking through Toastmasters International.
Hong Kong has a number of Clubs. The environment is friendly and supporting. There are a lot of resources and materials in various languages, including Mandarin. There is a special set of modules specifically related to Public Relations. You can visit and experience a meeting before you join. You can network and be welcome at any Toastmasters International Club in the world.
You can find a Club here.
https://www.toastmasters.org/find-a-club?q=Hong+Kong+SAR&radius=25&n=&advanced=0&latitude=22.3331&longitude=114.191&autocomplete=true
Please also check out this TED Talk from Amy Cuddy, “Your Body Language May Shape Who You Are”. Amy talks about power poses, including the “Wonder Woman” pose. The transcript is in 51 different languages.
https://www.ted.com/talks/amy_cuddy_your_body_language_may_shape_who_you_are/transcript?language=en
The more confident you act, the more confident you will actually become. It's worked for me as a shy Engineer. Good luck!
Rebecca Tang
Banking
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Hong Kong
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Rebecca’s Answer
I understand that it is not easy to deliver a speech / perform in front of the public. You may feel nervous and stress.
Below are a few suggestions:
1. You need to have a good preparation. E.g. if you plan to deliver a speech. You have to practice it very fluently, Same for other performance.
2. Practice it in front of the mirror
3. Try to record it and review your performance. It can help you to improve.
4. Do the rehearsal with a few audiences and seek for their comments.
5. When you perform, look at the far end of the audiences and focus on your performance. Don't think too much!
You can also consider to take some public speaking courses.
Hope this helps! Good Luck!
Below are a few suggestions:
1. You need to have a good preparation. E.g. if you plan to deliver a speech. You have to practice it very fluently, Same for other performance.
2. Practice it in front of the mirror
3. Try to record it and review your performance. It can help you to improve.
4. Do the rehearsal with a few audiences and seek for their comments.
5. When you perform, look at the far end of the audiences and focus on your performance. Don't think too much!
You can also consider to take some public speaking courses.
Hope this helps! Good Luck!
Lauren Gould
Licensed Dispensing Optician
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Powder Springs, Georgia
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Lauren’s Answer
Just remember that any flaws you may feel like you have are magnified in your own mind. Interactions you’ve had that you feel went badly probably went better than you think they did in your head. I’m sure you’re a wonderful, interesting person who has much to offer. Another way to build confidence is to speak on topics you are passionate and knowledgeable of. When you’re enjoying yourself, your enthusiasm will rub off on others.
William Powers
Sales Supervisor/Brand Lead
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Chicago, Illinois
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William’s Answer
Hey Karen! First and foremost, know you are an awesome individual who has a lot to bring to the world, sometimes we just need a bit of extra time figuring out what makes us unique! One of the biggest tools in working on that public self-confidence is spending time thinking about things you thoroughly enjoy then practicing talking about them. This helps because you get in the routine about talking about things that genuinely make you excited, beginning to associate that feeling with communicating. It may sound silly, but I promise it helps. Continue to search for opportunities to chat about things you like with people. When people see you calm and excited about things, it immediately boosts your credibility and likability. We as people love seeing other people enjoy themselves. Start there and see how it goes!
(I will also always support a public speaking course, but I know they can be intimidating. So hopefully this can serve as an alternative!)
(I will also always support a public speaking course, but I know they can be intimidating. So hopefully this can serve as an alternative!)
Janice Davidson
GVP HR
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Nyack, New York
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Janice’s Answer
Take a public speaking course and recognize that most people are nervous when speaking to a group. The trick is to make believe you are speaking to one person - a friend- about a subject you are well versed in.
Natasha Clark
Journalist
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Alexandria, Virginia
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Natasha’s Answer
Hi there,
As a person who loves public speaking - and yet still gets nervous when I'm being introduced - what I have come to learn is the following:
1. If you focus on the information you're delivering, your less likely to be nervous. We all tend to get nervous because we're worried about how we look, how we're coming off to the audience, what do people think ... when you focus on the information you're relaying and your excitement for the topic, it helps the self-consciousness disappear.
2. Practice the heck out of your talk and then practice some more. When you have the information down, then you can have a conversation and ad-lib rather than trying to deliver a speech verbatim like you're reading a book report. You can be more spontaneous.
3. Dress comfortably and wear something that makes you feel like a million bucks. When you look good, you feel good. And, when you're comfortable, you don't have to get distracted by shoe pinching, or your shirt riding up, etc.
4. I learned this from entrepreneur Dan Lok, have your "game on" movement. Right before I prepare to speak, I snap my fingers. It's a mental "switch" that I turn on to signal to myself that I'm "on" now. Think of it like the song a boxer walks out to. It's meant to pump you up and tell your adrenaline, "game on." Sometimes I also listen to particular songs through my headphones before I hit the stage.
5. Remember that no one knows what you're going to say. So the only expectations you have to meet are your own. Yes, they're looking at you, but they're listening to you. Rock your content. Let the rest fall at the wayside.
6. Lastly, simply be yourself. People dig people who are authentic, unique, and most importantly, who make them feel good.
1. Practice engaging with a new person via an online social platform such as LinkedIn or OnMogul.
2. Jot down a few things that make you feel good: a favorite sweater, lipstick, a hair style. It's OK to have a signature go-to look that can give you a confidence boost, I used to work with a woman who only wore purple tops. It was her power color.
3. You can join a public speaking group: Toastmaster's is a popular public speaking group. You may benefit from a woman's group like Speaker Sisterhood (speakersisterhood.com).
As a person who loves public speaking - and yet still gets nervous when I'm being introduced - what I have come to learn is the following:
1. If you focus on the information you're delivering, your less likely to be nervous. We all tend to get nervous because we're worried about how we look, how we're coming off to the audience, what do people think ... when you focus on the information you're relaying and your excitement for the topic, it helps the self-consciousness disappear.
2. Practice the heck out of your talk and then practice some more. When you have the information down, then you can have a conversation and ad-lib rather than trying to deliver a speech verbatim like you're reading a book report. You can be more spontaneous.
3. Dress comfortably and wear something that makes you feel like a million bucks. When you look good, you feel good. And, when you're comfortable, you don't have to get distracted by shoe pinching, or your shirt riding up, etc.
4. I learned this from entrepreneur Dan Lok, have your "game on" movement. Right before I prepare to speak, I snap my fingers. It's a mental "switch" that I turn on to signal to myself that I'm "on" now. Think of it like the song a boxer walks out to. It's meant to pump you up and tell your adrenaline, "game on." Sometimes I also listen to particular songs through my headphones before I hit the stage.
5. Remember that no one knows what you're going to say. So the only expectations you have to meet are your own. Yes, they're looking at you, but they're listening to you. Rock your content. Let the rest fall at the wayside.
6. Lastly, simply be yourself. People dig people who are authentic, unique, and most importantly, who make them feel good.
Natasha recommends the following next steps:
Darlene Owens
Employee Volunteerism
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Austin, Texas
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Darlene’s Answer
Hi there!
Best advice I received when it comes to public speaking is to know the material you're presenting like the back of your hand and be yourself. Don't be afraid to bring notecards for reference, but don't read the material....its important to make some eye contact with the audience to connect.
If its a more personal subject you're presenting, nobody knows the material better than you! :)
Many folks, including myself, are nervous when in comes to public speaking so trust me you are not alone!
Best of luck to you!
Best advice I received when it comes to public speaking is to know the material you're presenting like the back of your hand and be yourself. Don't be afraid to bring notecards for reference, but don't read the material....its important to make some eye contact with the audience to connect.
If its a more personal subject you're presenting, nobody knows the material better than you! :)
Many folks, including myself, are nervous when in comes to public speaking so trust me you are not alone!
Best of luck to you!
Olivia Pompeu
Communications Advisor
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São Paulo, Brazil
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Olivia’s Answer
Hi Karen!
Right off the bat, there's no better boost for self-confidence than knowing your topic of presentation. Own the information to be shared. Really study the topic over and over, present it to yourself first, then to friends or relatives, practice makes perfect! And be yourself! An audience can sense when people are not being authentic or robotic, so no one is expecting perfection but authenticity.
Hope readers can pursue fulfilling career paths!
Best,
Olivia
Right off the bat, there's no better boost for self-confidence than knowing your topic of presentation. Own the information to be shared. Really study the topic over and over, present it to yourself first, then to friends or relatives, practice makes perfect! And be yourself! An audience can sense when people are not being authentic or robotic, so no one is expecting perfection but authenticity.
Hope readers can pursue fulfilling career paths!
Best,
Olivia