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How do I get myself to be able to talk to a therapist?
I'm pretty shy and usually can't open up, but I need to because I have anger issues and I need to talk to someone but never be able to do it because I can't open up to anybody.
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Ebony’s Answer, CareerVillage.org Team
Hi Kayla,
Your courage and self-awareness are very clear. Not many know the areas where they need additional support, but you've taken it a step further and asked for help. Great job! You are headed in the right direction. In addition to what's been shared here, I'd like to encourage you to reach out to your campus/school supports. If your campus has counselors they may also take appointments to work through challenges like the ones you've stated. You can also consider that meeting with a counselor/therapist is much like any other relationship. It takes time to build trust. If you're willing to give them a chance it's likely the same courage you've displayed here will show up again.
Your courage and self-awareness are very clear. Not many know the areas where they need additional support, but you've taken it a step further and asked for help. Great job! You are headed in the right direction. In addition to what's been shared here, I'd like to encourage you to reach out to your campus/school supports. If your campus has counselors they may also take appointments to work through challenges like the ones you've stated. You can also consider that meeting with a counselor/therapist is much like any other relationship. It takes time to build trust. If you're willing to give them a chance it's likely the same courage you've displayed here will show up again.
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david’s Answer
You have already taken the first step: you confided here of your issue. Therapists are people who do not judge, and who have had extensive training in helping others, and have a personal commitment in this career. I encourage you to find someone, even if not a therapist, who will listen - not reply or advise - but just listen. Doing that will assure you that your issues are valid. Then do speak to someone training to help. I believe, within the first five minutes, you will wish you had done this earlier. Good luck to you.
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Alexa’s Answer
I understand you Kayla I was like that when I was younger too. Trusting is really hard, but first find someone who you really trust that you can talk to about anything confide in them and just have them listening to you. The more you confide in this person about your feelings. The more you will feel comfortable with a Therapist. Yes we don’t know the therapist so it might seem hard to trust them but remember they are here for you they are you listening buddy you can confide in a therapist as you did with the person you trust most. If you don’t have a person who you trust and could confide in. Start with Trusting yourself because Trusting yourself will help you in life it helps you be more confident in yourself also saying positive things to yourself like I’m brave, I’m smart, I’m happy. Thing’s like that will motivate you to be a more Confident person.
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Michael’s Answer
Hello Kayla! I’m Michael. There are many people who have a problem sharing information about themselves. There are a number of reasons for this as well! Being shy is just one of the reasons people don’t share! I would start with a prayer daily, asking for guidance and assistance in helping you to get that process started. There are some way’s to practice preparing yourself to be able to successfully learn to share what is going on with you! One way is to sit quietly in your room and state to yourself out loud what it is that you are wanting to say! You can record yourself doing this and play it back to see how it actually sounds when you are speaking about that which is bothering you. Next you can look in the mirror and do self talk, making sure you are saying what it is you need yourself or others to hear! These two are very basic but truly important first steps.
Once you are comfortable with the self talk, then you can take the next step and speak with a therapist! Look at the therapist as you did yourself in the mirror because the information you share with the therapist stays with the therapist as it does when you’re alone doing your self talk. The only difference is that the therapist may have some questions that you may need to answer so the feedback they give you can put you on the path to proper, professional care!
An angry person needs to be heard, understood and given the opportunity to say what they are feeling without being judged! Any first step you take to let the pressure(so to speak) be released is a positive first step to freedom from that which you hold inside that can destroy you!
All the best to you and I’m sure you will be able to free yourself from that which could harm you! Please feel free to let me know how you are doing.
Once you are comfortable with the self talk, then you can take the next step and speak with a therapist! Look at the therapist as you did yourself in the mirror because the information you share with the therapist stays with the therapist as it does when you’re alone doing your self talk. The only difference is that the therapist may have some questions that you may need to answer so the feedback they give you can put you on the path to proper, professional care!
An angry person needs to be heard, understood and given the opportunity to say what they are feeling without being judged! Any first step you take to let the pressure(so to speak) be released is a positive first step to freedom from that which you hold inside that can destroy you!
All the best to you and I’m sure you will be able to free yourself from that which could harm you! Please feel free to let me know how you are doing.