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Biniam
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How can I reach my goals or choose a way?
Trouble making a choice. And feel like time is running from me
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Monica Waldau
Financial Services, Tech, Retail
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Monica’s Answer
Goal Setting 101: reflect/visualize on what you want in life, write down what you want to accomplish as specific as possible, think through how to get there in as much specificity as possible.
Often times, big goals are too broad, too vague and seem too far away. So what do we do? Nothing! Because that's a human, normal response to rationalize how impossible monster-sized goals are. So, we stick with what seems truly attainable, what is realistic, common, and known to us. That's normal -- 100%. So, take big goals and break them down to baby steps. For example, how do you get an A in a really hard class? One assignment at a time. You seek out a tutor, complete all homework/readings, etc.
One perspective counter to this is to acknowledge not making any decisions or choices, is a choice itself. You don't want to be too passive about life and not have any clear goals/objectives. At critical points in our life, we must trust our judgment to make the best decisions given the information we have on hand. Decision making is inherently flawed. You will never have all the information or potential outcomes, and that's okay.
Often times, big goals are too broad, too vague and seem too far away. So what do we do? Nothing! Because that's a human, normal response to rationalize how impossible monster-sized goals are. So, we stick with what seems truly attainable, what is realistic, common, and known to us. That's normal -- 100%. So, take big goals and break them down to baby steps. For example, how do you get an A in a really hard class? One assignment at a time. You seek out a tutor, complete all homework/readings, etc.
One perspective counter to this is to acknowledge not making any decisions or choices, is a choice itself. You don't want to be too passive about life and not have any clear goals/objectives. At critical points in our life, we must trust our judgment to make the best decisions given the information we have on hand. Decision making is inherently flawed. You will never have all the information or potential outcomes, and that's okay.
Mohit Goyal
Software Engineer
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Mohit’s Answer
Time won't pause, yet that doesn't mean you must race alongside it. Although making timely choices is crucial, and some decisions can be critical, not every decision demands immediate action.
To make a decision, the pen and paper technique is always helpful. Start by listing your limitations and priorities. Next, note down the advantages and disadvantages of each option available to you. This process makes it simpler to determine the best choice. Some options will be eliminated due to constraints, and your priorities will guide you in making the right decision.
Once you've established your objective, you can create a plan. Break down your main goal into smaller goals, and continue to divide them as time progresses.
For example, if your goal is to land your dream job, you'll need to achieve good grades, build a strong network, develop necessary skills, and more. You can then further divide and strategize on how to improve your grades, expand your network, and hone your skills.
When planning, it's helpful to use the Eisenhower Matrix (urgent-important quadrant) to organize and prioritize your tasks.
To make a decision, the pen and paper technique is always helpful. Start by listing your limitations and priorities. Next, note down the advantages and disadvantages of each option available to you. This process makes it simpler to determine the best choice. Some options will be eliminated due to constraints, and your priorities will guide you in making the right decision.
Once you've established your objective, you can create a plan. Break down your main goal into smaller goals, and continue to divide them as time progresses.
For example, if your goal is to land your dream job, you'll need to achieve good grades, build a strong network, develop necessary skills, and more. You can then further divide and strategize on how to improve your grades, expand your network, and hone your skills.
When planning, it's helpful to use the Eisenhower Matrix (urgent-important quadrant) to organize and prioritize your tasks.
Anne Hoel
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Ruskin, Florida
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Anne’s Answer
Hi! Be open to experiences and learn from every opportunity. It is okay to not know exactly what you want to do, and you may find that you enjoy doing a variety of work. Everyone doesn’t have the same path to success.
Dino Ubalde
Educator/Psychologist/Life Coach
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Tracy, California
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Dino’s Answer
Hello Biniam, thank you for getting in touch with us and for your inquiry. There's no need for concern, as you're not alone in this situation. Many people, including adults, face similar challenges. To achieve your objectives, it's essential to first identify and categorize them as long-term or short-term goals. This crucial step will help you navigate your priorities and make progress.
Listing your goals is a helpful way to track your progress and remind yourself of how close or far you are from reaching your targets. As a young person, you have plenty of opportunities to develop your skills, enabling you to better manage your time and schedules in the future.
Keep the SMART approach in mind when working towards your goals: Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic, and Time-bound. This method will support you in achieving both long-term and short-term objectives. Best of luck, and remember, if you don't meet your goals, take the time to evaluate your actions, understand why you didn't achieve them, and make the necessary adjustments.
Listing your goals is a helpful way to track your progress and remind yourself of how close or far you are from reaching your targets. As a young person, you have plenty of opportunities to develop your skills, enabling you to better manage your time and schedules in the future.
Keep the SMART approach in mind when working towards your goals: Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic, and Time-bound. This method will support you in achieving both long-term and short-term objectives. Best of luck, and remember, if you don't meet your goals, take the time to evaluate your actions, understand why you didn't achieve them, and make the necessary adjustments.
Mona Ahmadi
Art Instructor, Artist
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Vienna, Virginia
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Mona’s Answer
Hello Biniam. Setting and achieving goals can be challenging, but with the right approach, you can do it and take back control. Here are some steps to take that can help you:
Reflect on your values and priorities: Think about what's most meaningful to you, what interests you, what you want to achieve, and where you see yourself in five to ten years. When you know your values, you can choose the goals that matter to you most.
Defining your goals comes after you've defined your values. Smart goals are specific, measurable, attainable, relevant, and time-bound. This will make it easier to track your progress and stay motivated.
Break your goals down into smaller, manageable steps. This lets you focus on one task at a time and prevents overwhelm and disappointment. Create a timeline or action plan to stay organized and on track.
Prioritize: If you have multiple goals, prioritize them based on their importance and urgency. Focus on one or two goals at a time, and once you make significant progress, you can move on to the next.
Take action: It's essential to take consistent action toward your goals. You can start with the first step, no matter how small it seems. As you gain footing, your motivation will increase, and you'll be more likely to continue.
Seek support: Don't be afraid to ask for help or seek permission from others. Surround yourself with inspirational and motivating people. Join communities or groups related to your goals, as they can provide valuable insights, guidance, and accountability.
Embrace learning and adaptability. Setbacks and challenges are natural parts of the journey. Learn from your mistakes, adjust your approach if necessary, and keep trying. View challenges as opportunities for growth and use them to refine your path.
Manage your time effectively: Time management is crucial when working towards your goals. Break your days into smaller time blocks and specify periods for tasks related to your goals. Minimalize distractions, prioritize your activities, and stay committed to your schedule.
Create some milestones and celebrate yourself when you get there. Acknowledge and celebrate your achievements along the way. Recognizing your progress will boost your confidence and motivation, making it easier to move confidently toward your goals.
Choosing a path and reaching your goals is a personal journey. It's okay to take your time, experiment, and adjust as needed. Trust yourself and believe in your abilities. With consistency and a positive mindset, you can progress and accomplish what you set out to achieve.
I hope it was helpful. I wish you the best of luck and a wonderful journey.
Reflect on your values and priorities: Think about what's most meaningful to you, what interests you, what you want to achieve, and where you see yourself in five to ten years. When you know your values, you can choose the goals that matter to you most.
Defining your goals comes after you've defined your values. Smart goals are specific, measurable, attainable, relevant, and time-bound. This will make it easier to track your progress and stay motivated.
Break your goals down into smaller, manageable steps. This lets you focus on one task at a time and prevents overwhelm and disappointment. Create a timeline or action plan to stay organized and on track.
Prioritize: If you have multiple goals, prioritize them based on their importance and urgency. Focus on one or two goals at a time, and once you make significant progress, you can move on to the next.
Take action: It's essential to take consistent action toward your goals. You can start with the first step, no matter how small it seems. As you gain footing, your motivation will increase, and you'll be more likely to continue.
Seek support: Don't be afraid to ask for help or seek permission from others. Surround yourself with inspirational and motivating people. Join communities or groups related to your goals, as they can provide valuable insights, guidance, and accountability.
Embrace learning and adaptability. Setbacks and challenges are natural parts of the journey. Learn from your mistakes, adjust your approach if necessary, and keep trying. View challenges as opportunities for growth and use them to refine your path.
Manage your time effectively: Time management is crucial when working towards your goals. Break your days into smaller time blocks and specify periods for tasks related to your goals. Minimalize distractions, prioritize your activities, and stay committed to your schedule.
Create some milestones and celebrate yourself when you get there. Acknowledge and celebrate your achievements along the way. Recognizing your progress will boost your confidence and motivation, making it easier to move confidently toward your goals.
Choosing a path and reaching your goals is a personal journey. It's okay to take your time, experiment, and adjust as needed. Trust yourself and believe in your abilities. With consistency and a positive mindset, you can progress and accomplish what you set out to achieve.
I hope it was helpful. I wish you the best of luck and a wonderful journey.
Estefania Ortega Hinojosa
Project Manager
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Mexico City, Mexico
Updated
Estefania’s Answer
You could start trying with small tasks, set a deadline, that usually helps to focus on what you need to do.
If you have a target that can be separated into several minor tasks that can also help, in this case you would need to give an overall timeframe for the bigger task and then according to this you can asses the length the small tasks need to have.
If you have a target that can be separated into several minor tasks that can also help, in this case you would need to give an overall timeframe for the bigger task and then according to this you can asses the length the small tasks need to have.