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what is the reason for living
i need a reason to keep going in life because sometimes I really don't see any reason and cant make it #life
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Gloria’s Answer
Hi shayla,
You are not alone in this feeling. It can be overwhelming. I know it can be difficult to believe, but low times do pass. First of all, I would say, reach out to those in your life and ask for help. If you cannot go to your family, there are other resources available to you. Make sure that you avoid comparing your life to those of others. It is most important that you compare yourself only to yourself. This was something that took me a long time. I am a person who is 50, never married and with no children. By many standards, people may wonder what I have to live for. And yet I know my work in this life is not done. When I am at my lowest, I volunteer in support of others on platforms like this one.
What keeps me going every day is the potential of the life in front of me. I am a big dreamer. Dreams are not easy to reach and can feel very far away. So every year, I make resolutions. This keeps me focused on the near term, what I have to do in this year to reach my overall goal. And my yearly goals can be broken into smaller parts where I am focusing on something every month. So what am I talking about? A few years ago, I decided that I wanted to be a better photographer. I signed up for a free, year long class that had weekly assignments. Having those small things to do helped me feel like I was working on my goal each week. I have used my improved confidence in photography in my volunteering. I have taken photos for a local non-profit to use in their marketing. So my photography is helping others too.
Gloria
You are not alone in this feeling. It can be overwhelming. I know it can be difficult to believe, but low times do pass. First of all, I would say, reach out to those in your life and ask for help. If you cannot go to your family, there are other resources available to you. Make sure that you avoid comparing your life to those of others. It is most important that you compare yourself only to yourself. This was something that took me a long time. I am a person who is 50, never married and with no children. By many standards, people may wonder what I have to live for. And yet I know my work in this life is not done. When I am at my lowest, I volunteer in support of others on platforms like this one.
What keeps me going every day is the potential of the life in front of me. I am a big dreamer. Dreams are not easy to reach and can feel very far away. So every year, I make resolutions. This keeps me focused on the near term, what I have to do in this year to reach my overall goal. And my yearly goals can be broken into smaller parts where I am focusing on something every month. So what am I talking about? A few years ago, I decided that I wanted to be a better photographer. I signed up for a free, year long class that had weekly assignments. Having those small things to do helped me feel like I was working on my goal each week. I have used my improved confidence in photography in my volunteering. I have taken photos for a local non-profit to use in their marketing. So my photography is helping others too.
Gloria
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Marilia’s Answer
Hello Shayla,
Happy to have this opportunity to connect with you. Life is a continuous challenge. In my opinion we live everyday to be a better person then yesterday, to improve in our role personal and professional ways, to find ways to address our dreams, to support the ones that we love, to be happy with what we were able to accomplish, even if it was a very small step in the journey. I wish that you can look at your life with kind eyes, see how blessed you are to be alive and that you have every day an opportunity to start again your path!
I hope this will help you and I wish you the best!
Happy to have this opportunity to connect with you. Life is a continuous challenge. In my opinion we live everyday to be a better person then yesterday, to improve in our role personal and professional ways, to find ways to address our dreams, to support the ones that we love, to be happy with what we were able to accomplish, even if it was a very small step in the journey. I wish that you can look at your life with kind eyes, see how blessed you are to be alive and that you have every day an opportunity to start again your path!
I hope this will help you and I wish you the best!
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Rebecca’s Answer
I am surprised that you have this question. Do you feel frustration or just curiosity? There are plenty of things that could happen in your life time. You can view it as an big adventure.
In your life time, you have your family, relatives, friends, etc. They love you without any reason. You will love someone to form your own family and your children. The happiness you must experience yourself.
On the other hand, you may have something you are interested to do, e.g. your hobbies, hanging out with friends, entertainment, etc. This would give different kind of fun.
Having said that, you may also need to study in schools to learn the knowledge and work to support your living. But, you can develop your career that you can have a sense of satisfaction.
Though life brings you love, fun, happiness, sense of satisfaction, etc., you may experience other emotions like sad, frustration, desperate, etc. sometime. That's why I said it is an adventure.,
Bear in mind we only live once. Enjoy your exciting journey!
Hope this helps! Good Luck!
In your life time, you have your family, relatives, friends, etc. They love you without any reason. You will love someone to form your own family and your children. The happiness you must experience yourself.
On the other hand, you may have something you are interested to do, e.g. your hobbies, hanging out with friends, entertainment, etc. This would give different kind of fun.
Having said that, you may also need to study in schools to learn the knowledge and work to support your living. But, you can develop your career that you can have a sense of satisfaction.
Though life brings you love, fun, happiness, sense of satisfaction, etc., you may experience other emotions like sad, frustration, desperate, etc. sometime. That's why I said it is an adventure.,
Bear in mind we only live once. Enjoy your exciting journey!
Hope this helps! Good Luck!
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Lauren’s Answer
Shalya, I just want to thank you for being brave and asking this question, as I know it can feel hopeless, and like no one is listening sometimes.
But people are- on this site and in your life you can find help, even if you feel you currently don't have someone to lean on.
I highly recommend finding a support group in your area, connecting with a community organization, or as others have suggested- share your fears and concerns with friends and family. They might not know how to react at first, but what is for certain is that they want you to stay around!
If you are having suicidal thoughts or ideation, I urge you to call the National Suicide Prevention hotline: 800-273-8255
The best tip I have for you to do immediately is this: consider what you can do, create, and contribute to society. Can you cook a delicious meal? Dance well? Are you good at making up jokes? or playing music? Are you a strong reader? Or someone who can do an equation in a wiz? While you might not have any of the skills I listed, I KNOW there is something you can do that others cannot.
Take the time to appreciate what you do have that others are not as fortunate to have... are you able to eat healthfully? Do you have family that supports you? Are you physically well and able-bodied?
If there is something that is stressing you out at this moment, ask yourself: "Will this stressor be a big deal for me in 3 years? In 5?" If you think in 5 years you may have completely forgotten this stressful moment, acknowledge that! Sit with your feelings, but recognize that they are temporary, not permanent.
You can and will find meaning, once you open yourself up to your endless possibilities. It can be hard to look at oneself and love everything you are, but I can guarantee that there is something you can do for others that can make them smile, make their life easier, and give you that "warm fuzzy feeling" of doing good. Your limit is your imagination! You can do it Shayla!
Reach out to Friends, Family, or a Support Group
Join a community organization, or give back in a way that makes you feel good
Ask yourself all the time "Will this (situation) matter in 5 years?"
Know that YOU have the power to build your future. If you need help, then you need to ask for it.
But people are- on this site and in your life you can find help, even if you feel you currently don't have someone to lean on.
I highly recommend finding a support group in your area, connecting with a community organization, or as others have suggested- share your fears and concerns with friends and family. They might not know how to react at first, but what is for certain is that they want you to stay around!
If you are having suicidal thoughts or ideation, I urge you to call the National Suicide Prevention hotline: 800-273-8255
The best tip I have for you to do immediately is this: consider what you can do, create, and contribute to society. Can you cook a delicious meal? Dance well? Are you good at making up jokes? or playing music? Are you a strong reader? Or someone who can do an equation in a wiz? While you might not have any of the skills I listed, I KNOW there is something you can do that others cannot.
Take the time to appreciate what you do have that others are not as fortunate to have... are you able to eat healthfully? Do you have family that supports you? Are you physically well and able-bodied?
If there is something that is stressing you out at this moment, ask yourself: "Will this stressor be a big deal for me in 3 years? In 5?" If you think in 5 years you may have completely forgotten this stressful moment, acknowledge that! Sit with your feelings, but recognize that they are temporary, not permanent.
You can and will find meaning, once you open yourself up to your endless possibilities. It can be hard to look at oneself and love everything you are, but I can guarantee that there is something you can do for others that can make them smile, make their life easier, and give you that "warm fuzzy feeling" of doing good. Your limit is your imagination! You can do it Shayla!
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Very well-written advice. Really love this response!
Emma Robinson