Maria
What did you have to go through to stay focus on your dream and accomplishing it ?
Im someone that knows exactly what i want and i am whiling to work hard for it, even though it can be hard to stay focus with all the negativity around me. #cosmetology #bilingual-teacher
1 answer
Kim Igleheart
Kim’s Answer
Maria,
It is great to have dreams, and I don't know what your dream is, or what the negativity is that you are experiencing. If the negativity is coming from family, keep in mind that family usually wants (what they think) what is best for you. They want to protect you from falling down and getting hurt, rather than letting you grow up and experience life. This is a natural reaction for a parent.
We, as individuals, have to break apart from parental control when we transition to adults. Everyone goes through it. I encourage you to stay true to yourself, and your dreams! Yet, at the same time, listen to the message being conveyed by others, IF it is worthy of consideration. For example, if they are saying that it is hard to find a job if you major in a particular field, consider adding a minor in business. SOMETIMES there are words of wisdom in all that negativity, based on life experience. Other times, it is just negativity. You need to decide which it is. Also talk to other adults, outside of the family. A close neighbor, a teacher, etc. to see how they interpret the situation. You could also post your plan here on Career Village, on the "Career Plans" tab, to get feedback from total strangers! Read some of the other ones. See how detailed they are. It takes plans to make dreams happen!
The one thing I remember was my parents trying to control my wedding. My mom said that her mom ran her wedding, and she was supposed to run mine, and I could plan my daughter's wedding. I told them I was doing it my way, and if that meant that they did not pay for any part of it, then that was the way it would be. They ended up paying for it, and letting me do it my way. It's nice to have a "Plan B" in life, in case "Plan A" does not work out. However, if at all possible, you really and truly do not want to alienate yourself from your family. When things go bad, they will always be there for you. (My Dad also tried to talk me out of getting married. I should have listened!!!)
Without knowing exactly what you are dealing with, it is hard to give detailed advice. But bottom line, when you are 40 years old, and looking back on where your life went, you will not be happy if you followed someone else's plans for you, rather than your own dream. You only live once!
Best of luck!
Kim