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what can i do to be able to talk to people
I am a strong and dependable person. I am a little shy when it comes to talking to people and get nervous but I do anyway. i can do take hard but true advice. #career
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Kyle shyness is actually the wrong perception of your situation. If you criticize yourself too much, most probably you will end up being a shy person.
FIND YOUR STRENGTHS – Another way to overcome shyness is by boosting your confidence with your strengths. It is advised to know your strengths well in order to best analyze the situation and being aware of the fact that you have the capability to do it. When you know that you are capable of doing something or you possess the talent, then it becomes quite easy for you to perform any given task. We all have unique qualities and different ways of expressing ourselves during different situations. The need is to analyze the thing that you can take on any situation. It’s important to know and fully accept the things we do well, even if they differ from the norm. If everyone was the same, the world would be a pretty boring place, everyone has their own set of strength and weakness that makes us interesting.
YOU'RE NOT ALONE – Overcoming your shyness will take some time. Take one incident at a time. Talk to yourself – “I won’t feel shy in this situation.” This could help if you talk to yourself before going into a situation, think of it as a way of starting a conversation. The key is to take one event at a time and be master of that event instead of trying to focus too much on forever change. One of the best ways to overcome shyness is to make it a habit of speaking to everyone and increase your social network. Communicate as much as possible. Since you need to have the confidence to be able to speak to new people, hence you need to speak to a lot of people to build enough confidence level that when you meet some new people; you will not hesitate to talk to them. Ask questions if you are in a gathering. It’s a great way to know people and strike a conversation. This could be an effective way to overcome your shyness.
I hope this will help you reach a new level in your professional and personal life Kyle.
FIND YOUR STRENGTHS – Another way to overcome shyness is by boosting your confidence with your strengths. It is advised to know your strengths well in order to best analyze the situation and being aware of the fact that you have the capability to do it. When you know that you are capable of doing something or you possess the talent, then it becomes quite easy for you to perform any given task. We all have unique qualities and different ways of expressing ourselves during different situations. The need is to analyze the thing that you can take on any situation. It’s important to know and fully accept the things we do well, even if they differ from the norm. If everyone was the same, the world would be a pretty boring place, everyone has their own set of strength and weakness that makes us interesting.
YOU'RE NOT ALONE – Overcoming your shyness will take some time. Take one incident at a time. Talk to yourself – “I won’t feel shy in this situation.” This could help if you talk to yourself before going into a situation, think of it as a way of starting a conversation. The key is to take one event at a time and be master of that event instead of trying to focus too much on forever change. One of the best ways to overcome shyness is to make it a habit of speaking to everyone and increase your social network. Communicate as much as possible. Since you need to have the confidence to be able to speak to new people, hence you need to speak to a lot of people to build enough confidence level that when you meet some new people; you will not hesitate to talk to them. Ask questions if you are in a gathering. It’s a great way to know people and strike a conversation. This could be an effective way to overcome your shyness.
I hope this will help you reach a new level in your professional and personal life Kyle.
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Sandra’s Answer
It can always be intimidating to talk to someone you may not know well! Try to remember to smile. The best way to start a conversation by offering a genuine compliment, commenting on something you may have in common with them or ask a question.
- Example of compliments: If they're wearing something you like (your favorite sports team, college, high school, tv show, their dog). Make sure the compliment is genuine!
- Example of commenting on something you may have in common: An observation such as the weather
- Question: Ask for information (directions, opinion, how they are doing)
Remember that we are always highly critical of ourselves so even if you seem nervous, people will not notice. I hope that makes you feel less nervous!
- Example of compliments: If they're wearing something you like (your favorite sports team, college, high school, tv show, their dog). Make sure the compliment is genuine!
- Example of commenting on something you may have in common: An observation such as the weather
- Question: Ask for information (directions, opinion, how they are doing)
Remember that we are always highly critical of ourselves so even if you seem nervous, people will not notice. I hope that makes you feel less nervous!
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Nadia’s Answer
Hi Kyle - Great question, and one I can relate to myself! With the amount of business networking or calls with customers, I still get a little nervous kicking off a conversation.
The advice given above is great! I have a few things to add....
Be authentically you and ask questions you're genuinely curious about!
Outside of "small talk"/ice-breakers, here are a few questions you can lean on to get a conversation rolling:
- What are you excited about right now?
- Who have you connected with lately?
- Where do you see yourself in the next few years?
To keep the conversation going, make sure you're really hearing the other person to better understand where they are coming from, and it never hurts to say "oh that's interesting, tell me more...".
The advice given above is great! I have a few things to add....
Be authentically you and ask questions you're genuinely curious about!
Outside of "small talk"/ice-breakers, here are a few questions you can lean on to get a conversation rolling:
- What are you excited about right now?
- Who have you connected with lately?
- Where do you see yourself in the next few years?
Nadia recommends the following next steps: