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How do you find out what you wanna do in life, if your struggling?
I feel like I always change my mind on what I wanna do!
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Laura’s Answer
Don't stress too much about where you're headed right now. If you try out a job and find it's not for you, that's okay! At least you've learned something about yourself, and you've made an effort.
My own career has been a bit of a winding journey, moving from customer services to payroll, and then into HR. This kind of exploration can really help you discover what you love and what you don't.
Remember, it's perfectly okay to shift your direction if you feel the need. Life is all about exploration and finding your own unique path. So, embrace change when it comes, it might lead you to something wonderful!
My own career has been a bit of a winding journey, moving from customer services to payroll, and then into HR. This kind of exploration can really help you discover what you love and what you don't.
Remember, it's perfectly okay to shift your direction if you feel the need. Life is all about exploration and finding your own unique path. So, embrace change when it comes, it might lead you to something wonderful!
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Kevin P’s Answer
Alexis, I definitely hope you find a path to not struggle and find a passion that is fulfilling. I struggled figuring out what I wanted to do in high school.
At some point I knew I wanted to be in the army reserve but I didn’t want to be active duty. So I couldn’t tell you what I wanted for a normal career.
I made a list of what was important. I knew making money was number 1. But I couldn’t conceptualize what “a lot of money” was at that point in time.
So instead I figured out what I enjoyed. I had 4 things. Personal training, teaching, cop, and banking. Well I was a trainer during college and realized I didn’t think those hours were for me long term. Teaching ended up not paying enough and banking gave me a job before a police department did.
I liked the idea of saying I work in the financial world. And applied to Chase Bank. I was just lucky enough to love what I do. So for me it was part being naive and part being lucky.
While I wouldn’t change it for the world, I love what I do. I love telling people I work for JPMogan. And I get paid well enough to make it worth it.
At some point I knew I wanted to be in the army reserve but I didn’t want to be active duty. So I couldn’t tell you what I wanted for a normal career.
I made a list of what was important. I knew making money was number 1. But I couldn’t conceptualize what “a lot of money” was at that point in time.
So instead I figured out what I enjoyed. I had 4 things. Personal training, teaching, cop, and banking. Well I was a trainer during college and realized I didn’t think those hours were for me long term. Teaching ended up not paying enough and banking gave me a job before a police department did.
I liked the idea of saying I work in the financial world. And applied to Chase Bank. I was just lucky enough to love what I do. So for me it was part being naive and part being lucky.
While I wouldn’t change it for the world, I love what I do. I love telling people I work for JPMogan. And I get paid well enough to make it worth it.
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anvitha’s Answer
It's okay to change your mind, that is just a part of the process. Try exploring your interests, maybe through hobbies or volunteering. Networking and talking to people in different fields can also shed light on potential paths. It is always best to utilize connections and communicate with as many people as you can to gain more perspective on what options you have for future careers. Take small steps, gain experiences, and remember that it is normal to not have everything figured out right away.
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I am not sure what you mean by struggling. My understanding from your question is that you have a few options and you are unable to make a decision because something or someone keeps bringing you back to square or triangle one.
If my understanding of your question is correct, then the best way to overcome this struggle as you have stated is to put those struggles onto paper and look at it from an objective perspective.
List all those struggles, don't just think them but look at them and watch them and after sometime you will realize you will decipher that those struggles you had listed are easily overcome or they are in fact not struggles but mere small bumps to your life journey.
Once the process of elimination happens then look at what is left and put those top struggles in an order or priority of how to overcome them in the short, medium and long term and organize your thoughts in a way you will know what to do in order to make those struggles just small bumps.
Remember, to revisit this process you are doing once every few days, that way you will have a fresh perspective, Alternatively if that is not possible, ask someone who you can trust at the same time holds no consequence to telling you what they think on your list and process thinking. That way, you will have an objective view. Do not be defensive but reflective.
Tell me if it works because this is a tool and if you can do it right, please share with others. People need to know how to work out their own struggles in life.
If my understanding of your question is correct, then the best way to overcome this struggle as you have stated is to put those struggles onto paper and look at it from an objective perspective.
List all those struggles, don't just think them but look at them and watch them and after sometime you will realize you will decipher that those struggles you had listed are easily overcome or they are in fact not struggles but mere small bumps to your life journey.
Once the process of elimination happens then look at what is left and put those top struggles in an order or priority of how to overcome them in the short, medium and long term and organize your thoughts in a way you will know what to do in order to make those struggles just small bumps.
Remember, to revisit this process you are doing once every few days, that way you will have a fresh perspective, Alternatively if that is not possible, ask someone who you can trust at the same time holds no consequence to telling you what they think on your list and process thinking. That way, you will have an objective view. Do not be defensive but reflective.
Tell me if it works because this is a tool and if you can do it right, please share with others. People need to know how to work out their own struggles in life.
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Emily’s Answer
Remember you don't need to have the answer for this right now, and it can always change as you grow! I've always focused on doing the next thing that interests me and followed that. I never knew exactly what I wanted to do and have found my way into a fulfilling career, at University I studied my favourite topic (History) and then used the transferrable skills I gained from that to move into the world of work.
Don't put too much pressure on this, you can always change direction at any time in life.
Don't put too much pressure on this, you can always change direction at any time in life.
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Mariana’s Answer
It can take someone a while to decide on what path they want to take. I think it would be a good idea to sit down and write down some interests that you have. That will help you decide what area you want to start in.