how to combine relationship and school

Hi Samson!

That is a really tough question! I would strongly encourage you to practice time management skills. For example, you can give friday's and Saturday's to the relationship, and reserve Sunday's for studying. I know this sounds insane, but you really need to disconnect electronically while working on school. Close the e-mail, turn off the phone, etc. All those distractions are not good. Set times where you will check in with your girlfriend. For example, you can take a break every 2 hours and text her during that time.

Is your girlfriend also in school? You should be encouraging and supporting each other in this quest for professional development. Are you about to graduate HS or college? If she is making unreasonable demands on your time, you will need to explain it to her and stand firm. If it is you who is wanting to see her and talk to her, you will need to practice self-discipline, as mentioned above, by rewarding your studies with breaks where you contact her.

I hope some other young people will have more advice for you. In the meantime, please understand the importance of completing your schooling, and reaching your goals.

Best of luck!
Kim

That is a tricky question, so I will try my best!

I met my husband while we were going to different local university's, and sometimes it was tough! Remember that you are going to school for your future, and your significant other should be understanding of this. On the other hand, to make it work you also need to put in effort.

My suggestion is that you make special phone call dates, or when you do have free time, spend some of it with your other half.

To give you some encouragement, I have a friend who went to Japan to work while her boyfriend was going to school in the US. They did this for several years, but are now getting married in a few months.

Good luck to you!

That is a tough question. I think honesty and trust is what you need to focus on in a relationship. Be upfront that school takes a lot of your time and it is priority. Discuss with your girlfiend what the best times are to hang out, go out and spend time together. if you set expectations together than you are both on the same page. if one of you think you should spend everyday together that is not realistic unless you want your school work to suffer.

be honest and upfront with yourself first. what is most important to you? then have the conversation with your girlfriend. Communication is key in a relationship.

Good Luch it will all work out. what is meant to be will be.

You will need to focus on stress and time management. In order to manage stress you have to manage your time wisely. <span style="background-color: transparent;">You have to set a routine for yourself and stick to it for the most part. Once you get into the groove of a routine it will be much easier for you to manage your time and have enough time for everything you need to do (including relaxing). Make yourself to-do lists on a weekly basis, use Google calendar or a planner to keep track of events, deadlines, and due dates. In addition to setting a routine and sticking to it, plan out relaxing activities into your day. Or set aside a time, after everything is done for the day, that you can have "me" time. I have also personally found it essential to not only find time for myself but also make use of that time in a way that is best for me and my holistic wellness. I have found the HeadSpace app to be an essential tool in helping me relax and generally feel more relaxed throughout the day, Guided meditation, even if you have a busy schedule, will make you feel more at ease and relaxed throughout the day as a whole (not just when you have the time to relax and focus on that "me" time).</span>

<span style="background-color: transparent;">Set a routine.Use Google Calendar.Set aside Me TimeWrite weekly to-do lists and use a planner.Find a peaceful and restful activity that will help you feel relaxed.</span>

I really can't add anything to what Kim already said in her response. In life you will find you will often need time management skills to get things done in your life that you need to do. You can do both. You just have to figure out a schedule that will you time for school and time for your girlfriend

Elaine