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How can I find confidence as an aspiring college student?
I am 20-years-old and college bound. I am anxious about starting college because of all the complexities, like financial aid, but also balancing my mental health and my passions and financial stability. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
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Paul’s Answer
Campus Navigation is the key, in my opinion.
Most students arrive on campus completely lost, and are unable to find any of the resources they need to achieve success in the college academic environment.
Visit the campus, obtain maps, get an orientation regarding where your classrooms are, where to find the best parking, student activities, sports events, financial aid offices, professor and advisor offices, student life and dorm locations..etc
The better you know campus, and become fluent as to where to find things, the more confident you will be when you encounter adversity.
Most students arrive on campus completely lost, and are unable to find any of the resources they need to achieve success in the college academic environment.
Visit the campus, obtain maps, get an orientation regarding where your classrooms are, where to find the best parking, student activities, sports events, financial aid offices, professor and advisor offices, student life and dorm locations..etc
The better you know campus, and become fluent as to where to find things, the more confident you will be when you encounter adversity.
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Adeeb’s Answer
I sympathize with what you are going through, I was basically in the exact same situation. It's incredibly tough to balance short-term needs (money, your mental health) with long-term goals. Feeling stressed is a very natural response to the situation you are in.
I would highly recommend prioritizing your mental health as much as you can afford to - your mental wellbeing impacts every single area of your life. Sacrificing your mental health for the sake of future success is rarely worth it. If it's accessible to you, finding a therapist that you like can be a game-changer for your mental health and self-confidence. To be honest, I would not have gotten where I am now without my therapist! A lot of therapists also offer sliding scales if you aren't able to afford their standard rate. Otherwise exercise, mindfulness, and general self-care always help. Keep in mind that your mental health won't get better by ignoring it and there is no shame in getting help, just like with your physical health.
If nothing else, at least know that you are not alone in what you are experiencing. And remember that to be happy is the reason you are alive.
Find a therapist you like and schedule a consultation.
Make a specific list of your financial concerns and discuss them with your school's financial aid office.
I would highly recommend prioritizing your mental health as much as you can afford to - your mental wellbeing impacts every single area of your life. Sacrificing your mental health for the sake of future success is rarely worth it. If it's accessible to you, finding a therapist that you like can be a game-changer for your mental health and self-confidence. To be honest, I would not have gotten where I am now without my therapist! A lot of therapists also offer sliding scales if you aren't able to afford their standard rate. Otherwise exercise, mindfulness, and general self-care always help. Keep in mind that your mental health won't get better by ignoring it and there is no shame in getting help, just like with your physical health.
If nothing else, at least know that you are not alone in what you are experiencing. And remember that to be happy is the reason you are alive.
Adeeb recommends the following next steps:
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Eric’s Answer
Embrace the fact that everything may not be perfect. The first year is often a whirlwind period where you begin to truly understand your desires and the type of individual you aspire to be. Juggling academics, mental wellness, sleep, and social activities can sometimes be challenging, but remember, it's completely fine!
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Karissa’s Answer
You do not have to pick a major until the second semester of your sophomore year. In your freshman year focus on Math, Science, Social Studies and English.
Find your colleges catalogue online and read through all the academic programs.
Karissa recommends the following next steps:
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Amber’s Answer
Hi Caralyn,
The answers already submitted are all excellent and will lead you down the right path. I only want to add to them some perspective. College is more like a marathon than a sprint. You need to pace yourself. The most important thing in all of it, is to not give up. Earning a degree is not just about what you learned in your classes; it is just as much showing that you can persevere in an environment that is difficult to navigate, will throw many roadblocks in your path, and will bring about stress and opportunities for distraction. If you want to hear an expert opinion on success, read "Grit", by Angela Duckworth. Don't give up on yourself no matter what!
-Amber
The answers already submitted are all excellent and will lead you down the right path. I only want to add to them some perspective. College is more like a marathon than a sprint. You need to pace yourself. The most important thing in all of it, is to not give up. Earning a degree is not just about what you learned in your classes; it is just as much showing that you can persevere in an environment that is difficult to navigate, will throw many roadblocks in your path, and will bring about stress and opportunities for distraction. If you want to hear an expert opinion on success, read "Grit", by Angela Duckworth. Don't give up on yourself no matter what!
-Amber
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Carrie’s Answer
It is very common for the feelings of anxiety to come in when getting ready for college! So many students have the same feelings and sometimes it may feel like you are all alone, however, you are not!
It may be beneficial to look at tackling one challenge at a time when it comes to the technical aspects of going to school, such as financial aid. You may want to look at scholarship opportunities or grants that are available if FAFSA is not an option. Limiting the amount of classes taken at one time and going part-time could potentially save money while you can work at the same time.
Some campuses offer mental health clinics where you can talk to a certified specialist on campus. This may be helpful for students who may struggle with their mental health during school! Never be afraid to ask for resources from your university, as they can be fairly connected to local and state resources! If you are staying on campus in a dorm room, connect with your RA to see if they have any knowledge of resources or may be willing to assist with academic or other mentoring services!
College can be overwhelming but taking things one step at a time and reaching out for help can give you the assistance you need! You are more capable than you may give yourself credit for!
It may be beneficial to look at tackling one challenge at a time when it comes to the technical aspects of going to school, such as financial aid. You may want to look at scholarship opportunities or grants that are available if FAFSA is not an option. Limiting the amount of classes taken at one time and going part-time could potentially save money while you can work at the same time.
Some campuses offer mental health clinics where you can talk to a certified specialist on campus. This may be helpful for students who may struggle with their mental health during school! Never be afraid to ask for resources from your university, as they can be fairly connected to local and state resources! If you are staying on campus in a dorm room, connect with your RA to see if they have any knowledge of resources or may be willing to assist with academic or other mentoring services!
College can be overwhelming but taking things one step at a time and reaching out for help can give you the assistance you need! You are more capable than you may give yourself credit for!
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Chinyere’s Answer
Hello Caralyn,
Embark on this exciting new journey with confidence and determination. Remember that every step you take is a valuable opportunity for growth and self-discovery. These suggestions below might guide you through your journey.
1. Educate yourself: Take the time to research and understand the college application process, financial aid options, and resources available to you as a college student. Knowledge is power, and feeling informed can help alleviate some anxiety.
2. Seek support: Reach out to current college students, alumni, or college counselors for guidance and support. They can provide valuable insights and advice based on their own experiences.
3. Set realistic expectations: Understand that it's okay to feel overwhelmed at times, but also remember that many others have successfully navigated through similar challenges.
4. Focus on self-care: Prioritize your mental health by practicing self-care activities such as meditation, exercise, or hobbies that bring you joy.
5. Pursue your passions: Find ways to engage in activities that align with your interests while in college. This will help you find a sense of purpose and fulfillment amidst the academic demands.
6. Build a support network: Surround yourself with friends, family members, or mentors who can offer encouragement and understanding during this transitional period.
7. Budget wisely: Take control of your finances by creating a budget plan that includes expenses for tuition, books, living costs, etc., while also exploring potential scholarships or part-time job opportunities.
8. Stay positive: Believe in yourself and focus on the potential opportunities that lie ahead in your college journey rather than dwelling on fears or uncertainties.
Don't hesitate to ask for help along the way, as seeking assistance is not a sign of weakness but rather a testament to your strength and openness. Embrace each moment, taking things one step at a time, knowing that you have the power within you to overcome any challenges that may arise. You are capable, resilient, and ready to embrace this new chapter in your life with grace and resilience.
Best wishes.
Embark on this exciting new journey with confidence and determination. Remember that every step you take is a valuable opportunity for growth and self-discovery. These suggestions below might guide you through your journey.
1. Educate yourself: Take the time to research and understand the college application process, financial aid options, and resources available to you as a college student. Knowledge is power, and feeling informed can help alleviate some anxiety.
2. Seek support: Reach out to current college students, alumni, or college counselors for guidance and support. They can provide valuable insights and advice based on their own experiences.
3. Set realistic expectations: Understand that it's okay to feel overwhelmed at times, but also remember that many others have successfully navigated through similar challenges.
4. Focus on self-care: Prioritize your mental health by practicing self-care activities such as meditation, exercise, or hobbies that bring you joy.
5. Pursue your passions: Find ways to engage in activities that align with your interests while in college. This will help you find a sense of purpose and fulfillment amidst the academic demands.
6. Build a support network: Surround yourself with friends, family members, or mentors who can offer encouragement and understanding during this transitional period.
7. Budget wisely: Take control of your finances by creating a budget plan that includes expenses for tuition, books, living costs, etc., while also exploring potential scholarships or part-time job opportunities.
8. Stay positive: Believe in yourself and focus on the potential opportunities that lie ahead in your college journey rather than dwelling on fears or uncertainties.
Don't hesitate to ask for help along the way, as seeking assistance is not a sign of weakness but rather a testament to your strength and openness. Embrace each moment, taking things one step at a time, knowing that you have the power within you to overcome any challenges that may arise. You are capable, resilient, and ready to embrace this new chapter in your life with grace and resilience.
Best wishes.
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PwC’s Answer
Being yourself is the best thing you can do for your confidence. Go for the things you’ve always wanted to do, learn the things you’ve always wanted to learn; no one will judge you as hard as you think because they’re more worried about themselves. When you be yourself
you’ll be proud of who you are and what you’ve done; the confidence finds itself!
you’ll be proud of who you are and what you’ve done; the confidence finds itself!
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PwC’s Answer
Just be yourself, and find the right friend group!
The best thing you can do is to get involved! Joining clubs, student orgs, volunteering, Greek life, etc. is the best way to meet new people and move outside your comfort zone. Confidence will come with time as you put yourself out there, but getting involved is the best way to get started when you’re just beginning college!
The best thing you can do is to get involved! Joining clubs, student orgs, volunteering, Greek life, etc. is the best way to meet new people and move outside your comfort zone. Confidence will come with time as you put yourself out there, but getting involved is the best way to get started when you’re just beginning college!
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PwC’s Answer
Practice being out going. It may be difficult and you may feel uncomfortable but everyone is in the same situation as you. There are so many new people you will meet and you will find a great group of friends who will help motivate you.
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PwC’s Answer
If you want the truth, confidence is not something that magically appears. I absolutely validate this is I am going to be a senior and am
still attempting to answer this question fully. My best advice is to invest in yourself whether that be fitness or simply other things that make
you happy. You will feel better when you do the things that are important to you and in turn surround yourself with people who
can validate you and help you believe in yourself and your journey! Good luck!
still attempting to answer this question fully. My best advice is to invest in yourself whether that be fitness or simply other things that make
you happy. You will feel better when you do the things that are important to you and in turn surround yourself with people who
can validate you and help you believe in yourself and your journey! Good luck!
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PwC’s Answer
Take things one day at a time, but have a couple goals you would like to achieve by your first year (i.e. meet 15 new people). Try to look
out for any negative self-talk and take a deep breath, maybe talk to a friend. Keep putting yourself out there, and don't be afraid to lean into the
uncertainty/unknown. You got it!
out for any negative self-talk and take a deep breath, maybe talk to a friend. Keep putting yourself out there, and don't be afraid to lean into the
uncertainty/unknown. You got it!
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PwC’s Answer
First, remember that everyone is going through the same thing!! Everyone is coming to a new place, so remember that not everything is as perfect as it seems on everyone’s posts and stories. Also, the best way to build confidence in college is to show up!! Join the orgs that you’re interested in and talk to as many people as you can, and your confidence will grow as you challenge yourself!
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PwC’s Answer
- Don't be afraid to try new things. Finding confidence comes with exposing yourself to all the opportunities out there.
- College is the perfect time to learn about yourself and challenge yourself. you will grow your confidence no matter what!
- College is the perfect time to learn about yourself and challenge yourself. you will grow your confidence no matter what!
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PwC’s Answer
College is an awesome place to meet your best friends for life and/or building your career network. I think being nervous is a completely normal emotion to feel because you know it’s a big step. If I were you try and find some mentors already at the university who can get you comfortable with your college. Good luck!
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PwC’s Answer
Recognize that people are starting college with you! You are not the only one nervous, the people around you are just as nervous as
well. This will give you confidence to approach and build relationships.
well. This will give you confidence to approach and build relationships.
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PwC’s Answer
Remember that every transition in your life has gone by and been okay. This is no different. It might be a change, but you will find your way and it will be okay. Lean into the community you build there and remember that college is a gift! Be excited! You got this!
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PwC’s Answer
It’s a big change and there are lots of chances to find your people and comfort zone. Remember whatever your niche is, there are others with similar interests who would love to meet you! Find a club, sport, interest group to start building your network and find your friends!
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PwC’s Answer
- Confidence comes from being your authentic self and comfortable in who you are. Take some time getting to know yourself and where you want to go.
- Everyone else is feeling the same thing, go in with an open mind and you’ll be fine!
- Everyone else is feeling the same thing, go in with an open mind and you’ll be fine!
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PwC’s Answer
Get involved with an organization. Having a community of people who you connect with can help you out so much early on in college. Explore different opportunities like organizations, sports clubs etc. Try things you’ve never tried before. Also get in contact with a staff member at the college whether that’s a dean, a teacher or even a teaching assistant. They can help you navigate so much.
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PwC’s Answer
- Get involved in orgs! They are the best way to meet people who share similar interests!
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PwC’s Answer
Just believe in your self. Every freshman is coming to campus for the first time. You're not alone. Take a risk, meet a friend. College isabout growing so don't fret growing pains. You'll rock it!!
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PwC’s Answer
- Work hard. You’ll find assurance through hard work and results driven by it.
- Believe in yourself!
- Believe in yourself!
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PwC’s Answer
Confidence will come when you start to do things you love with people you also love. When entering college there may be a period when your friend group is questionable, but don't internalize that — keep finding your path.
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PwC’s Answer
Just take the plunge, you will find your way! Spend time doing the things you love and confidence and friends will come!
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PwC’s Answer
You’re not alone in feeling nervous, even the most "put-together" people feel this way. Try to avoid comparing yourself to others in terms of how
well others are doing - academically, socially, professionally. Just focus on your own goals and be organized with a plan to achieve them at a pace
that’s right for you.
well others are doing - academically, socially, professionally. Just focus on your own goals and be organized with a plan to achieve them at a pace
that’s right for you.
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PwC’s Answer
There’s nothing to be nervous about. Everyone has their first time, an first time always brings excitement and panic. But that’s part of life. Enjoying every feeling that life brings to you. Wish you future bright as gold!
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PwC’s Answer
The best thing you can do is find people going through the same thing as you. Meet someone in your classes, on your hall, join extracurriculars. Know that everyone is nervous in the beginning but finding a friend helps with the nerves so you don’t alone!
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PwC’s Answer
Figure out what your interests and values are and look for activities/people that align with them! Get involved in as much as you can. The more you put yourself out there, the more confidence you have for the next time.
Get involved in as much as you can and fake your confidence till you make it.
Everyone is trying to figure it out and make new friends, so make an appearance whenever you can to events and be yourself!
Get involved in as much as you can and fake your confidence till you make it.
Everyone is trying to figure it out and make new friends, so make an appearance whenever you can to events and be yourself!
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PwC’s Answer
Early on, I would try to find clubs you are interested in. It is a great way to find new friends who have similar interests to you!
Whatever your interests are, whatever you like: you can find a community for it in college. Don’t give up what you care about, because it’s not about finding a group and compromising that- it’s just about finding the right people.
Whatever your interests are, whatever you like: you can find a community for it in college. Don’t give up what you care about, because it’s not about finding a group and compromising that- it’s just about finding the right people.
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PwC’s Answer
The key to college is getting out of your comfort zone, so make sure to do that and that’s the first step to finding your confidence. So try new things, meet new people, take classes that interest you!
Get out of your comfort zone and try everything you’re interested in, you’ll find people with similar interests and make fun friends
Get out of your comfort zone and try everything you’re interested in, you’ll find people with similar interests and make fun friends
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PwC’s Answer
A big part is reflecting on who you are and establishing your values before going to college. Another thing is going to different school clubs and finding people that have similar interests as you will be more confident through talking with them.
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PwC’s Answer
Don’t stress, just be yourself and don’t be afraid to go out of your comfort zone. Definitely join groups on campus or participate in
intramurals. You will find people who vibe with you and who will become life long friends.
intramurals. You will find people who vibe with you and who will become life long friends.
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PwC’s Answer
I would focus on what makes you happy and really stick to that and build skills to make yourself better at whatever you’re passionate about to help with navigating the classes you want to take and clubs you want to join!
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PwC’s Answer
The nervousness is ok!
You can find confidence watching YouTube videos and TikTok’s!! Things will be ok because you have all control
over who you befriend and how you interact!
You can find your confidence by being yourself and putting yourself out there in the things that you like to do. If you love volunteering, join
an extracurricular that promotes volunteerism. From there you’ll find like minded individuals. These people will be there for you both in
school and outside of it, and will be the base for your confidence.
You can find confidence watching YouTube videos and TikTok’s!! Things will be ok because you have all control
over who you befriend and how you interact!
You can find your confidence by being yourself and putting yourself out there in the things that you like to do. If you love volunteering, join
an extracurricular that promotes volunteerism. From there you’ll find like minded individuals. These people will be there for you both in
school and outside of it, and will be the base for your confidence.
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PwC’s Answer
The best thing you can do is to get involved! Joining clubs, student orgs, volunteering, Greek life, etc. is the best way to meet new people
and move outside your comfort zone. Confidence will come with time as you put yourself out there, but getting involved is the best way to get started when you’re just beginning college!
and move outside your comfort zone. Confidence will come with time as you put yourself out there, but getting involved is the best way to get started when you’re just beginning college!
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PwC’s Answer
It's a new start so keep that in mind, college is the best place to reinvent yourself and force yourself to step out of your comfort zone. Everyone
is in the same boat as you, so don’t feel like people are judging what you do. Even if they are, you only live once so do what you won’t regret missing out on and college is definitely one of them! Have fun!
is in the same boat as you, so don’t feel like people are judging what you do. Even if they are, you only live once so do what you won’t regret missing out on and college is definitely one of them! Have fun!
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Jerome’s Answer
It’s normal to be a little anxious. Good news is that there are a tremendous amount of resources available to you in college. make use of the counseling center and your advisors. The biggest mistake you can make is trying to go at things alone.
Take each day at a time. You seem aware of the world around you and if you are intentional with your choices, you’ll be ok.
Take each day at a time. You seem aware of the world around you and if you are intentional with your choices, you’ll be ok.
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PwC’s Answer
You have earned your spot at this school from all your hard work leading up to it. It’s normal to feel nervous or like you don’t belong at first, but you definitely do. Also, there are so many resources available to you to help with classes and mental health, and clubs to help make friends, so
definitely utilize those. Overall, confidence comes with time so don’t worry if it takes a semester or two to find yours!
definitely utilize those. Overall, confidence comes with time so don’t worry if it takes a semester or two to find yours!