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Who am I ?
I am almost clueless and 'goalless', if such a word even exists , and I am also not in a situation where I am accepting my wellwishers' good suggestions about my life .
What can I even call myself and What would be the best to do -
Continue thinking about why I am not able to identify myself or atleast try pursuing what I want through those suggestions that could help me? #career
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Cynthia’s Answer
There are times in life where we all feel lost, and there is nothing wrong with that. Trying to figure out what you are looking to do for the rest of your life is daunting. However, it is really hard to move forward when you don't know where you are going. I would recommend looking for easy short term goals: what do you want to achieve before Friday? or even what do you think you would like to complete today? Set short goals that you can mark as successful to bring you to that mindset.
I hope all the best for you :D
I hope all the best for you :D
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Canan’s Answer
Hello DD M, Agree with some comments by others that it is not unusual to feel less motivated and unclear sometimes. You are not alone in this. Some guidance we would offer would include first taking small bitesize steps to improve the way you feel day to day. For example, ensure you have structure to each day, take some exercise daily, be mindful of your diet, as these factors may influence your mood and be sure expose yourself to new activities which you may not have tried before as this will help you in understanding what interests you,. You are more likely to be successful if you pursue a path which genuinely interests you. The internet offers a wealth of resource, once you have narrowed down your key areas of interest, perform research and be confident in reaching out different educational or corporate organisations to explore opportunities they may have on offer or to simply ask questions.
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Dan’s Answer
It is okay to feel the way you feel -- of being goal-less. I would recommend just improving yourself in the basic facets of life including whatever you enjoy doing. For example, go to the gym, study the general subjects required for all majors, hang out with your friends, join clubs that interest you, etc. Just do it consistently (multiple times a week for months if not years) and you'll eventually learn enough about yourself.
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Donna’s Answer
Cynthia;
Know that you are not alone. Don't compare your situation to others around you, you are a unique individual with a purpose for your future, that just hasn't been discovered yet. Like Canaan replied above set small achievable goals.
1. Perform a self-assessment.
How are your grades? Is college an option? Is a vocational school and option? Is the military and option?
What are your interests?
2. Identify your must-haves.
3. Make a list of jobs to explore.
4. Research jobs and employers.
5. Get training (if you need it) and update your resume.
6. Find and apply for jobs.
7. Continue growing and learning.
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Know that you are not alone. Don't compare your situation to others around you, you are a unique individual with a purpose for your future, that just hasn't been discovered yet. Like Canaan replied above set small achievable goals.
1. Perform a self-assessment.
How are your grades? Is college an option? Is a vocational school and option? Is the military and option?
What are your interests?
2. Identify your must-haves.
3. Make a list of jobs to explore.
4. Research jobs and employers.
5. Get training (if you need it) and update your resume.
6. Find and apply for jobs.
7. Continue growing and learning.
Donna recommends the following next steps:
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Shruthi’s Answer
Hi,
It's not uncommon to feel lost or 'goal-less', in today's age everyone throws opinions on what you should do or should be doing but at this age it's important to understand yourself and what really makes you happy. Remember , a lot of people can have goals and they end up making a career, but how many of them can actually truly say that this is exactly what they've always wanted to do. So take a break, start writing/ journaling, browse through linkedin or online platforms to do a couple of courses, you'll eventually end up getting interested in something..... follow your instincts and do what makes you happy!
Good luck!
It's not uncommon to feel lost or 'goal-less', in today's age everyone throws opinions on what you should do or should be doing but at this age it's important to understand yourself and what really makes you happy. Remember , a lot of people can have goals and they end up making a career, but how many of them can actually truly say that this is exactly what they've always wanted to do. So take a break, start writing/ journaling, browse through linkedin or online platforms to do a couple of courses, you'll eventually end up getting interested in something..... follow your instincts and do what makes you happy!
Good luck!
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Dexter’s Answer
Hi DD,
Sometimes, I too get in stretches where I question who I am and am unsure of the answer. For me, the best way to get out of it is to start small, and inane.
To start, I usually get in this funk when I'm at a crossroads and I'm unsure of what to do or where to go. And it seems like everyone else has it figured out. This then makes me focus the question inward and I start asking myself why I can't choose like others and why I feel like I'm struggling to find an answer or (conversely) struggling to choose one out of an infinite amount of answers.
To find myself again, I start small. I ask myself things like, hey, "Do I like my water cold or lukewarm?", "Do I like pizza today?", "Can I walk 50 steps today?", etc.
The point here, although it seems silly, is to allow myself to form concrete answers for myself. For me, I need these foundations to ask more difficult and considered questions, like, "What is my favorite song at the moment?", "What is my favorite food?", "What do I feel like eating right now?", "If I had a million dollars, what would I buy?", etc.
These questions are still a little silly, but these are building blocks for the real questions I want answered. These seem inane, but are questions with an infinite set of answers. Like the big tough questions that made me question myself in the first place.
Then yeah, I start getting more focused with questions like, "What classes did I enjoy the most? Like, which ones did I look forward to?", "Which classes did I get the best grades in?", "If I were to pursue X career, would I enjoy my lifestyle that it would afford me?", etc.
Then hopefully, it'll help guide you in a direction that will help you choose your career. For many of the more difficult questions, you won't have all the information in front of you. And that's okay. You should definitely reach out to the resources that are available to you (family, friends, this website, wikipedia, etc) and try to find more information, but at the end of the day, sometimes, it's best to make a decision and move forward even if your comprehension is incomplete. Just don't marry yourself to your answer so that you have the wiggle room to change your mind at a later time, which is totally fine. At least, it worked out for me.
I wish you the best of luck DD!
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Dexter
Sometimes, I too get in stretches where I question who I am and am unsure of the answer. For me, the best way to get out of it is to start small, and inane.
To start, I usually get in this funk when I'm at a crossroads and I'm unsure of what to do or where to go. And it seems like everyone else has it figured out. This then makes me focus the question inward and I start asking myself why I can't choose like others and why I feel like I'm struggling to find an answer or (conversely) struggling to choose one out of an infinite amount of answers.
To find myself again, I start small. I ask myself things like, hey, "Do I like my water cold or lukewarm?", "Do I like pizza today?", "Can I walk 50 steps today?", etc.
The point here, although it seems silly, is to allow myself to form concrete answers for myself. For me, I need these foundations to ask more difficult and considered questions, like, "What is my favorite song at the moment?", "What is my favorite food?", "What do I feel like eating right now?", "If I had a million dollars, what would I buy?", etc.
These questions are still a little silly, but these are building blocks for the real questions I want answered. These seem inane, but are questions with an infinite set of answers. Like the big tough questions that made me question myself in the first place.
Then yeah, I start getting more focused with questions like, "What classes did I enjoy the most? Like, which ones did I look forward to?", "Which classes did I get the best grades in?", "If I were to pursue X career, would I enjoy my lifestyle that it would afford me?", etc.
Then hopefully, it'll help guide you in a direction that will help you choose your career. For many of the more difficult questions, you won't have all the information in front of you. And that's okay. You should definitely reach out to the resources that are available to you (family, friends, this website, wikipedia, etc) and try to find more information, but at the end of the day, sometimes, it's best to make a decision and move forward even if your comprehension is incomplete. Just don't marry yourself to your answer so that you have the wiggle room to change your mind at a later time, which is totally fine. At least, it worked out for me.
I wish you the best of luck DD!
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Dexter
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Christopher’s Answer
Really good answers already and don't worry about figuring out your entire life immediately. Regardless how you plan it, my guess is it will change along the way no matter what you do today. I agree with trying to understand, and physically write down, the things you enjoy in life. It doesn't matter if these things are very different and misaligned. The first thing to do is find what makes you happiest. There are a multitude of ways to form that into career choices. You can take a gap year after school and travel a bit to see what interests you in the world (I like the PeaceCorp mention), or just volunteer locally if global travel is frightening to you. Once you hone in on something interesting you can start to evaluate what types of roles exist in those fields. Then to further drill down to the skills required to get one of those roles. From there you can attack how you get those skills either in schooling or in on the job training. Just remember, historically it is generally accepted that people will change functions rather drastically about three times during their professional careers. I'm a good example. I started working in Physical Therapy (Physio in other regions), and now work in high technology/software engineering. You'll be led somewhere along the way.