What is the key to working with people?

I worked as a consultant for a long time, and in consulting you have to work on a variety of projects with a variety of people. While I got along with the vast majority of people I worked with, there were certainly some points of friction along the way. That said, what I do know is that being able to work effectively with people that you may not normally get along with is an incredibly valuable skill. This is a topic that may take you years to master, but there are some things that you can practice now.

I'll share three short suggestions: be open, be patient, and be caring. Being open is mostly about listening better. We have a tendency to want to get our way too often, and as a result we stop listening to the other person, which creates misunderstanding and conflict. Practice active listening (asking probing questions, thinking about what people say in response) to understand others better, and avoid conflict. Be patient - This one is about dealing with people who are frustrated or tense. Patience doesn't mean that you wait for things to get done late. It means that you are always the last one to give in to heated emotion, or never at all. Being caring is the long-run strategy. If you care for the people you work with, you'll take action to improve their lives. This will help you to develop a reputation and values that will serve you for decades in your professional career.

I have had to work hard to develop these three skills, ever since high school. I still have a long way to go, but I'm pretty confident now that I can get along wel with the vast majority of professionals that I might have to work with in the future.

1. Listen to the person and understand their perspective (where they are coming from).


2. Be patient (it can be a challenge at times however, it can help in building solid relationships)

Listening. Patience. Don't take things personally.

Hi Jamal,

Always always start with a shared understanding. That is, start with a point where you all agree. Then, build the relationship. No matter how disagreeable the person is, there must be something you both agree on.

Good luck!
Oliver

The rule I follow when challenging situation with another co-worker appears is to always look through their eyes.

If you listen and understand others' situations, it's easier to adjust and work towards a common goal.

Sadly, I have only one answer: Just work with them! That is the way I deal with the students at my school.

Have a good day!
Toodles! :)

Usually, when you're working with someone, you're both working towards a common goal. However, their priorities may not be inline with yours. I find it easier to work with people once you understand their perspective and have open communication so that all concerns are laid out with the rationales behind them.