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How can I improve my confidence in class ?
Hello,my name is Mary,an at grade 11. I find it hard to participate in class questions,despite I know the answers, sometimes it's hard even to l contribute in group discussion.
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Jana Pallis M.A., MCHC
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Hi Maryan,
I first want to acknowledge how brave and assertive you were to reach out on this platform for some ideas to help you feel more confident and comfortable participating in class, especially since you typically know the answers. First, I want you to know you are not alone. I can remember feeling this way when I was your age and I also know so many girls who feel the same way you do. So, be sure you are not hard on yourself for this. Look at it as an opportunity to learn about yourself. So let's unpack this a little bit.
I have some questions for you to ask yourself: What is underneath you not feeling comfortable participating in class? You might initially say, I don't have the confidence. While that might be part of it, let's explore. You are likely not participating because you are afraid of something that might happen when you share. For example, are you afraid of being wrong? Are you afraid others will think you're smart or showing off? Are you shy and don't want the attention? Are you concerned someone will laugh or make fun of you?
After you have explored "why" you feel uncomfortable, you can tackle that specifically. Let's say you are afraid of being wrong. What has happened when someone else has answered a question or responded to the group and they were wrong? Did they survive being wrong? Probably so. It isn't easy being wrong but we are all wrong at times in our lives. It is part of being human and also a way to learn. It does not mean you are not smart or that others think you're not smart. It just means you got this one thing wrong. If someone does say something to you, tell them you don't mind being wrong because you like learning. You would be helping so many other kids who also feel nervous about participating.
Lots of times it can be hard for girls to show their classmates how smart they are. They don't want it to look like they're showing off and they don't want to be made fun of. Yet, being smart is an amazing, wonderful thing. It is a gift and something you can improve upon throughout your life. The world needs more smart, brave, and caring girls. If boys or others make fun of you, it is truly because they are admitting to themselves that you have something they don't or wish they had.
You have already demonstrated that you are brave and resourceful. Remember, it will take courage but you will feel so good about yourself after taking a step. Bravery and courage are strengths that you can nurture in yourself. The best way to be brave and courageous is to practice. Just tell yourself when you are in class that you're going to try to practice this -- like an experiment -- to see what happens. So raise that hand!!
I first want to acknowledge how brave and assertive you were to reach out on this platform for some ideas to help you feel more confident and comfortable participating in class, especially since you typically know the answers. First, I want you to know you are not alone. I can remember feeling this way when I was your age and I also know so many girls who feel the same way you do. So, be sure you are not hard on yourself for this. Look at it as an opportunity to learn about yourself. So let's unpack this a little bit.
I have some questions for you to ask yourself: What is underneath you not feeling comfortable participating in class? You might initially say, I don't have the confidence. While that might be part of it, let's explore. You are likely not participating because you are afraid of something that might happen when you share. For example, are you afraid of being wrong? Are you afraid others will think you're smart or showing off? Are you shy and don't want the attention? Are you concerned someone will laugh or make fun of you?
After you have explored "why" you feel uncomfortable, you can tackle that specifically. Let's say you are afraid of being wrong. What has happened when someone else has answered a question or responded to the group and they were wrong? Did they survive being wrong? Probably so. It isn't easy being wrong but we are all wrong at times in our lives. It is part of being human and also a way to learn. It does not mean you are not smart or that others think you're not smart. It just means you got this one thing wrong. If someone does say something to you, tell them you don't mind being wrong because you like learning. You would be helping so many other kids who also feel nervous about participating.
Lots of times it can be hard for girls to show their classmates how smart they are. They don't want it to look like they're showing off and they don't want to be made fun of. Yet, being smart is an amazing, wonderful thing. It is a gift and something you can improve upon throughout your life. The world needs more smart, brave, and caring girls. If boys or others make fun of you, it is truly because they are admitting to themselves that you have something they don't or wish they had.
You have already demonstrated that you are brave and resourceful. Remember, it will take courage but you will feel so good about yourself after taking a step. Bravery and courage are strengths that you can nurture in yourself. The best way to be brave and courageous is to practice. Just tell yourself when you are in class that you're going to try to practice this -- like an experiment -- to see what happens. So raise that hand!!
Abdul-Qayyum Dawud
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So many great answers have been posted already but one important thing I’ll add is that you should start engaging in interactions/discussions with your friends in and outside of class not necessarily on academics but every other thing; sports, fashion, films and so on. You’ll start to develop the confidence with those very people you sit in the same class with and that way you’ll feel just fine contributing in class.
Miste Anders-Clemons
The Innovative Job Search Strategist
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Miste’s Answer
This is an excellent query. Remember, even as we age, we might grapple with self-assurance. It's crucial to understand that building confidence is a journey and it's important to treat yourself with kindness throughout this journey.
While I'm not an expert in this area, I too have faced and continue to face this challenge. I'm sharing my thoughts on this matter to let you know that you're not alone and there are various strategies you can adopt.
1. Try to start your day by listening to affirmations focused on self-confidence, if you get the opportunity.
2. Playing affirmations while you sleep can also be beneficial, as they can positively influence your subconscious mind.
3. Display affirmations in places you frequently see, like your computer, inside your wallet, or as a wallpaper on your phone or computer.
4. Practice 'Mirror Work', which involves standing in front of a mirror and reciting affirmations.
5. Engage in journaling and write down affirmations. This can be a powerful and empowering exercise.
6. Think about pushing your comfort zone, perhaps by asking a question in class.
7. Consider offering your time to volunteer and help others. This can be a great way to build confidence.
While I'm not an expert in this area, I too have faced and continue to face this challenge. I'm sharing my thoughts on this matter to let you know that you're not alone and there are various strategies you can adopt.
1. Try to start your day by listening to affirmations focused on self-confidence, if you get the opportunity.
2. Playing affirmations while you sleep can also be beneficial, as they can positively influence your subconscious mind.
3. Display affirmations in places you frequently see, like your computer, inside your wallet, or as a wallpaper on your phone or computer.
4. Practice 'Mirror Work', which involves standing in front of a mirror and reciting affirmations.
5. Engage in journaling and write down affirmations. This can be a powerful and empowering exercise.
6. Think about pushing your comfort zone, perhaps by asking a question in class.
7. Consider offering your time to volunteer and help others. This can be a great way to build confidence.
Patrick Meyer
Executive - Data Analytics and AI
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Patrick’s Answer
Maryanne, first let me tell you that improving confidence in class is a common aspiration, and there are several strategies you can employ to enhance your comfort level and participation. You might initially consider preparing thoroughly before class. Such as practicing with a friend, your parents, or a sibling. When you have a solid understanding of the material, you'll likely feel more confident contributing to discussions. This could involve reviewing notes, doing additional readings, or seeking clarification on any uncertainties.
As I said, I think practice engaging in discussions with a friend or family member beforehand. This can help simulate the classroom environment and provide a low-pressure setting to express your thoughts. Additionally, consider joining study groups or forming one with classmates who share your academic interests. Collaborative learning environments often offer a supportive space for expressing ideas and can boost your confidence gradually.
Another effective approach is to set small, achievable goals. Start by making one contribution per class, whether it's answering a question or sharing a relevant insight. As you achieve these smaller goals, your confidence is likely to grow, making it easier to participate more frequently.
Reflect on your achievements and positive feedback. Recognize instances when you've successfully contributed to a discussion or answered a question correctly. Focusing on these positive experiences can help shift your mindset and build confidence over time.
Lastly, consider speaking with your teacher about your concerns. They may offer additional support, guidance, or even provide opportunities for you to participate in a less intimidating way, such as through written responses or smaller group settings.
Remember, building confidence is a gradual process, and it's okay to take small steps towards improvement. Be patient with yourself, celebrate your successes, and with consistent effort, you'll likely find your comfort and confidence in class steadily increasing.
As I said, I think practice engaging in discussions with a friend or family member beforehand. This can help simulate the classroom environment and provide a low-pressure setting to express your thoughts. Additionally, consider joining study groups or forming one with classmates who share your academic interests. Collaborative learning environments often offer a supportive space for expressing ideas and can boost your confidence gradually.
Another effective approach is to set small, achievable goals. Start by making one contribution per class, whether it's answering a question or sharing a relevant insight. As you achieve these smaller goals, your confidence is likely to grow, making it easier to participate more frequently.
Reflect on your achievements and positive feedback. Recognize instances when you've successfully contributed to a discussion or answered a question correctly. Focusing on these positive experiences can help shift your mindset and build confidence over time.
Lastly, consider speaking with your teacher about your concerns. They may offer additional support, guidance, or even provide opportunities for you to participate in a less intimidating way, such as through written responses or smaller group settings.
Remember, building confidence is a gradual process, and it's okay to take small steps towards improvement. Be patient with yourself, celebrate your successes, and with consistent effort, you'll likely find your comfort and confidence in class steadily increasing.
Stephania Exantus
Learning & Development Professional
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Stephania’s Answer
It's fantastic that you're curious and eager to enhance your skills! I used to guide students in the art of public speaking when I taught high school. If your school provides this optional course, I'd strongly suggest you give it a shot. Additionally, you might want to check out a local Youth Toastmasters group or even a regular Toastmasters gathering in your neighborhood and participate in their meetings. This can be an excellent platform to hone your public speaking abilities and boost your self-confidence. Here's a link where you can find Toastmaster's clubs - https://www.toastmasters.org/find-a-club.
The youth-oriented programs are often known as Gavel Club, so it might be useful to look for something similar around your locality too.
The youth-oriented programs are often known as Gavel Club, so it might be useful to look for something similar around your locality too.
Pius Ajayi DVM, Msc
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Just to add to the answers already provided, I think you should just go for it. Everyone is actually scared of talking in public and communication is a skill that can be learnt.
To overcome your fear, you need to take action by taking opportunities to communicate. For example when the teacher asks a question, see it as an opportunity to participate, and air your opinion.
You could also volunteer to take the presentation for your group assignment. In these scenarios, you’re talking to a small group about a topic you understand and you can show your knowledge and passion about the subject matter. For the presentations make sure you practice a lot so that when you get there, you’re so used to the presentation that it’s just like another practice session but it’s the final presentation. I hope this helps, and just like the NIKE slogan ‘Just do it!’
To overcome your fear, you need to take action by taking opportunities to communicate. For example when the teacher asks a question, see it as an opportunity to participate, and air your opinion.
You could also volunteer to take the presentation for your group assignment. In these scenarios, you’re talking to a small group about a topic you understand and you can show your knowledge and passion about the subject matter. For the presentations make sure you practice a lot so that when you get there, you’re so used to the presentation that it’s just like another practice session but it’s the final presentation. I hope this helps, and just like the NIKE slogan ‘Just do it!’
Tushar Vishwakarma
Product Manager
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Tushar’s Answer
Hello Maryan,
It's great that you're looking to improve your confidence in class. It's totally understandable to feel nervous about participating in class, even when you know the answers. Even though I'm not an expert in this field, but based on my personal experience. Here are a few tips:
Small Steps:
- Start with simple participation: Begin by answering easier questions or making smaller contributions in group discussions. This can help you get used to speaking up and build momentum.
- Prepare beforehand: If you know a class is going to cover a topic you're familiar with, write down some key points or questions you can raise. This will make you feel more prepared and confident.
- Positive self-talk: Instead of focusing on your anxiety, challenge negative thoughts with positive affirmations. Remind yourself that you have valuable knowledge to share and that everyone contributes differently.
Building Confidence:
- Practice outside of class: Find opportunities to talk about your interests or knowledge with friends, family, or even in online communities. This can help you get comfortable expressing yourself and articulating your thoughts.
- Focus on communication skills: Learn ways to make your contributions more impactful. Try using phrases like "I think..." or "In my opinion...", and practice presenting your ideas clearly and concisely.
- Celebrate your successes: Acknowledge and reward yourself for every time you speak up in class, no matter how small. This will reinforce positive behavior and boost your confidence.
- Speak in public forum using Que Cards: If you're speaking on stage (I know you must be thinking I'm finding it difficult to speak in class and this person is asking me to speak on stage. Trust me it's lot easier than you think. Just do it once and you'll see the difference in your confidence. You'll be able to communicate / participate in class as well. ), do rehearse and create cue cards. In case you're blank on stage or feeling anxious, start by reading que cards. I know this is little challenging for you, but it will change a lot of things for you. Just don't stop in between or run from stage. Prepare yourself that, I have to read this today, that's it. Once you start doing it on regular basis, you'll see a positive change in yourself.
Additional Resources:
- Talk to your teacher: Most teachers are supportive and understand student anxieties. They can offer personalized advice and create a welcoming environment for your participation.
- Join clubs or activities: Engaging in extracurricular activities can help you build confidence and find your voice in a less formal setting.
- Consider professional help: If your anxiety is impacting your daily life, seeking professional help from a therapist or counselor can provide valuable tools and support.
It's great that you're looking to improve your confidence in class. It's totally understandable to feel nervous about participating in class, even when you know the answers. Even though I'm not an expert in this field, but based on my personal experience. Here are a few tips:
Small Steps:
- Start with simple participation: Begin by answering easier questions or making smaller contributions in group discussions. This can help you get used to speaking up and build momentum.
- Prepare beforehand: If you know a class is going to cover a topic you're familiar with, write down some key points or questions you can raise. This will make you feel more prepared and confident.
- Positive self-talk: Instead of focusing on your anxiety, challenge negative thoughts with positive affirmations. Remind yourself that you have valuable knowledge to share and that everyone contributes differently.
Building Confidence:
- Practice outside of class: Find opportunities to talk about your interests or knowledge with friends, family, or even in online communities. This can help you get comfortable expressing yourself and articulating your thoughts.
- Focus on communication skills: Learn ways to make your contributions more impactful. Try using phrases like "I think..." or "In my opinion...", and practice presenting your ideas clearly and concisely.
- Celebrate your successes: Acknowledge and reward yourself for every time you speak up in class, no matter how small. This will reinforce positive behavior and boost your confidence.
- Speak in public forum using Que Cards: If you're speaking on stage (I know you must be thinking I'm finding it difficult to speak in class and this person is asking me to speak on stage. Trust me it's lot easier than you think. Just do it once and you'll see the difference in your confidence. You'll be able to communicate / participate in class as well. ), do rehearse and create cue cards. In case you're blank on stage or feeling anxious, start by reading que cards. I know this is little challenging for you, but it will change a lot of things for you. Just don't stop in between or run from stage. Prepare yourself that, I have to read this today, that's it. Once you start doing it on regular basis, you'll see a positive change in yourself.
Additional Resources:
- Talk to your teacher: Most teachers are supportive and understand student anxieties. They can offer personalized advice and create a welcoming environment for your participation.
- Join clubs or activities: Engaging in extracurricular activities can help you build confidence and find your voice in a less formal setting.
- Consider professional help: If your anxiety is impacting your daily life, seeking professional help from a therapist or counselor can provide valuable tools and support.
Annie Tomecek
Community Relations Management--work with nonprofits and schools
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Hi, Mary!
What a great question. As others have said, it's natural to feel a little shy, scared, or intimidated when speaking up in class. However, your message leads me to believe that you really WANT to contribute and that you actually HAVE some ideas of very valuable discussions to contribute in class. As others have said--just begin. You know you can do it, the hardest thing is reaching out and raising your hand the first time. But once you do and once you have contributed for the first time, it will get easier and easier. Better yet, the class and the teacher will get to know you better, and this will result in great discussions outside of class as well. Soon you will find that it's very rewarding to become a part of the class discussion. Remember, there are probably a lot of other people who will benefit from what you have to say. Good luck!
What a great question. As others have said, it's natural to feel a little shy, scared, or intimidated when speaking up in class. However, your message leads me to believe that you really WANT to contribute and that you actually HAVE some ideas of very valuable discussions to contribute in class. As others have said--just begin. You know you can do it, the hardest thing is reaching out and raising your hand the first time. But once you do and once you have contributed for the first time, it will get easier and easier. Better yet, the class and the teacher will get to know you better, and this will result in great discussions outside of class as well. Soon you will find that it's very rewarding to become a part of the class discussion. Remember, there are probably a lot of other people who will benefit from what you have to say. Good luck!
Christopher Adeniji
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Christopher’s Answer
Even with all the fantastic advice here, I’ll add that If you feel nervous about speaking up in class, try practicing with a friend or family member beforehand. This can help you feel more prepared and confident when it's time to participate in the real thing.
Most importantly, be patient and kind to yourself! Building confidence takes time and effort. Celebrate your small wins, and remember that everyone feels nervous sometimes.
I believe in you, Mary! You've got this!
Most importantly, be patient and kind to yourself! Building confidence takes time and effort. Celebrate your small wins, and remember that everyone feels nervous sometimes.
I believe in you, Mary! You've got this!
Karen Williamson, MSN, CNS(Clinical Nurse Specialist)
Special Care Nursery NICU Upper Chesapeake
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Karen’s Answer
There are so many students that experience your hesitation to share knowledge. One thing that might be helpful is to begin by adding on to another person’s contribution. For example: I agree with the answer mentioned here to set a small goal and I would like to add …
Madison Buchman
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Find mentors, find study partners, research different methods for both active and passive learning, try multiple study methods in order to find one that works best for you and be open to trying new study techniques, never be afraid to ask for help!