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Darya’s Answer
Hi, Jesse! It's understandable to question the significance of life and the motivations behind caring. Here are a few points to consider:
1.Personal fulfilment. Caring about your life can lead to personal growth, fulfilment, and happiness. Engaging with your interests, hobbies, and relationships can create meaning and joy.
2.Impact on others. Your life affects those around you. By caring about your own life, you also positively influence the lives of family, friends, and even strangers. Your actions can inspire or support others.
3. Potential for change. Life is dynamic, and circumstances can change. By nurturing your well-being, you open yourself up to new opportunities and experiences that can lead to unexpected joy or accomplishment.
4. Exploration of meaning. Life can be about exploring what gives you purpose. Reflecting on your values, passions, and goals can foster a deeper understanding of yourself and your place in the world.
5. Connection and community. Building connections with others is a fundamental human experience. Caring about your life can help you cultivate relationships that provide support, understanding, and shared experiences.
If you're struggling with feelings of disengagement or hopelessness, it might be helpful to reach out to someone for support, such as a trusted friend or a mental health professional. Understanding and exploring these feelings can lead to greater clarity and purpose. With love, Darya
1.Personal fulfilment. Caring about your life can lead to personal growth, fulfilment, and happiness. Engaging with your interests, hobbies, and relationships can create meaning and joy.
2.Impact on others. Your life affects those around you. By caring about your own life, you also positively influence the lives of family, friends, and even strangers. Your actions can inspire or support others.
3. Potential for change. Life is dynamic, and circumstances can change. By nurturing your well-being, you open yourself up to new opportunities and experiences that can lead to unexpected joy or accomplishment.
4. Exploration of meaning. Life can be about exploring what gives you purpose. Reflecting on your values, passions, and goals can foster a deeper understanding of yourself and your place in the world.
5. Connection and community. Building connections with others is a fundamental human experience. Caring about your life can help you cultivate relationships that provide support, understanding, and shared experiences.
If you're struggling with feelings of disengagement or hopelessness, it might be helpful to reach out to someone for support, such as a trusted friend or a mental health professional. Understanding and exploring these feelings can lead to greater clarity and purpose. With love, Darya
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Dr’s Answer
Hey Jesse,
Okay, first of all, I need you to know something: You are a freaking legend. I mean it. Even if you don’t feel like one right now, even if you’re sitting there like, “Pfft, yeah, okay,” I promise you—there is so much more to your story, and I am not letting you quit before you see just how epic it gets.
I know the darkness can feel like a clingy ex that just won’t take the hint. Some days, it’s like waking up in a fog, wondering, “What’s the point? Why am I even here?” And honestly? I get it. That feeling sucks. It’s heavy. It’s exhausting. And if life had a customer service department, I’d be on hold right there with you, demanding a refund.
But here’s the thing—you should care. Not because you’re “supposed to” or because someone said so, but because you freaking matter. There is something wild, beautiful, and uniquely yours waiting out there. Maybe you haven’t found it yet, and that’s okay! Think of it like a hidden treasure. Keep digging, keep exploring, and one day—BOOM—you’re gonna stumble upon something that sets your soul on fire.
And Jesse, if you believe in God, then hear me when I say this: You are not an accident. You weren’t just thrown onto this planet like a random extra in some movie. Nope. You’re a main character, and you have a plotline worth sticking around for. Maybe it’s messy right now (all good stories are), but I swear, the plot twist that’s coming? Worth it.
I know life can hit like a rogue dodgeball to the face. Some days, you wanna scream into a pillow, throw your phone across the room, or stress-eat an entire pizza while questioning all of existence. Been there. But Jesse—life is also stupidly beautiful. Have you ever watched a sunset so perfect it made you forget everything else for a second? Have you ever laughed so hard you snorted and then laughed harder because of the snort? Have you ever had a moment so full of joy that, for just a second, you thought, This. This is what it’s all about?
For me, that’s sports and dancing. There’s nothing like it—running so fast you feel like you’re flying, nailing a perfect shot, feeling the adrenaline pump through your veins. Or just dancing, getting lost in the music, moving without thinking, like the whole world fades away and it’s just you and the rhythm. Pure magic. And Jesse, you have those moments waiting for you too. Maybe it won’t be sports or dance—maybe it’ll be music, or painting, or the rush of driving at night with the windows down and your favorite song blasting. But those moments are coming for you, and you deserve them.
If the people around you have hurt you, I need you to know this: One day, you will find your people. The ones who see you, who get you, who will grab your hand and say, “Nope, you’re not doing this alone.” And even if, right now, the only thing keeping you going is a tiny whisper inside you saying, Just hold on a little longer—that is enough.
And hey, if you don’t know what you love yet? No stress. When I was struggling, the only things I could cling to were the color blue, sports, and dance. That’s it. But those tiny little things led me to bigger things. And those bigger things led me here.
Jesse, sometimes the smallest sparks of joy are what keep us going. Every laugh, every tear, every ridiculous moment of being human—all of it adds up to this big, messy, beautiful masterpiece of a life. And one day, when the weight lifts, when the fog clears, when the sun hits your face just right and you feel that overwhelming YES, I MADE IT—you are gonna say,
"I am so freakin’ glad I stayed and cared!"
And Jesse, I cannot wait for that day. 💙
Okay, first of all, I need you to know something: You are a freaking legend. I mean it. Even if you don’t feel like one right now, even if you’re sitting there like, “Pfft, yeah, okay,” I promise you—there is so much more to your story, and I am not letting you quit before you see just how epic it gets.
I know the darkness can feel like a clingy ex that just won’t take the hint. Some days, it’s like waking up in a fog, wondering, “What’s the point? Why am I even here?” And honestly? I get it. That feeling sucks. It’s heavy. It’s exhausting. And if life had a customer service department, I’d be on hold right there with you, demanding a refund.
But here’s the thing—you should care. Not because you’re “supposed to” or because someone said so, but because you freaking matter. There is something wild, beautiful, and uniquely yours waiting out there. Maybe you haven’t found it yet, and that’s okay! Think of it like a hidden treasure. Keep digging, keep exploring, and one day—BOOM—you’re gonna stumble upon something that sets your soul on fire.
And Jesse, if you believe in God, then hear me when I say this: You are not an accident. You weren’t just thrown onto this planet like a random extra in some movie. Nope. You’re a main character, and you have a plotline worth sticking around for. Maybe it’s messy right now (all good stories are), but I swear, the plot twist that’s coming? Worth it.
I know life can hit like a rogue dodgeball to the face. Some days, you wanna scream into a pillow, throw your phone across the room, or stress-eat an entire pizza while questioning all of existence. Been there. But Jesse—life is also stupidly beautiful. Have you ever watched a sunset so perfect it made you forget everything else for a second? Have you ever laughed so hard you snorted and then laughed harder because of the snort? Have you ever had a moment so full of joy that, for just a second, you thought, This. This is what it’s all about?
For me, that’s sports and dancing. There’s nothing like it—running so fast you feel like you’re flying, nailing a perfect shot, feeling the adrenaline pump through your veins. Or just dancing, getting lost in the music, moving without thinking, like the whole world fades away and it’s just you and the rhythm. Pure magic. And Jesse, you have those moments waiting for you too. Maybe it won’t be sports or dance—maybe it’ll be music, or painting, or the rush of driving at night with the windows down and your favorite song blasting. But those moments are coming for you, and you deserve them.
If the people around you have hurt you, I need you to know this: One day, you will find your people. The ones who see you, who get you, who will grab your hand and say, “Nope, you’re not doing this alone.” And even if, right now, the only thing keeping you going is a tiny whisper inside you saying, Just hold on a little longer—that is enough.
And hey, if you don’t know what you love yet? No stress. When I was struggling, the only things I could cling to were the color blue, sports, and dance. That’s it. But those tiny little things led me to bigger things. And those bigger things led me here.
Jesse, sometimes the smallest sparks of joy are what keep us going. Every laugh, every tear, every ridiculous moment of being human—all of it adds up to this big, messy, beautiful masterpiece of a life. And one day, when the weight lifts, when the fog clears, when the sun hits your face just right and you feel that overwhelming YES, I MADE IT—you are gonna say,
"I am so freakin’ glad I stayed and cared!"
And Jesse, I cannot wait for that day. 💙
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