Is it hard adjusting to living on your own?

Hi Kate!

From the position of a divorcee, and being older, to me the hardest part is having to be totally responsible for everything, and not having someone else to blame, for anything! If there are fingerprints on the lightswitch plate, I guess they must be from me. If a bill got misplaced and wasn't paid, oops, that's me again. Out of groceries? Guess who has to go shopping? So, even if or when you don't feel like doing something, you have to do it. This is a hundred times worse when you are sick. No one is going to sit there and nag you to drink your fluids!

The plus side? Everything gets to be done, "your way!" No compromising required! You set up your system for doing bills, laundry, etc. You will always know where everything is. You get whatever furniture appeals to you! And, if you don't want unhealthy foods in your house because they are too tempting to eat, you don't buy them! And the house stays cleaner. If you plan to one day get married, enjoy this momentary period where you are the one and only Head of the Household! It's really sort of fun in this regard!

Loneliness? Sure. But, if you are a person who enjoys being around people a lot, you will find yourself hanging out with friends, family, or co-workers, and, eventually, nieces and nephews! If you are a loner by nature, after being at school or work all day, being able to come home and unwind will actually be something to look forward to! Turn on the TV or music helps to take away the feeling of being alone. Remember, there is a huge difference between being "alone" and "lonely." It's possible to feel lonely even when you are surrounded by people. And being alone is not necessarily a lonely situation!

A word about pets. I have always had one or more dogs. Always. It's so nice to have "someone" to come home to who is always happy to see you! But, having a pet is a HUGE responsibility. Veterinary services have gotten really expensive. If you live in an apartment, having an animal will limit where you can live. Many complexes only accept smaller animals. If you are going to get one, please think it over very carefully. If you have to go out of town, or work late, someone will need to look after the animal. Please get "pet insurance" right away. It will help defray the cost of healthcare for the animal. I cannot stress enough how expensive it is when they get sick!

I hope this helps. Please let me know if you have other questions!

Kim

I understand 100%. I was in your same position after my divorce. Luckily I was able to find a place close to my parents so I wasn't as scared. Maybe finding a place close to your parents or someone you trust would work for you as well.