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Confidence and Body Language?
What's the best way to show confidence through body language?
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Cristina’s Answer
Hello!
The best way to show confidence is to feel it as David said. To really feel it, you should go to the interview thinking that YOU need to like them instead of them liking you. If you go there trying to impress them there is an element of neediness in your body and they sense it unconsciously.
When you go there thinking, "I am the person bringing the value and I need to see if I like them", the vibe changes. If you value yourself, it shows in the body language.
This way of looking at interviews also helps in choosing the job. If you do not click with them during the interview or you think they are not "good enough" for you, then you should not take the job because you will be unhappy. Or you take the job and change it very soon.
Trust yourself and go to the interview with the attitude that you interview them!
The best way to show confidence is to feel it as David said. To really feel it, you should go to the interview thinking that YOU need to like them instead of them liking you. If you go there trying to impress them there is an element of neediness in your body and they sense it unconsciously.
When you go there thinking, "I am the person bringing the value and I need to see if I like them", the vibe changes. If you value yourself, it shows in the body language.
This way of looking at interviews also helps in choosing the job. If you do not click with them during the interview or you think they are not "good enough" for you, then you should not take the job because you will be unhappy. Or you take the job and change it very soon.
Trust yourself and go to the interview with the attitude that you interview them!
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david’s Answer
The best way is to FEEL confident. If you are not feeling that way, then remind yourself that there is no reason to not be confident: you know your subject material, you know why you are with the group you are with, you have nothing to apologize for, you are in no way inadequate to where you are, so the next step is to project that attitude. The more you feel that way, the easier your confidence shows to others. Some tips:
- stand erect, no slumping over
- look people in the eye when speaking to them. smile.
- speak clearly and slowly. don't rush your speech. avoid use of 'uh' to fill air time between sentences.
- don't fidget with your hands. let them lie in your lap or at your side
- introduce yourself to others and offer a handshake. make the handshake firm.
- if sitting, do not lean back in the chair. when speaking, lean forward slightly.
- stand erect, no slumping over
- look people in the eye when speaking to them. smile.
- speak clearly and slowly. don't rush your speech. avoid use of 'uh' to fill air time between sentences.
- don't fidget with your hands. let them lie in your lap or at your side
- introduce yourself to others and offer a handshake. make the handshake firm.
- if sitting, do not lean back in the chair. when speaking, lean forward slightly.
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Ron’s Answer
Hi Ve,
I think everyone has captured great advice so far! The only thing I would recommend in addition is to take plenty of time for yourself and practice. You can practice in a mirror or once you're comfortable practice with close friends who can give you some good feedback.
You can also record yourself on your phone and play it back to get quick feedback from a viewer's perspective.
Practice makes progress and with enough practice you'll grow and be a much better speaker and presenter.
It also helps to practice with the topic that you're interested in or comfortable with because it's also a great way to learn about that topic as well.
Practice in front of a mirror with friends or record yourself with a phone
Ask for feedback! Others can help us see things that we might miss in our blind spots
Consistent practice over time will lead to great gains in progress
I think everyone has captured great advice so far! The only thing I would recommend in addition is to take plenty of time for yourself and practice. You can practice in a mirror or once you're comfortable practice with close friends who can give you some good feedback.
You can also record yourself on your phone and play it back to get quick feedback from a viewer's perspective.
Practice makes progress and with enough practice you'll grow and be a much better speaker and presenter.
It also helps to practice with the topic that you're interested in or comfortable with because it's also a great way to learn about that topic as well.
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