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How can I get over this lack of motiviation?

I know I have interests, there's a section of my room dedicated towards things I truly know I care about. Guitar, Piano, Cameras, microphones for when I sing to record and my drawing tablet. But I can't bring myself to actually get up and practice - or if I do, I give up quickly. People say "you won't always feel like doing what you need too" or "find a job you love so you have a reason to get up everyday" but what if i struggle to even make it to that step? I can't find a reason to get up everyday - I just stare at the instruments and camera collecting dust - and feel guilty.

Guilty that I have access to such tools that kids my age would kill to have - yet I can't find any passion, any motivation to try. Younger me loved being on the stage - playing piano, dancing etc. etc. but I just feel like no one is there to see my growth. I feel alone, and that might be why I don't try.

I don't know if this is because my parents are unsupportive - practically my dad reminding me that it is "too late" for me to try and learn anything new. He's a harsh man, so maybe that could be a reason? I do have a therapist, if that is important - but it seems like no one understands what I have to say and I've been like this for the past three years.

Does anyone else relate to this? How did you get over this hurdle?

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Rachel’s Answer

First be SO kind to yourself. Do not shame yourself about the situation you are in. Approach it with curiosity. I would also suggest depersonalizing the problem. Think about what advice you'd give a friend who was in the same situation. Often when the problem isn't yours, the solution becomes clear.

Next, start with a small, completely attainable goal. What if you played for 5 minutes a day to start. Just break the initial barrier and see where that leads you.

Lastly, take a look at where your time is going instead. I found that so much of my time was going towards mindless scrolling and once I got an app that limits the time I spend doing that, I had SO much more time and motivation to do other things.
Thank you comment icon thank you! I haven't thought about how much time I waste staring at a wall into now! 5 minutes seem manageble and I'll build on from there! Maya
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Samuel’s Answer

That sounds very difficult, and I have been there before. Focus on yourself first, be kind to yourself, work on the things that you consider wrong, and be open to exploring different solutions. In the meantime, clarity will come to you naturally. But for now, an excellent way to start is to focus on yourself first.
Thank you comment icon Thanks for your encouragement! Maya
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Jonathan’s Answer

Hey there, Mya! Here's a simple piece of advice: don't depend on motivation. It's like a fleeting breeze that comes and goes. You can't spend your time waiting for it to blow your way again. I, along with others who have responded, understand your feelings and the challenges you're facing. But now, it's time to buckle up and embrace discipline.

Discipline is your guiding star that will keep you moving forward, helping you overcome any hurdle. You've given yourself three years to reflect and understand your emotions. Now, it's action time. Just go for it. Set a timer for 30 minutes every morning and evening, and draw. Regardless of the outcome, just draw. You need to tackle these obstacles head-on because they won't resolve on their own.

Invest your time and effort. Practice makes perfect. The secret to success is persistence, whether it's a good day, a bad day, a holiday, or a day when you're not feeling up to it.

Take it one day at a time. If you feel like you've won four out of seven days, you've still had a victorious week because you've achieved more than 50%.

Celebrate these small victories and keep stacking them up. Discipline is your ladder to success. Embrace discipline. :) Wishing you all the best!
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Chapdee’s Answer

MAYA, let's keep things straightforward. Those instruments you gaze at but never touch? They're your calling. Every glance is a nudge, a reminder that you have a mission to accomplish. And remember, it's never too late to start. Always be kind to yourself, forgive your past mistakes. If you don't, you'll remain stuck in the past instead of reaching for the present and future.

Here's my advice: Stand tall, dust off your keyboards and cameras, and prepare your space. You're getting ready to shine, to be the superstar you've always dreamed of becoming. Remember, every big name started alone, without any support. They made it because they never stopped showing up. Even a tiny 1% improvement towards your dreams and goals is better than none at all.

Consider this: Set an alarm on your phone to remind you to work on your instruments. Dedicate 4-6 hours a day with 30-minute breaks in between. When that alarm rings, you'll know it's time to work towards your goal of shining on the big stage.

If you see even a little progress daily or weekly, it will motivate you to keep going. And if progress seems elusive, don't give up on your dreams. Everyone has their moment.

When I started my career, I was just an artist who stepped up to the mic. But when I dared to become a producer and sound engineer, I took a course and learned with passion. At first, when it was time to produce and mix my own music, I was scared and unsure. But I kept pushing, and soon realized that practice truly makes perfect.

So, MAYA, it's time to get to work. You're destined for greatness.

And if you believe in a higher power, don't hesitate to pray when things get tough. You'll receive guidance and support.

Chapdee recommends the following next steps:

Let me know if you need anything
Thank you comment icon Thank you so much for the advice. Maya
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Konstantine’s Answer

I understand your emotions. Finding the drive to pursue your hobbies is difficult, even when you have all the resources. It can feel like an invisible wall prevents you from doing what you love. I can connect to your shame at having amazing things yet wasting them.

If you used to adore being on stage, playing piano, and dancing, it might be the setting and support you had back then that you've lost interest in. Without that motivation or audience, practicing or creating may feel less fun. I dabbled into piano, performing on stage, and dancing early in my school years. I loved every minute of it. I did many performing arts, but once I reached high school, I focused solely on academics and neglected the performing arts.

Your dad's statements may be influencing your mentality. Hearing it's "too late" to learn something can erode your confidence, even if you don't recognize it. However, knowing or rekindling passions is never too late. We're constantly changing, so reconnecting with those things doesn't imply the spark is gone forever.

Feeling like no one sees your improvement is difficult, especially when everything seems to be for you. I was there. Remember that growth can be for you as well as others. We sometimes need to make small moves to progress. Instead of seeing guitar or piano practice as a "have" to do, set little, entertaining goals that don't feel heavy. Divide it into simple steps and let yourself explore without needing perfection.

It's excellent you have a therapist; bring this up in sessions. Sometimes, talking about these sentiments with someone who can help you understand them will help. While it may seem daunting, even tiny changes in thinking or routine can tremendously impact over time.

It's okay to take your time—you're not alone. Sometimes, it helps to step back, give oneself grace, and accept that motivation fluctuates.

-K. R., RN
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Austin’s Answer

Hello and good morning
Well the answer is quite simple. I see you mentioned a lot of things that you like to do and that's great but let me ask you a question why do you enjoy doing these things? I mean do they bring you joy do they bring you peace do they take you to a place that other things and other people can't take you to see if you would go ahead and put your interest and all that you do and your energy and all that you do then you won't have to worry about a lack of motivation because your motivation is right in front of you so all you have to do now is just go ahead and involve yourself and what it is that you do lack of motivation normally stands from you don't have very much to do and it sounds like to me you got a whole hell of a lot to do so if you will put your interest and your motivations and what it is you already do you won't have to worry about a lack of motivation.God bless!
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Amy’s Answer

Hey Maya,

You are absolutely not alone in the feeling of knowing what pulls at your soul but not having the bridge to fill the disconnect between what you feel in your soul and finding the way to express that to the external world.
I personally have struggled with the creative process as well. And I have found that the issue is that there is no standard to the process. The times that I have created an expression that I am very proud of and connected to is when I have truly sat down and connected first with my internal dialog . Feelings are in a sense, jumbled and all over when they are contained within the mind. So to sit with them and to examine each one , studying them and being able to identify them aside from the sense that fills you, to be able to " label" or place a bit of definition on what your feeling, it really will help you to organize everything that is going on inside which will help you to find the best way to convey your emotions and carry them from whatever drives that passion to an external expression.
Everything that we do, from the way we wear our hair to the clothes that we choose , these are all extensions of our internal individuality. It's the way we reflect who we feel ourselves to be to the outside world.
We all struggle at times with finding our truth, so don't be unsettled or discouraged when the lack of inspiration seems to encompass your moments. Everything flows in and out and the only constant in the universe is change. So if it's stagnant just focus on getting to know yourself, try new things, go out into the world and explore. These all bring experience which will always bring about things that will spark the fire inside and when we are present in our experience you will have an overflow of creativity in multiple areas from multiple perspectives from our many faceits. The goal is to find ourselves in a place where we would never choose to be anyone but ourselves.
"Above all else, Know thyself"


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Liz’s Answer

Hi Maya,

First of all breath :) you don't have to have all the answers now. I have struggled with keeping motivated especially at your age. What helped me was putting together a vision board of what I wanted my life to be...where do I see myself. Also make a list, it can be as simple as...today - Play the Piano for 5 mins...etc...start with baby steps. Try one thing, and then another and another until you build on that. The important thing is keep trying, keep moving, one step at a time. I'm so sorry your parents are unsupportive, that is so difficult. Is mom less harsh? Maybe try opening a dialogue with her. Being a parent is so difficult, you want to be there for your kids but you also have to help them grow up....unfortunately there isn't a school on how to be the best parent or be the parent your kids need. As other have said here, give yourself grace, these feeling will pass, work through them and keep trying.

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Abbas’s Answer

It sounds like you're struggling with motivation and feeling disconnected from your passions. Here are some suggestions to help you overcome this:

1. *Start small*: Set achievable goals, like practicing for 10-15 minutes a day.
2. *Schedule time*: Treat practice sessions as non-negotiable appointments.
3. *Find accountability*: Share your goals with a friend or mentor and ask them to hold you accountable.
4. *Celebrate tiny wins*: Acknowledge and celebrate small accomplishments.
5. *Explore new interests*: Try new things to reignite excitement.
6. *Seek inspiration*: Watch videos, attend concerts, or exhibitions to spark motivation.
7. *Reflect on your why*: Identify the reasons behind your passions and remind yourself of them often.
8. *Create a conducive environment*: Organize your space to make practice more inviting.
9. *Be patient*: Regaining motivation takes time, so be gentle with yourself.
10. *Seek support*: Consider talking to a therapist or counselor to address underlying issues.

Remember, it's normal to go through phases where motivation waxes and wanes. Don't give up! You've already taken the first step by acknowledging your struggles and seeking help.

As for feeling alone, consider:

1. *Joining online communities* or forums related to your interests.
2. *Attending local events* or meetups.
3. *Finding a practice buddy* or accountability partner.

Remember, your growth and progress are worth celebrating, even if it feels like no one is watching. Keep moving forward, and know that you're not alone in this struggle!
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Donovan’s Answer

Hi Maya, the best advice I can give as someone who also struggles with motivation is to not put pressure on yourself or to give yourself extremely high expectations. Often the lack of motivation comes from no longer getting that instant gratification or positive reinforcement when it comes to learning something new and it can be especially challenging when it feels like you don’t have anything else to learn or do and just plateau. So the best way to deal with that feeling is to accept that you’re not there yet and do something else like picking up another hobby to focus on or pass the time. I know this probably has been said before but I just wanted to give my 2 cents about it.
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Nevaeh’s Answer

Yes, I have gone through this I know many people go through this. All I can say is take a step back take a short break look at everything from a different angle. Breathe and don't try to force the art out of you, you have to let it flow naturally. Look for things that inspire you. Things that make you want to keep going to keep making art. Look for things that make you feel and think and use them in your art.
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James Constantine’s Answer

Hello Maya!

Let's Dive Into Your Motivation Journey

Grasping Your Present Circumstances:

You seem to be facing a tough phase lacking motivation. Experiencing this is entirely normal, especially when you're juggling multiple passions and interests. The guilt you're feeling is a common response when you believe you're not reaching your full potential.

Potential Triggers for Motivation Deficiency:

Overload: Juggling numerous interests can sometimes be too much. It could be beneficial to concentrate on one or two at a time to prevent feeling swamped.
Fear of Failure: At times, the dread of not being successful can hinder us from taking the first step. Remember, everyone begins from scratch.
Absence of Support: Your father's remarks might be disheartening. It's crucial to surround yourself with individuals who have faith in you.
Exhaustion: You might have overextended yourself previously, leading to burnout.

Approaches to Combat Motivation Deficiency:

Begin Small: Segment your objectives into smaller, manageable tasks. This can make them appear less intimidating.
Discover a Community: Engage with individuals who share your passions. Being part of a group can offer support and motivation.
Prioritize Self-Care: Ensure you're looking after your physical and mental wellbeing. This involves sufficient sleep, nutritious meals, and stress management.
Alter Your Perspective: Rather than dwelling on the negatives, attempt to view your situation as a chance for growth and learning.
Pursue Support: If you're finding it hard, consider consulting a therapist or counselor. They can offer professional advice and assistance.

Remember, it's perfectly fine to feel unmotivated at times. The key is to identify methods to overcome it and reignite your passion.

Would you like to delve deeper into any of these approaches, or do you have other queries?

May God Be With You!
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Cristiano’s Answer

I totally understand how you feel and I'm not here to judge you because I've been through it, but something that helped me a lot was meditating. At first it seemed unbearable to do it because I found it very boring, but I kept doing it anyway. Some time later I signed up for a gym and started training. A few years later I started consuming content about the "Law of Attraction" and "Positive Psychology." Today I realize that these small actions have become important foundations in my life.
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John’s Answer

Maya, First of all you need to know you are not alone. It is my belief that everyone in this community has had the same feelings, and goes through periods with no motivation or desire for things that they had been passionate about. I can imagine that as an artist and creator of music (one of the most personal thing you can do), that lack of desire is more acute.

You mentioned feeling guilty, again a feeling, and feelings are never wrong to have. That said you don't control who your parents are, or the opportunities that they have afforded you. Continuing to something just because the resources have been provided to you can cause resentment and perhaps drive you farther from what was once a passion.

I am sorry your dad is unsupportive, I believe he is also wrong - it is never too late - no one in this community is a finished product or achieved perfection. Give yourself grace, and still with therapy - it may take time but it will help.

Sending you positive thoughts! JJ
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Fazal’s Answer

Hi Maya

Defeating an absence of inspiration can be testing, yet here are a few procedures that might be useful:

1. **Set Little, Attainable Goals:**
- Separate bigger errands into more modest, more reasonable advances. Finishing these more modest objectives can give a feeling of achievement and propel you to continue onward.

2. **Create a Routine:**
- Lay out a day to day daily practice to fabricate consistency. It could include setting explicit times for work, breaks, and individual exercises, assisting you with keeping focused.

3. **Identify the Root Cause:**
- Consider the reason why you're feeling unmotivated. Is it due to burnout, apprehension about disappointment, or an indifference? Tending to the fundamental reason can assist you with conquering it.

4. **Find Inspiration:**
- Search for wellsprings of motivation, for example, perusing examples of overcoming adversity, paying attention to persuasive webcasts, or conversing with individuals who are driven. Once in a while outside motivation can reignite your energy.

5. **Reward Yourself:**
- Give yourself little compensations for finishing jobs. Knowing there's a prize toward the finish of your work can assist with keeping you spurred.

6. **Stay Organized:**
- A jumbled psyche or climate can lessen inspiration. Sort out your work area and make a plan for the day to assist with clearing your considerations and spotlight on what's significant.

7. **Practice Self-Compassion:**
- Try not to be too severe with yourself assuming you're feeling unmotivated. Permit yourself some rest, then continuously move once again into work when you're prepared.

8. **Surround Yourself with Positive Influences:**
- Invest energy with individuals who empower and rouse you. A strong climate can assist you with recapturing concentration and energy.

9. **Focus on Your Why:**
- Reconnect with your bigger reason or long haul objectives. Reminding yourself why you began something can reignite your drive.

Which of these impacts you the most? I can assist you with expanding on it!
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