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Why are children so hard to... Help?
I mean I was a kid once and I grew up with strict conventions, but I want it to be different for my younger siblings. Their education, behavior and Yada Yada...
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Hey Cheeky,
Let me say it's Science of Stubbornness – That’s Kids!
Their Brains Are Wi-Fi, But on Dial-Up
Ever wonder why a kid will scream, “I KNOW WHAT I’M DOING,” and then immediately stick their finger in a socket? Simple. Their prefrontal cortex (responsible for logic and impulse control) is still under construction. Think of it as a software update that won’t finish downloading until their mid-20s.
✅ So,
Instead of arguing, give them controlled choices. Example: Instead of “Put on your shoes,” try “Do you want to wear the blue shoes or the red ones?” Boom. They feel in control, and you get what you want.
They Have the Emotional Range of a Shakespearean Play
One second, they’re laughing. The next, they’re on the floor, wailing like they just lost a Nobel Prize. That’s because their amygdala (the emotional control center) is running the show, and it loves drama.
✅ Green thick (means advice 😏) – Don’t argue with a storm. A mid-tantrum kid is like a Windows update—you just have to let it finish. Stay calm, validate their feelings, and redirect. Example:
Kid: “I DON’T WANT TO BRUSH MY TEETH!”
You: “Oh no! The sugar bugs are throwing a party in there!”
Kid: “… Sugar bugs?” (Goes to brush teeth immediately.)
I mean something like that. It works with my baby siblings always. They are literally eating my brains on holidays.
The Psychology of “Why Though?”
During my work as a primary teacher, there was always a psychologist to help the children, and I just loved to understand and do it myself. So…
Kids Are Wired to Say "No" Just to Test Reality
It’s not personal. Their job is to push boundaries. Your job is to outmaneuver them.
✅ Yep, that’s all. So, use Reverse Psychology. Example:
“You probably can’t clean your room in 5 minutes. You’re not that fast.”
They will sprint to prove you wrong. All children do that—but don’t use it too much. They eventually find out.
Their Attention Span Is That of a Goldfish on Espresso
Kids’ brains are like 37 open tabs, and you’re just trying to be the one they actually focus on.
✅ Make everything short and fun. Want them to study? Use a game. Example:
“I bet you can’t solve this math problem before I count to 10.” Even sending them outside or showing them a reward helps.
Break tasks into tiny chunks. Instead of “Do your homework,” try “Solve these three questions first.” Then slowly increase it.
Now for the fun part—The Art of Outsmarting (With Love, of Course)
Turn Everything Into a Game 🎮
Instead of “Eat your veggies,” try “I bet you can’t crunch louder than me.”
Instead of “Go to bed,” try “Race you to brush your teeth! I bet I’ll win.” Or just, “Gonna race you down!”
The Power of Bribery (Ahem, ‘Incentives’) 🍦
Kids work better when there’s a reward system. Even adults do.
“Finish your homework, and you get 10 extra minutes of TV.”
“If you get dressed fast, you get to pick the bedtime story.”
Remember to Laugh More, Argue Less 😆
Humor disarms kids. It makes learning and discipline fun. Example:
Instead of “Sit still,” say, “Are your pants made of fire ants? Because you can’t stop moving.”
Instead of “Be quiet,” say, “Shhh… I think I hear a ninja sneaking around.”
Works all the time, but sometimes it can end up tricking you—if you have a real ninja there!
Cheeky, Kids Aren’t Impossible—They’re Just Future Geniuses in Chaos Mode
They resist, they test, they push buttons. But they also learn, love, and grow. The trick isn’t to control them—it’s to guide them like a ninja master, using psychology, humor, and the occasional well-placed cookie.
And if all else fails… just remember: They eventually sleep. 😴
Uhhhh. Peace time! 🤣
Let me say it's Science of Stubbornness – That’s Kids!
Their Brains Are Wi-Fi, But on Dial-Up
Ever wonder why a kid will scream, “I KNOW WHAT I’M DOING,” and then immediately stick their finger in a socket? Simple. Their prefrontal cortex (responsible for logic and impulse control) is still under construction. Think of it as a software update that won’t finish downloading until their mid-20s.
✅ So,
Instead of arguing, give them controlled choices. Example: Instead of “Put on your shoes,” try “Do you want to wear the blue shoes or the red ones?” Boom. They feel in control, and you get what you want.
They Have the Emotional Range of a Shakespearean Play
One second, they’re laughing. The next, they’re on the floor, wailing like they just lost a Nobel Prize. That’s because their amygdala (the emotional control center) is running the show, and it loves drama.
✅ Green thick (means advice 😏) – Don’t argue with a storm. A mid-tantrum kid is like a Windows update—you just have to let it finish. Stay calm, validate their feelings, and redirect. Example:
Kid: “I DON’T WANT TO BRUSH MY TEETH!”
You: “Oh no! The sugar bugs are throwing a party in there!”
Kid: “… Sugar bugs?” (Goes to brush teeth immediately.)
I mean something like that. It works with my baby siblings always. They are literally eating my brains on holidays.
The Psychology of “Why Though?”
During my work as a primary teacher, there was always a psychologist to help the children, and I just loved to understand and do it myself. So…
Kids Are Wired to Say "No" Just to Test Reality
It’s not personal. Their job is to push boundaries. Your job is to outmaneuver them.
✅ Yep, that’s all. So, use Reverse Psychology. Example:
“You probably can’t clean your room in 5 minutes. You’re not that fast.”
They will sprint to prove you wrong. All children do that—but don’t use it too much. They eventually find out.
Their Attention Span Is That of a Goldfish on Espresso
Kids’ brains are like 37 open tabs, and you’re just trying to be the one they actually focus on.
✅ Make everything short and fun. Want them to study? Use a game. Example:
“I bet you can’t solve this math problem before I count to 10.” Even sending them outside or showing them a reward helps.
Break tasks into tiny chunks. Instead of “Do your homework,” try “Solve these three questions first.” Then slowly increase it.
Now for the fun part—The Art of Outsmarting (With Love, of Course)
Turn Everything Into a Game 🎮
Instead of “Eat your veggies,” try “I bet you can’t crunch louder than me.”
Instead of “Go to bed,” try “Race you to brush your teeth! I bet I’ll win.” Or just, “Gonna race you down!”
The Power of Bribery (Ahem, ‘Incentives’) 🍦
Kids work better when there’s a reward system. Even adults do.
“Finish your homework, and you get 10 extra minutes of TV.”
“If you get dressed fast, you get to pick the bedtime story.”
Remember to Laugh More, Argue Less 😆
Humor disarms kids. It makes learning and discipline fun. Example:
Instead of “Sit still,” say, “Are your pants made of fire ants? Because you can’t stop moving.”
Instead of “Be quiet,” say, “Shhh… I think I hear a ninja sneaking around.”
Works all the time, but sometimes it can end up tricking you—if you have a real ninja there!
Cheeky, Kids Aren’t Impossible—They’re Just Future Geniuses in Chaos Mode
They resist, they test, they push buttons. But they also learn, love, and grow. The trick isn’t to control them—it’s to guide them like a ninja master, using psychology, humor, and the occasional well-placed cookie.
And if all else fails… just remember: They eventually sleep. 😴
Uhhhh. Peace time! 🤣
Danka!!!!!