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Nico’s Answer
Hello, Jane! I hope the holiday was nothing short of exciting for you. What a great time to be reflecting on the memories the year has already brought with friends and family by your side. In my opinion, Thanksgiving is an underrated time of the year.
To dive into your question, I believe the most important thing you can do before reading some responses is to take a moment and ask yourself the same question: “What is self-esteem?” To answer your question with a question before we begin any further, when was the last time you patted yourself on the back? Did you feel a moment of pride once you completed your to-do list? Most importantly, when is the last time you gave yourself some grace during a rough patch? All those moments intertwine with the definition of self-esteem.
Most people and Google/Google Gemini can give a generic definition of what self-esteem is, or how it is best practiced, but ultimately your perception of yourself is your GREATEST ally. That is what self-esteem is. This is not a matter of looking in the mirror and “liking what you see,” it’s a constant battle of mind, body, and soul that each person conquers during life’s greatest challenges.
Physical appearances strictly adhere to confidence, not self-esteem. Self-esteem is how one treats themselves, which is a further reaction of how one treats the others around them. For example, a man, we’ll call him Simon, was offered a promotion at work. His manager stated, “Simon, we cannot begin to express how thankful we are to have you working alongside our team and further representing the company. You have been nothing short of remarkable with the customers, but now we want to discuss with you the idea of moving you from sales to managing your own branch. What do you think?” Simon, unfortunately lacking self-esteem, immediately refuses the offer.
Although Simon heard firsthand from his superior that he is a remarkable employee, his battle of mind, body, and soul was conquered by self-esteem’s gloomy side. Now, this isn’t because he doesn’t think he can handle being a branch manager, but rather he believes that he doesn’t deserve the opportunity. Are we catching the difference between confidence and self-esteem?
If you are experiencing issues with losing your battle between mind, body, and soul do yourself the smallest of favors right at this moment and pat yourself on the back for reading this response thus far (I talk a lot, I know, but I do mean well!). Create small goals for yourself throughout each day, and no, I’m not talking about chores. Set goals that are going to cause you to practice building self-esteem. When you finish reading the chapter of your textbook, but also find yourself translating the knowledge with ease, congratulate yourself! If you find yourself standing before a crowd of people after discussing certain ideas and being able to take their responses and criticism with excitement and acceptance, remind yourself in that moment that you are THE definition of self-esteem.
Practicing the creation of new, positive habits is hard but give yourself the grace in reminding yourself that all good things take time. In moments where it seems like you can’t say anything nice to yourself, don’t feel the need to say anything at all. Just smile!
To dive into your question, I believe the most important thing you can do before reading some responses is to take a moment and ask yourself the same question: “What is self-esteem?” To answer your question with a question before we begin any further, when was the last time you patted yourself on the back? Did you feel a moment of pride once you completed your to-do list? Most importantly, when is the last time you gave yourself some grace during a rough patch? All those moments intertwine with the definition of self-esteem.
Most people and Google/Google Gemini can give a generic definition of what self-esteem is, or how it is best practiced, but ultimately your perception of yourself is your GREATEST ally. That is what self-esteem is. This is not a matter of looking in the mirror and “liking what you see,” it’s a constant battle of mind, body, and soul that each person conquers during life’s greatest challenges.
Physical appearances strictly adhere to confidence, not self-esteem. Self-esteem is how one treats themselves, which is a further reaction of how one treats the others around them. For example, a man, we’ll call him Simon, was offered a promotion at work. His manager stated, “Simon, we cannot begin to express how thankful we are to have you working alongside our team and further representing the company. You have been nothing short of remarkable with the customers, but now we want to discuss with you the idea of moving you from sales to managing your own branch. What do you think?” Simon, unfortunately lacking self-esteem, immediately refuses the offer.
Although Simon heard firsthand from his superior that he is a remarkable employee, his battle of mind, body, and soul was conquered by self-esteem’s gloomy side. Now, this isn’t because he doesn’t think he can handle being a branch manager, but rather he believes that he doesn’t deserve the opportunity. Are we catching the difference between confidence and self-esteem?
If you are experiencing issues with losing your battle between mind, body, and soul do yourself the smallest of favors right at this moment and pat yourself on the back for reading this response thus far (I talk a lot, I know, but I do mean well!). Create small goals for yourself throughout each day, and no, I’m not talking about chores. Set goals that are going to cause you to practice building self-esteem. When you finish reading the chapter of your textbook, but also find yourself translating the knowledge with ease, congratulate yourself! If you find yourself standing before a crowd of people after discussing certain ideas and being able to take their responses and criticism with excitement and acceptance, remind yourself in that moment that you are THE definition of self-esteem.
Practicing the creation of new, positive habits is hard but give yourself the grace in reminding yourself that all good things take time. In moments where it seems like you can’t say anything nice to yourself, don’t feel the need to say anything at all. Just smile!
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Karen’s Answer
Great question! I believe self-esteem is simply feeling good about yourself. It doesn't matter your age, skills, or anything else. If you live your values each day, you can enjoy the feeling of self-esteem.
With every good wish.
With every good wish.
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Mandi’s Answer
Hi June! I hope this finds you well! Self esteem is how you feel about yourself and how you value yourself. It is basically a personal opinion of you. When you look in the mirror, what do you see? Someone smart, funny, beautiful? I hope all of these things! If you are wondering how to improve your self esteem you can do many things to help you see the best in yourself. Make a list of all the things you think are good about you, take that list and put them on sticky notes and stick them on the mirror, each day read them aloud to remind yourself how wonderful you are!! If you struggle to find things you love about yourself ask those who are closest to you to list what they love about you and read those aloud daily in the same way. Daily affirmations can help remind us that we are all amazing and they can also help us help others. It allows us to start our days out on a positive note and remind us to remind others how wonderful they are too! Kindest is the best give we can give to ourselves and others :)