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Shaina
Student
Bacolod, Western Visayas, Philippines
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How can I be back on track again?
How can I bring that old me? I lost track after I broke up, school's stressing me out and I just want to be lazy around with the TV on. Lost my passions and I want a break but, I can't take a break because of my responsibilities and the "ability" to be on one like a weekend trip.
I know my WHY's but I just can't seem to be disciplined and consistent enough to do so. In addition to that, I experienced analysis paralysis + short-term memory loss.
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Silvana Bernhardt
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Dallas, Texas
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Silvana’s Answer
Hey there, Shaina! I'm really sorry to hear that you're going through a tough time. I hope things start looking up for you soon. Just remember, it's completely normal to feel the way you do, especially when life throws us curveballs.
You know, it's perfectly fine not to be on cloud nine all the time or not have a burning passion for something. Life is a rollercoaster, and it's okay to feel lost sometimes. The important thing is to remember that nothing is permanent, and everything will pass eventually.
Don't put too much pressure on yourself to be constantly passionate. Social media often paints a picture of a 'happy, adventurous, fun-loving young person', but that's not the reality all the time. You're not wasting your life if you're not always on the go.
If you're pressed for time and can't make drastic changes right now, why not try to enjoy the simple things in life? Maybe have a relaxing breakfast on your balcony, or connect with nature in any way you can. Try cooking new recipes or have a leisurely chat with friends or family on a grassy lawn. Sharing your feelings with others is crucial, so kudos to you for doing that. There are also mindfulness and breathing exercises available online that many find helpful in both their personal and professional lives.
Above all, remember to take it easy and cut yourself some slack. Accept yourself as you are right now, knowing that this is just a phase and things will get better with time and patience. Take good care of yourself and don't hesitate to reach out to friends, family, or professionals when things get too heavy to handle alone.
You know, it's perfectly fine not to be on cloud nine all the time or not have a burning passion for something. Life is a rollercoaster, and it's okay to feel lost sometimes. The important thing is to remember that nothing is permanent, and everything will pass eventually.
Don't put too much pressure on yourself to be constantly passionate. Social media often paints a picture of a 'happy, adventurous, fun-loving young person', but that's not the reality all the time. You're not wasting your life if you're not always on the go.
If you're pressed for time and can't make drastic changes right now, why not try to enjoy the simple things in life? Maybe have a relaxing breakfast on your balcony, or connect with nature in any way you can. Try cooking new recipes or have a leisurely chat with friends or family on a grassy lawn. Sharing your feelings with others is crucial, so kudos to you for doing that. There are also mindfulness and breathing exercises available online that many find helpful in both their personal and professional lives.
Above all, remember to take it easy and cut yourself some slack. Accept yourself as you are right now, knowing that this is just a phase and things will get better with time and patience. Take good care of yourself and don't hesitate to reach out to friends, family, or professionals when things get too heavy to handle alone.
TRAVIS UPCHURCH
Federal Contract Admin
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Austin, Texas
Updated
TRAVIS’s Answer
Dont be afraid to consider talking to a therapist. You may have something that is treatable. Dont avoid eating healthy and exercising, because those two things can create a lot of positive outcomes. Meditating or practicing mindfulness are also useful ways to recharge or overcome stress. A book called "Positive Intelligence" gives techniques for practicing these skills.
Jason Larita
Kitchen operations
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Wichita, Kansas
Updated
Jason’s Answer
The person who gave advice before this, is pretty much spot on, id just like to add that you can never control what other people do, trying to navigate thru all of life's lessons and experience is commonly known to all of us at some point in our lives!
Just understand that you are never alone and believe everything happens for a reason and this is just an obstacle you need to happen in order for something better to happen...
It might be difficult to realize now, in time you'll be glad that you've been thru this situation as you will be stronger moving forward, everything in our lives are just life lessons and experiences we need to help us progress and grow.
People, career and everything else in our lives wether positive, negative etc, is all a choice. There isn't anything that we need to do if we choose not to, but we need to live and deal with the consequences of whatever we do or don't do. To keep it simple, your lifestyle is just a choice in order for it to change you only have to change a few choices and you'll see a substantial redirection of your life. Always having a positive attitude and keeping positive people around you will greatly benefit your life, if you generate anything negative, then that's all you'll experience and create for yourself.
You'll have plenty of experiences in life, you can only control what you do, so if you can simplify your mind, and stay positive, you'll be on your way to better/greater life experiences.
Don't put so much pressure on your priorities and have a must do attitude, cause if you need time to gain clarity for your own mental, physical, personal health, then trust your first instincts and do whatever feels right for you... Important stuff will still be just as important later as they are now! You are the STRONGEST person for your future and well being... 1<3 p.s you should=
PRACTICE MIND OVER MATTER, WHERE YOU DON'T MIND & THAT SHHH DOESN'T MATTER ✌️
Just understand that you are never alone and believe everything happens for a reason and this is just an obstacle you need to happen in order for something better to happen...
It might be difficult to realize now, in time you'll be glad that you've been thru this situation as you will be stronger moving forward, everything in our lives are just life lessons and experiences we need to help us progress and grow.
People, career and everything else in our lives wether positive, negative etc, is all a choice. There isn't anything that we need to do if we choose not to, but we need to live and deal with the consequences of whatever we do or don't do. To keep it simple, your lifestyle is just a choice in order for it to change you only have to change a few choices and you'll see a substantial redirection of your life. Always having a positive attitude and keeping positive people around you will greatly benefit your life, if you generate anything negative, then that's all you'll experience and create for yourself.
You'll have plenty of experiences in life, you can only control what you do, so if you can simplify your mind, and stay positive, you'll be on your way to better/greater life experiences.
Don't put so much pressure on your priorities and have a must do attitude, cause if you need time to gain clarity for your own mental, physical, personal health, then trust your first instincts and do whatever feels right for you... Important stuff will still be just as important later as they are now! You are the STRONGEST person for your future and well being... 1<3 p.s you should=
PRACTICE MIND OVER MATTER, WHERE YOU DON'T MIND & THAT SHHH DOESN'T MATTER ✌️
elle m
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Seattle, Washington
Updated
elle’s Answer
I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way. Lots of people experience losing focus or getting off track. But you’re also describing (analysis paralysis, short term memory loss) symptoms of anxiety and/or depression. I encourage you to talk to your doctor and potentially see a therapist. Getting good sleep, focusing on what you can control, etc., is important but your breakup may have been an environmental trigger for anxiety/depression and it’s difficult to “self-care” your way out of what may be a depressive episode for which you need other types of support (treatment and/or therapy). take care.
Jerome Dees Jr.
Sales Professional and Networking Expert
613
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San Francisco, California
Updated
Jerome’s Answer
I think we all have times we fall back. What helps me is to remember what my ideal outcome in life is. For me, helping people, having resources to support myself and my family and making the world better are part of my core values.
Imagine you are getting a lifetime achievement award later in life and someone is introducing you. Take 30 minutes and write down what you’d like them to say. Once done, consider what you’ll need to do to get there. Put that up on your mirror or the back of your front door so you continuously see it.
Hope that helps!
Imagine you are getting a lifetime achievement award later in life and someone is introducing you. Take 30 minutes and write down what you’d like them to say. Once done, consider what you’ll need to do to get there. Put that up on your mirror or the back of your front door so you continuously see it.
Hope that helps!
Katrina Gido
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Katrina’s Answer
It's okay to feel the pain and sadness after a breakup. We are humans and we need to feel this in order to get through the next stage of healing. But don't stay in that stage for too long, bounce back (and only you can do this, so do it quickly), show to him (and to the world at large) that you are worth it and it was his loss! Be braver, be smarter, be bold and beautiful. How to do that? Motivate yourself to be the best you can be, break barriers and start living your dream - of course, one step at a time. But you have to take that ONE and FIRST step!
gregory williams
Teacher
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Hanover Park, Illinois
Updated
gregory’s Answer
The method I used to regain my focus was to find a tool that could help me identify and jot down all the areas needing improvement. I would then review these areas daily. I found this tool in the MSTL planner. Although it costs $40, it's worth every penny as it aids in managing your bills and expenses effectively.
But that's not all - it's packed with features that assist you in noting down everything from your 3 to 5-year plans, life goals, to even your weekly desired purchases. Each week, it presents a new question that prompts you to ponder about your life. This planner is more than just a tool, it's a companion that encourages you to think, plan, and achieve.
But that's not all - it's packed with features that assist you in noting down everything from your 3 to 5-year plans, life goals, to even your weekly desired purchases. Each week, it presents a new question that prompts you to ponder about your life. This planner is more than just a tool, it's a companion that encourages you to think, plan, and achieve.
Terry Dinterman
Leader of software development teams
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Palatine, Illinois
Updated
Terry’s Answer
Understanding your emotions is completely normal, and your ability to do so is a fantastic start. Remember to concentrate on aspects within your control. Simple things like getting a good night's sleep, maintaining a healthy diet, and incorporating even a small amount of exercise can greatly impact your overall wellness. Make sure to take a consistent pause in your day to jot down your feelings and thoughts. Above all, it's crucial to find a friend or two with whom you can share your experiences. This journey is yours, but you don't have to walk it alone.
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