How much time do you have to make a first impression?
I know that first impressions matter, that they are extremely important. Does anyone know exactly how long you have to make a first impression?
Thank you!
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Daniela Silva
Daniela’s Answer
Everybody knows how important first impressions are. But not everybody knows that the "first impression" is actually only a seven second window upon first meeting someone.
To nail the interview and be remembered well here are seven things to do in those crucial seven seconds from The Graduate Recruitment Bureau:
1. Smile. Facial expression is so important when it comes to making a good impression. You need to make sure your expression is saying more about you than words could in a split second. Make sure you don’t have a false, cheesy grimace slapped across your face- they will know it is fake and masking nerves, arrogance or nonchalance.
2. Shake their hands. The handshake is the universally accepted signal of professionalism, politeness and confidence. A good handshake is a fine art; a tricky balance between a tight squeeze and a limp stroke. It needs to say "I mean business" and also "I’m cooperative," so you might want to perfect it beforehand. Additionally, make sure you shake all their hands if there are multiple interviewers. You don’t want to get in one of their bad books because you only acknowledged the person in the middle, or the "main" interviewer. Greet them all separately and you will have successfully presented yourself well, creating their good impression of you.
3. Introduce yourself. The chances are someone probably called you from a waiting room with a file of notes about you, so they know who you are. But even so, when you shake their hands just say "Hi I’m Ashley;" they will then introduce themselves and you can reply "lovely to meet you" or something similar. It breaks the tension and gives the first few seconds a conversation topic. It also means you are less likely to waffle on about irrelevances, like the temperature in the waiting room, or clam up completely and not say anything. Every one of the seven seconds needs to be productive so don’t waste any on random topics- you are there to talk about you, so do so right from the beginning.
4. Speak clearly. There is little point introducing yourself and saying wonderful things if they can’t understand what you are saying. Speak in a competent and confident way making sure what you say is relevant and appropriate; you want to paint yourself in a good light and give them as much, good information as possible. Make sure you don’t speak too loudly and talk at an appropriate pitch- it’s been found that people will take you more seriously if you have a deeper voice. This doesn’t mean you need to go all Morgan Freeman, but think about it, nobody wants an over excited mouse in the office.
5. Maintain eye contact. People perceive you as shifty, nervous or rude when you don’t make eye contact. Therefore, to make a good first impression make sure you lock eyes with the interviewer as soon as you enter the room and maintain it whilst you shake hands and introduce yourself. Don’t stare or be creepy about it, but hold the interviewer’s gaze for at least three seconds at a time throughout the rest of the interview too.
6. Look smart. Appearance is as important as body language and your answers in an interview, so you need your appearance to be fitting for the occasion. Even if the company accepts casual dress, it is good practice to dress smartly for the interview; you’d much rather be overdressed than seen as scruffy. Additionally, remove any extreme piercings, for example facial ones apart from earrings, and cover any visible tattoos with long sleeves or buttoned up blouses. You’ll be judged on your appearance in the seven seconds, so make sure there is nothing that could hinder their first impression of you.
7. Sit down only when invited to do so. After you have shaken all of their hands and formally introduced yourself the natural next step is to sit down. However, it is polite to wait until the interviewer invites you to. They will probably just say"please sit down" or "take a seat," but if you just walk straight in and plonk yourself in front of them it will appear rude and hasty. Additionally, if they then go to shake your hand you have the embarrassment of standing back up and risk getting flustered. The best plan of action to give them a good first impression of you is to do the meet and greet then sit down when you are invited to.
It’s a lot to remember and put in to practice but it will be over before you know it- in seven seconds to be exact. So smile, shake hands, speak clearly and look smart to create the best first impression ever. The rest of the interview is up to you…
Source:
http://www.businessinsider.com/only-7-seconds-to-make-first-impression-2013-4
Good luck!
Joshua Bucens
Joshua’s Answer
Focusing on the task at hand is key. I will give an example of something I like to do before a job interview... I will immerse myself in information about the position and company right up until the call begins, my name is called from the waiting room or before that initial contact.
That way my thoughts are already geared on the right subject matter-- this sounds trivial but our minds wander all the time. I am now ready to go! (Mentally).
From a physical perspective, we should always be dressed for the occasion. I know some people who will wear suits for every interview and swear by it. This just doesn't make sense to me. What I like to do is ask about office attire, this way I am able to dress just as everyone else is, who has already made it past this point and is employed by the company! This will ensure that we are never under-dressed or over dressed & uncomfortable. We have now also demonstrated an interest in being reflective or part of the company's culture.
Part of our physical appearance and another crucial part of first impressions is our body language. It's important to project an air of self confidence but to avoid taking that message too far. The last way you want to portray yourself is arrogant, condescending or in a rude way. You should be proud and confident because YOU ARE AWESOME and have accomplished plenty, but never forget we can always learn something from someone else.
First impressions come to a close when you leave the premises of the workplace. Shake your interviewer's hand, thank them, don't forget to maintain eye contact. Let them know how great it was to learn about the company and culture they have created, I like to make it personal and tie something in that you may have talked about that you are confident was unique to your conversation.
Compose yourself and exit your interview. I have known of some interviewers who will watch you walk down the hall to see how you interact with others or even as you walk to your car to see how you hold yourself when you think you are unwatched. Be composed, confident, and go be great. I believe in all of you! first-impressions interviews interviewing-skills
Megan’s Answer
I have a slightly different perspective in that I don't think that there is a "time limit." I believe that people putting time limits on an interview are often times missing out on a very good candidate. I've hired people in many countries and in those countries, the classic US-centric behaviors aren't really the norm and sometimes people in the US lack these as well. Many of these people when coming in won't look directly at you, can be very soft-spoken, aren't used to shaking hands, etc. I try to give everyone an opportunity to let me know who they are and what they offer and not rush to judgement.
These are a few things that are key in a candidate:
1. Asking questions. Nobody has the time or energy to babysit so while maybe you don't have the absolute best qualifications of a candidate, if you ask questions then I'm going to be more confident that you will survive in the job rather than someone who doesn't.
2. Ask if you don't understand - don't pretend you know something. Computer science is so broad today, nobody expects you to know everything and if they do, I'd never in a million years work for them. Asking for explanations in a respectful way again makes me believe that you will survive. And as a side-note, if you are being interviewed by someone who has ego issues, they will get pumped up believing that they are bestowing their wisdom on you so it is a win-win.
3. Have an active conversation but be a good listener. I've had people who just start talking and talking and talking. I realize that nervousness can play a role but if I've tried to interrupt you and slow you down with questions several times, eventually I will give up. If you're not willing to hear me, then likely it will be the same with others because you cannot get beyond your own opinions and/or assumptions.
4. Do your homework on the company and do the homework on yourself. Prepare answers to as to why this job interests you and more importantly why you are uniquely qualified to do the job.
The things mentioned above by others are nice to do but I find that if you meet someone and say hello and repeat their name, this is a good tactic. Dress should be based on the company and it is fine to ask the recruiter to be specific. Most software companies are not really in the suit and tie business unless you are interviewing on an executive level. Wear something that makes you feel confident.
Above all, don't feel like you need to pad your resume. Lies on resumes are the fastest way out of my door. I've received resumes from people who worked for me before (not by my choice mind you) with obvious lies. I've also received resumes from total strangers who I know are lying because they mention software or a language of some kind in a way which makes it clear they don't have a clue what it is. If your resume is on the short side because you're just starting out, build it by internships, volunteering, creative methods like that. And take advantage of learning new things at every opportunity. This will keep you in the game for a long time and also give you new things to add to your resume.
Best of luck to you.
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Bashobi’s Answer
If there is a panel of people interviewing you, first impressions will allow everyone to get relaxed, even the interviewers.
First impressions at the workplace always would be an ability to demonstrate that you understand the task/problem/solution as a first step. Then depending on your experience level of the issue, first impressions would be ability to listen and follow through step by step. That gives a lot of confidence to people to put their trust in you thereafter.
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Adam’s Answer
WEAR THE UNIFORM: (whether that's an actual uniform or "business casual", etc.). People make an assessment of "Is this the type of person that will do a good job and not be problematic" in 3 seconds flat. Spend some money on classic dress clothes. Take care of it. Make sure it's cleaned and pressed. Good shoes (brown, black). Navy or charcoal is better for younger people (black makes you look like a waiter). You don't want to look like a child, so do not dress too fashionably. Classic professional is probably the best look.
SMILE AND MAKE EYE CONTACT: Look optimistic. There's a lot to be happy about.
BE HONEST AND DIRECT: Tell them what you really, really, truly are after. Remember that you may be working in the same town/industry with this person for 20 years.
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Li’s Answer
Professional behavior
The first impression is very important in the process of communicating with people. Whether a person can attract others' attention can bring good or bad impression from his dressing, speaking and manners, including some subtle actions. Such as look, expression, voice and so on. And everyone feels different for impression, the standard can not be unified. In general, the better professional behavior, the better impression.
For example, when you negotiate, if you put a thick stack of information on the negotiating table, what would you feel about your opponent? The opponent must feel that you have attached great importance to the negotiation, and that you have done a lot of preparation, that you have attached great importance to him, and that you are very professional. And if some documentation and our data is through a crumpled paper submitted to each other, what feeling? He certainly felt that you did not pay enough attention to him, at least not to pay much attention to the negotiation. Therefore, if you are very professional in some detail, it will leave your opponent a very good impression.
Remember: you never have second chance to make a first impression!!!
The first impression will be remembered in only 7 seconds. From the start of contact, 7 seconds of time you have left an impression to the other person, is not professional, can not be able to judge. The performance of professional behavior includes several aspects.
The first is the appearance, dress like that;
The second is the body language and facial expressions, body language including gesture language;
The third is the daily work and life etiquette, such as shaking hands, dialogue, meeting etiquette, elevator etiquette. Appearance, body language, and expression etiquette constitute the whole professional behavior.
双勇’s Answer
2.In the process of communicating with each other, sound volume, voice, intonation, speed and rhythm are very important, directly affecting the sensual feelings of the other. Thus leaving the first impression.
3.The content of a talk is directly related to a person's behavior and accomplishment, because when trying to communicate with others, try to show their knowledge and do not talk about superficial topics or disagreements.
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语’s Answer
Second, to get along with strangers, you have to communicate in a comfortable way. To let other people do not hate you first, and then deepen the impression that you are in front of others.
Third, we need to understand that our life needs to be grasped by ourselves. Other people's impressions are important, but they still need to live in a way they like.
Finally, I wish you to be able to work in your life.
Tiffany’s Answer
If you only have a significant amount of time to interact with that person - yes those initial seconds are very important. Dress the part, smile.
If you have a lot of time to interact with that person - say you "bomb" the first impression, you will have time to win them over again. If you are generally a nice, pleasant person to be around then you will eventually win them over despite making a possible bad impression.
Hope this answers your question...
鹏’s Answer
More than half of the composition of the first impression is related to the appearance of the first impression. It is not only a beautiful face, but also the subtle differences in body, temperament, spirit and clothes.
The first impression has about 40% of the information related to the sound. Tone, tone, speed and rhythm will affect the composition of first impressions.
Only less than 10% of the first impression is related to speech and behavior
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Zhongwei’s Answer
& eye contact, confidence. carefully choose the topic you are going to start with, it is either something related to the event you are attending, or the potential hobbies the contact object might fall into (usually you could tell from the appearance & gestures).
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Sheila’s Answer
Hello Angelina:
In my opinion, first impressions does not necessarily have to have a time frame on it. From my experience, in the case of an interview I want to make sure that I'm 100% prepared by researching the company, asking thoughtful questions, understanding the role, etc. I believe that if you are well prepared making a first impression for an interview can easily be developed with no specific time frame associated. The Interviewer will gain a favorable impression of you by your preparedness, interaction during the session, eye contact, hand shake, etc.
I wish you much success on your journey. Good luck to you!
~ Sheila
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Thulasinathan’s Answer
With every new encounter, you are evaluated and yet another person's impression of you is formed. These first impressions can be nearly impossible to reverse or undo, and they often set the tone for the relationship that follows.
So, it's essential that you know how to create a great first impression. Here are some points that once can be aware of to create a good first impression.
Be on Time – Someone you are meeting for the first time will not be interested in your "good excuse" for running late. Plan to arrive a few minutes early and allow flexibility for possible delays in traffic or taking a wrong turn. Arriving early is much better that arriving late and is the first step toward creating a great first impression.
Present Yourself Appropriately – Of course physical appearance matters. The person you are meeting for the first time doesn't know you, so your appearance is usually the first clue he or she has to make an impression of you.
First, think about the way that you dress. What is the appropriate dress code for the meeting or occasion? In a business setting, what is the appropriate business attire? Suit, blazer, casual? And what will the person you'll be meeting be likely to wear? If your contact is in the creative arts or the music industry, a pinstripe business suit may not strike the right note!
For business and social meetings, appropriate dress also varies between countries and cultures, so it's something that you should pay particular attention to when in an unfamiliar setting or country. Make sure that you know the traditions and norms by reading up on the different cultural norms in our section on Managing Around the World.
Be Yourself – Yes, making a good first impression does mean you need to "fit in" to some degree. But it doesn't mean losing yourself or pretending to be someone you're not. The best way to create a good impression is by being your authentic self. Doing this will make you feel more confident, help you to build trust, and earn the respect and integrity from the people you meet.
Have a Winning Smile! – As the saying goes, "Smile and the world smiles too." So, there's nothing like a smile to create a good first impression. A warm and confident smile will put both you and the other person at ease. So, smiling is a winner when it comes to great first impressions. But don't go overboard with this – people who take this too far can seem insincere and smarmy.
Be Open and Confident – When it comes to making a good first impression, body language can often speak louder than words. Use your body language to project appropriate confidence and self-assurance. Stand tall, smile (of course), make eye contact, greet with a firm handshake. All of this will help you to project confidence and encourage both you and the other person to feel more at ease.
Almost everyone gets a little nervous when meeting someone for the first time. But this can lead to unwanted side effects, such as nail biting, the "jitters" or sweaty palms. By being aware of your nervous habits, you can try to keep them in check. See our article on relaxation techniques for help with this.
Remember you are meeting another Human Being NOT an Alien!
Be Positive – Your attitude shines through in everything you do. So, project a positive attitude, even in the face of criticism or in the case of nervousness. Strive to learn from your meeting and to contribute appropriately. Finally, show that you are approachable by maintaining an upbeat manner and smiling!
Be Courteous and Attentive – It goes without saying that good manners and polite, attentive and courteous behavior help make a good first impression. In fact, anything less can ruin the one chance that you have at making that first impression. So be on your best behavior!
Set aside distractions, for instance, by turning off your mobile phone so that you can give the person your full attention. And don't get sidetracked by other people. After all, what kind of first impression would you create if you are more interested in talking to someone else? Your new acquaintance deserves 100 percent of your attention. Anything less and you'll likely make them feel unimportant or even irritated.
Bill’s Answer
I am a firm believer that you will not get a second chance to make a first impression. However, I also feel that you can overcome a lasting impression by changing the perception through your hard work and effort.
I wish you all the best in your future pursuit.
Bill
Brent’s Answer
I don’t believe that there is a certain time. It could be immediately or over the span of an interview.
The more realistic way to look at this is that you have “one chance” to make a first impression.
So be ready to give them the best you!!
Sowmya’s Answer
Despite what you might think, first impressions aren’t as simple or straight forward as you’d like them to be.
Below I want to explain more about first impressions, and tell you how to not waste the first 7 seconds.
Just Handshake & smile.
Sarah’s Answer
When I interview, I scan the candidate and form my opinion immediately. Personal grooming is a first indicator of the self esteem and essentially, can give you warning signs without even speaking.
Thulasinathan’s Answer
With every new encounter, you are evaluated and yet another person's impression of you is formed. These first impressions can be nearly impossible to reverse or undo, and they often set the tone for the relationship that follows.
So, it's essential that you know how to create a great first impression. Here are some points that once can be aware of to create a good first impression.
Be on Time – Someone you are meeting for the first time will not be interested in your "good excuse" for running late. Plan to arrive a few minutes early and allow flexibility for possible delays in traffic or taking a wrong turn. Arriving early is much better that arriving late and is the first step toward creating a great first impression.
Present Yourself Appropriately – Of course physical appearance matters. The person you are meeting for the first time doesn't know you, so your appearance is usually the first clue he or she has to make an impression of you.
First, think about the way that you dress. What is the appropriate dress code for the meeting or occasion? In a business setting, what is the appropriate business attire? Suit, blazer, casual? And what will the person you'll be meeting be likely to wear? If your contact is in the creative arts or the music industry, a pinstripe business suit may not strike the right note!
For business and social meetings, appropriate dress also varies between countries and cultures, so it's something that you should pay particular attention to when in an unfamiliar setting or country. Make sure that you know the traditions and norms by reading up on the different cultural norms in our section on Managing Around the World.
Be Yourself – Yes, making a good first impression does mean you need to "fit in" to some degree. But it doesn't mean losing yourself or pretending to be someone you're not. The best way to create a good impression is by being your authentic self. Doing this will make you feel more confident, help you to build trust, and earn the respect and integrity from the people you meet.
Have a Winning Smile! – As the saying goes, "Smile and the world smiles too." So, there's nothing like a smile to create a good first impression. A warm and confident smile will put both you and the other person at ease. So, smiling is a winner when it comes to great first impressions. But don't go overboard with this – people who take this too far can seem insincere and smarmy.
Be Open and Confident – When it comes to making a good first impression, body language can often speak louder than words. Use your body language to project appropriate confidence and self-assurance. Stand tall, smile (of course), make eye contact, greet with a firm handshake. All of this will help you to project confidence and encourage both you and the other person to feel more at ease.
Almost everyone gets a little nervous when meeting someone for the first time. But this can lead to unwanted side effects, such as nail biting, the "jitters" or sweaty palms. By being aware of your nervous habits, you can try to keep them in check. See our article on relaxation techniques for help with this.
Remember you are meeting another Human Being NOT an Alien!
Be Positive – Your attitude shines through in everything you do. So, project a positive attitude, even in the face of criticism or in the case of nervousness. Strive to learn from your meeting and to contribute appropriately. Finally, show that you are approachable by maintaining an upbeat manner and smiling!
Be Courteous and Attentive – It goes without saying that good manners and polite, attentive and courteous behavior help make a good first impression. In fact, anything less can ruin the one chance that you have at making that first impression. So be on your best behavior!
Set aside distractions, for instance, by turning off your mobile phone so that you can give the person your full attention. And don't get sidetracked by other people. After all, what kind of first impression would you create if you are more interested in talking to someone else? Your new acquaintance deserves 100 percent of your attention. Anything less and you'll likely make them feel unimportant or even irritated.
Mary Ellen’s Answer
Bring your true and authentic self to every situation that presents itself to you. You only have a limit amount of time to make a first impressions -- within a matter of seconds.
Lawrence’s Answer
The 1st impression starts when you meet and last about 2-3 minutes. A persons overall impression can change during the interview process that last about 30-45 minutes. A bad 1st impression can be changed to a good impression and vice-versa.
Stephan’s Answer
Hi Angelina , this is a very good question and you got some helpful and knowledgeable answers here already. Just to add, it is all about being you in a sense of being yourself and as long as you will show some interest and positivism, I believe you will be successful.
I had some successful interviews , where we had some good but quite relaxed conversations. And didn't get some jobs, where I thought I was brilliant , but to focused ( potentially overdressed etc. ).
All the Best
Stephan
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Lao’s Answer
I truly believe first impression is everything when it comes to personal and business relationships. According to this article you have less than 30 seconds to make a good first impression. Personally, I feel like the first entire interaction is important as that is how they will remember you when they walk away. I hope this helps and feel free to check out the article below.
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Cynthia’s Answer
You only have a few seconds to make a 1st impression however you can always change ones perception of you.
Steven’s Answer
I don't believe there is ever an end to making a good impression, it's more about who you are trying to impress. Your first impression will be made without any preparation on your part, the lasting impression is how you follow through to show your attitude by follow up, asking questions, and being genuine about what you want to be a part of.
Michael’s Answer
Do not beat yourself up if you feel you first impression could've been better.
Impressions can change over time.
If you are in a professional setting I would say continue to strive to make every interaction count.
Think of everyday as an interview. Always be willing to take on extra projects and demonstrate your value to the company.
Dress to impress when you are at work and keep a positive attitude. Employers notice when the going gets tough you still keep a smile on your face and that positivity is contagious. Know that if you are consistent in demonstrating a professional appearance and positive demeanor your employer will take note.
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Heena’s Answer
It depends on the situation .
Roberto’s Answer
1) to be on-time at the first meeting. Never arrive late and bring excuses. Plan to be there 30 minutes before, and wait outside by taking a drink and relax.
2) Be prepared and learn about the company on the web, so that you demonstrate interest and ability to learn
3) be humble and share the value you can bring
Richard’s Answer
Hi Angelina,
First impression are created in very quick span of time ; may be seconds and would be created in first few lines of your conversation.
It depends on
- Way you present yourself to the opposite party
- your body language
- your frame of mind
- how do you approach the question
- Your attire to some extent
- Attitude you display
First impression stick quite permanently and is very crucial to win the interview or conversation.
All the very best !!
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Kimberly D (Attops)’s Answer
Some say First Impressions are made in the first 7 seconds. But First Impressions are based on a wide range of characteristics: age, culture, race, gender, language, physical appearance, accent, posture, voice, number of people present, and time allowed to process.
First impressions may be longer if you are meeting on the phone or over video.
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Shane’s Answer
In my opinion, even the time you spent with the person in the elevator (typically less than 1 minute) you would like to make the first impression to is enough. You need to be ready on what you are going to talk about and you need to summarize and shorten your answer to provide concise description of yourself, ideally with one sentence. When you are constructing that summary line, make sure that it is relevant to the subject area that you are planning to continue the conversion with that person. Otherwise, it will be completely awkward.
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Eiman’s Answer
While working at a very big company, I can say that everyday is an interview. Everyday one should strive to be their very best. One should always come into the office as if they are going to an interview because you never know what eyes are observing your day to day actions. Furthermore, impressions are typically made very quickly in a corporate environment. Lastly, its safe to say that you can always change individuals impressions of oneself as well by performance and communication.
I hope that this response has provided some insight on first impressions in corporate America.
Best of luck!
Candace’s Answer
That all depends on the person. Some people will set that impression on how you look without hearing a word out of your mouth. Others will take the time to learn about you. Others still will let that build over several encounters.
Rahul’s Answer
First impressions are not as simple or straight forward as you would like them to be.
Whatever study or figure you choose to follow, what's sure is that first impressions are pretty quick.
In this short amount of time and hurry, you might not even have the time to speak.
Your body language and facial expressions need to extend and correlate with the image you created with your outfit. So maintain strong posture, and of course make good eye contact.
Rest is history.
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Leigh’s Answer
I have worked for people over the years that never opened up to changing their perception on someone due to their first impression and first time interacting with them. That is why I have always adopted the phrase and way of thinking in the business world that "perception is reality" and in many cases it can become that.
Stephen’s Answer
1. You need to look the part - make sure your dress is appropriate and tidy - suit pressed, shoes clean hair combed etc.
2. You should have a smile on your face but don't make it a false smile - be yourself.
3. You need to be relaxed and be yourself - don't try and impress - be yourself and you will impress.
4. People can tell if you are not being true to who you are - you will not be relaxed
5. Answer the question you are asked in as few words as you can while making sure you cover the question entirely - don't waffle!
6. Don't make up stuff - if you don't have an answer be truthful and tell the interviewer so - if you make something up and it happens to be incorrect, you might as well walk out!
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Patty’s Answer
They say you make a first impression in about 6 seconds after meeting a person for the first time. It is largely unconscious but arguably the most important impression anyone could ever make on anyone else. The first impression is the filter through which that person will perceive you going forward so it is vitally important to be "perfect" in all the ways over which you have control over this process. Have I completely scared you yet? Well let me help you prepare for it.
Many folks will tell you that you must dress professionally and look polished and elegant; that you must smile naturally, nicely, and sincerely; that you must shake hands firmly while looking straight into their eyes with a very confident, authoritative gaze-- they are not wrong. but if you are not comfortable with yourself, you will not present a good image even if you feel you have accomplished all these things.
I always say, "fake it 'till you make it." When I am getting prepared for a really important interview, I pretend I am an actress researching a part. I try to find out whatever I can about the person, the job, the company, and ANYTHING else, and then I imagine what that person expects. It's human nature for someone to gravitate toward someone that looks, walks, talks, smells, thinks, etc., just like themselves. While in recent years, there is a lot of criticism about this with respect to bias-- conscious, unconscious, or otherwise, it's human nature and that's something very difficult to change. So before even making that first impression, you need to reconcile whether you are willing to adapt-- how to do that is a WHOLE other conversation entirely, and I believe not the scope of your question. But suffice it to say, sometimes it's better to walk away and say, "it's not worth it."
With that said, once you have resolved that this is something you really want to pursue and worth whatever "stuff" you will have to endure, then find that outfit in which you feel the most comfortable, confident, empowered, fearless. Even if it's not what is usually expected for that venue, that confidence will make you glow and THAT's what that person will see. That takes care of the first 2-3 seconds. Next is to follow up with a firm, strong handshake WHILE looking that person straight in the eyes with that confidence that your outfit is making you feel. Ensure that you have a relaxed, natural smile and keep maintaining eye contact. That takes care of the next 3-4 seconds. Practice these steps in front of a mirror. While waiting to meet the person, if you are feeling excessively nervous, pause, close your eyes, take a deep breath and blow it out slowly, and imagine yourself in your happy place. Take another deep breath and tell yourself you can do this, before you go in to meet the person.
I hope this helps. Best of luck to you!
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Amrita’s Answer
Here’s a situation that you might be able to relate to:
You’re walking down the street. You see somebody walking toward you from the opposite direction. It’s a woman. You notice her clothes. She’s wearing an expensive looking suit and is impeccably groomed. She takes large strides and walks fast. You think to yourself, “she must have an important job, she’s probably a powerful woman”. You can imagine her being the leader of a large office and living in a big house. You’ve imagined all of this without that person saying a word!
Here’s the psychological process you just went through in those 7 seconds:
First, you looked at the woman’s appearance. Her clothes looked expensive and she was well groomed. This led you to think she was successful and wealthy.
Second, you looked at her body language. She took large strides and walked fast. This led you to think she was confident, powerful, and determined to get where she wanted to go.
Third, you made assumptions about other areas of her life such as her job and her lifestyle. Based on her clothes and body language, you thought she must have a high-powered job, be in charge of a large office, and live in a large house.
Fourth, from the few seconds you saw this woman, you formed a first impression filter. So if you bump into this woman again at your local coffee shop, everything you see or hear about her will be filtered through the first impression you just formed.
When you meet somebody for the first time, you immediately start taking in and processing information about them. You first look at their outfit and appearance. Then, you look at their body language to make decisions about that person.
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Carole’s Answer
"nice to meet you", You wait until she is turns to speak with you and ask that first question, which by the way, could make you look very good or not so good depending how you answer; also , don't show that you are nervous, but just be yourself with ease and confidence; after answering the first question you will probably get other questions about yourself;3 You will also get questions on the jobs that you have experience and this is where you will really shine if you do some research on the company you are interviewing with; This is where you have to do your best, because you have to know what this company does and what you can bring to this company that will impress them; you actually should have those answers memorized so that you can clearly sell yourself and your skills that would make this company want to offer you a job. 4. You must have a
real good idea for why you would like to have this particular job. 5.It is always good idea if you ask for the interviewer's card so that you can write a thank you note for the interview that you just had. There are things that idea did not specify, but each company has ways of giving interviews.
6. Lets say that money is either told to you or you know it before the interview. Usually the interviewer brings it up and they might say "What kind of salary are you expecting? Have an appropriate salary on your mind so that you don't make it too high or low. I have a book that I will suggest for you to read listed on the bottom. I hope this will help give you more confidence and ease to get an job offer that you want!
Carole recommends the following next steps:
Margarita’s Answer
Being involved in the community I have encountered several individuals that the unless you get to know them you would think they were rude and mean individuals others who appear to be goofy and dumb. All because how they entered a room. Simple advice my mom always shared, arrive on time, look your best, smile, smile and smile.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/first-impressions
Suzanne’s Answer
For interviews, make sure you conquer the things you have control over, such as:
1. Arrive early, don't be late.
2. Dress for success. Even if the company is casual, your attire should be interview appropriate.
3. Smile! It shows excitement and confidence.
4. Shake hands. Don't be afraid to put your hand out first. Again, eluding confidence will help make that great first impression.
5. Get personal, don't be afraid to ask how their day is going....start the conversation, don't wait for the interviewer to start the dialogue. You never know where one simple question may lead. You may connect on something outside of work, which will make you memorable.
Hope this helps!