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Soraya
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Why is it hard to stay determined ?
I am very self-driven. But sometimes, I doubt myself and feel like I can't accomplish the goals I set for myself. It could be I need to more reasons to stay determined, but that's a struggle too.
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Tara Cortez
Chaplin and Volunteer Resources Researcher
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Autryville, North Carolina
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Tara’s Answer
ACHIEVING MINIATURE MILESTONES PAVES THE PATH TO CONQUERING GRANDER GOALS
Often, we overlook the importance of setting and reaching smaller goals on our journey towards our grand ambitions. We tend to burden ourselves with unrealistic expectations. Let's take the example of Chef Ramsey. His journey to becoming a renowned chef wasn't an overnight success. It was a series of smaller victories that led him to his ultimate goal. If you feel overwhelmed by the enormity of your dream, it might be helpful to identify smaller, manageable goals that align with your larger ambition.
Consider the Wright brothers. Before they soared in the skies, they were crafting bicycles. The knowledge they gained from this smaller endeavor paved the way for their ultimate achievement. So, ease the pressure off your shoulders and identify smaller goals that can be achieved in a shorter time frame. These will provide the stepping stones towards your grander goal.
Creating a checklist of smaller tasks helps me track my progress. Here's a sample:
- Identify your ultimate goal.
- Break down this goal into smaller, achievable tasks.
- Estimate the time required to accomplish each task.
- Consider gaining relevant work experience or enrolling in courses.
- Reward yourself upon reaching each milestone.
- Create a vision board to visualize how these smaller goals contribute to your larger goal.
- Include motivational messages or images on your vision board.
- Remember to practice mindfulness and deep breathing throughout your journey.
This checklist has guided me towards numerous milestones in my life, steadily equipping me with the knowledge and skills required for my ultimate goal. I find solace in the fact that there are no true failures, only valuable lessons that teach us how to succeed. Remember, you're human, not a machine. Even machines require human input to function. So, take a deep breath, identify your smaller goals, and start working towards them. I assure you, your grand ambition will eventually be within your reach. Wishing you all the very best on your journey.
Often, we overlook the importance of setting and reaching smaller goals on our journey towards our grand ambitions. We tend to burden ourselves with unrealistic expectations. Let's take the example of Chef Ramsey. His journey to becoming a renowned chef wasn't an overnight success. It was a series of smaller victories that led him to his ultimate goal. If you feel overwhelmed by the enormity of your dream, it might be helpful to identify smaller, manageable goals that align with your larger ambition.
Consider the Wright brothers. Before they soared in the skies, they were crafting bicycles. The knowledge they gained from this smaller endeavor paved the way for their ultimate achievement. So, ease the pressure off your shoulders and identify smaller goals that can be achieved in a shorter time frame. These will provide the stepping stones towards your grander goal.
Creating a checklist of smaller tasks helps me track my progress. Here's a sample:
- Identify your ultimate goal.
- Break down this goal into smaller, achievable tasks.
- Estimate the time required to accomplish each task.
- Consider gaining relevant work experience or enrolling in courses.
- Reward yourself upon reaching each milestone.
- Create a vision board to visualize how these smaller goals contribute to your larger goal.
- Include motivational messages or images on your vision board.
- Remember to practice mindfulness and deep breathing throughout your journey.
This checklist has guided me towards numerous milestones in my life, steadily equipping me with the knowledge and skills required for my ultimate goal. I find solace in the fact that there are no true failures, only valuable lessons that teach us how to succeed. Remember, you're human, not a machine. Even machines require human input to function. So, take a deep breath, identify your smaller goals, and start working towards them. I assure you, your grand ambition will eventually be within your reach. Wishing you all the very best on your journey.
Christopher Benninghoff
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Christopher’s Answer
Imposter syndrome is a concept I find particularly intriguing. It's a state of mind where, despite having a track record of high performance, individuals feel anxious and fail to internalize their accomplishments. This often leads to them feeling like they're "faking it" or "a sham", questioning their own abilities.
The reason I find solace in this concept is that it mirrors the self-doubt that everyone experiences at some point. As others have pointed out, setting small, achievable goals can be a great help. However, it's equally rewarding to reflect on your journey.
There are moments when I feel like I'm stuck, making no headway. But when I look back over the past year or two, I'm surprised by how much I've learned and grown without even noticing. In essence, you're probably doing much better than you give yourself credit for, as we tend to be our own harshest critics.
The reason I find solace in this concept is that it mirrors the self-doubt that everyone experiences at some point. As others have pointed out, setting small, achievable goals can be a great help. However, it's equally rewarding to reflect on your journey.
There are moments when I feel like I'm stuck, making no headway. But when I look back over the past year or two, I'm surprised by how much I've learned and grown without even noticing. In essence, you're probably doing much better than you give yourself credit for, as we tend to be our own harshest critics.
Banny Larios
Manager, Tech Care
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Guadalajara
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Banny’s Answer
That's a fantastic question!
Throughout various stages of our lives, we're often faced with the task of stepping up bravely to confront new changes. I firmly believe that discipline is synonymous with determination. I can draw from my own experiences, where I had to strive to wake up at 5 AM each day to exercise and prepare for work. Initially, it was quite a struggle, but even on days when I lacked the motivation or felt low, I pushed through because I was committed to achieving this personal goal. After a month, I could wake up without an alarm, and now I find that exercise is essential to kickstart my day!
Believe me, there will be days when you might question if it's worth the effort, but don't surrender. Let me share my secret recipe for success:
1. Develop small habits: This will allow you to celebrate small victories. Don't attempt to do everything at once; start with small steps.
2. Understand your reason for determination: Is it a personal goal? Are you doing it for your family? What drives you?
3. Be prepared to establish a routine: Set an alarm and create a schedule. This will help you organize your thoughts and manage your time effectively.
4. Set deadlines: Develop a plan with daily, weekly, and monthly goals. Use any tools at your disposal, like your phone or a notebook, to track your progress.
I have faith in you! I know you'll excel and become a determined individual, regardless of the obstacles you face. You've got this!
Throughout various stages of our lives, we're often faced with the task of stepping up bravely to confront new changes. I firmly believe that discipline is synonymous with determination. I can draw from my own experiences, where I had to strive to wake up at 5 AM each day to exercise and prepare for work. Initially, it was quite a struggle, but even on days when I lacked the motivation or felt low, I pushed through because I was committed to achieving this personal goal. After a month, I could wake up without an alarm, and now I find that exercise is essential to kickstart my day!
Believe me, there will be days when you might question if it's worth the effort, but don't surrender. Let me share my secret recipe for success:
1. Develop small habits: This will allow you to celebrate small victories. Don't attempt to do everything at once; start with small steps.
2. Understand your reason for determination: Is it a personal goal? Are you doing it for your family? What drives you?
3. Be prepared to establish a routine: Set an alarm and create a schedule. This will help you organize your thoughts and manage your time effectively.
4. Set deadlines: Develop a plan with daily, weekly, and monthly goals. Use any tools at your disposal, like your phone or a notebook, to track your progress.
I have faith in you! I know you'll excel and become a determined individual, regardless of the obstacles you face. You've got this!
Dino Ubalde
Educator/Psychologist/Life Coach
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Tracy, California
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Dino’s Answer
Hello Soraya, we appreciate your connection with us. The issues you're facing are common to all, regardless of age. You've already identified key personality traits - being self-driven, setting goals, and showing determination. These are vital in achieving your aspirations. The only thing that can hinder your progress is self-doubt.
Remember, self-doubt is a universal struggle. It's not a reality but a product of our imagination that can hamper our good intentions. By challenging these doubts and maintaining a positive outlook, you can gradually overcome them.
Start by setting achievable goals. Even small steps can make a big difference. As you begin to realize these smaller goals, you'll gain confidence in your ability to achieve bigger ones. Be open to making mistakes along the way, as they provide valuable lessons. Evaluate your actions and strategies to determine what works and what doesn't.
Personal improvement is a continuous process that we all go through. Be patient and kind to yourself. Don't shy away from taking risks and learning from your errors. Self-doubt creeps in when you stop believing in yourself. Remember, you are your biggest supporter.
When you doubt your abilities, your growth stagnates. So, step out of your comfort zone and learn new skills that can boost your confidence and help you overcome self-doubt.
Remember, self-doubt is a universal struggle. It's not a reality but a product of our imagination that can hamper our good intentions. By challenging these doubts and maintaining a positive outlook, you can gradually overcome them.
Start by setting achievable goals. Even small steps can make a big difference. As you begin to realize these smaller goals, you'll gain confidence in your ability to achieve bigger ones. Be open to making mistakes along the way, as they provide valuable lessons. Evaluate your actions and strategies to determine what works and what doesn't.
Personal improvement is a continuous process that we all go through. Be patient and kind to yourself. Don't shy away from taking risks and learning from your errors. Self-doubt creeps in when you stop believing in yourself. Remember, you are your biggest supporter.
When you doubt your abilities, your growth stagnates. So, step out of your comfort zone and learn new skills that can boost your confidence and help you overcome self-doubt.
Theresa Manchester
Analyst
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Pittsfield, Massachusetts
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Theresa’s Answer
You may be setting either too many or too large goals. I've always been advised by my mentors to set up goals that are achievable in a reasonable amount of time. As you achieve one goal you can add in another goal and continue to move along your path. Goals that are too large can be overwhelming and that can cause your determination to falter.
eva emmer
designer, writer, producer, actor
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Houston, Texas
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eva’s Answer
Because we live in a highly crowded planet with 8 billion people who many like you are determined, talented and hard working, that makes the journey that much more harder and at times it may feel even unlikely...but from what I have learnt in life the odds improve highly the longer you keep at it! Don't give up, no matter what!
Instead of reason for determination, look for motivation from many a great people in history as well as quotes, motivational books that have the power to inspire you beyond your wildest dreams...stay curious!
Instead of reason for determination, look for motivation from many a great people in history as well as quotes, motivational books that have the power to inspire you beyond your wildest dreams...stay curious!
gregory williams
Teacher
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Hanover Park, Illinois
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gregory’s Answer
In my opinion, and I believe many others would agree, social media has become a significant concern in today's society. People are constantly observing celebrities and yearning for their lifestyle. Whether it's their wealth, their careers, or even their fame and fashion, many individuals mimic or strive to replicate what they see because it's trendy. However, it's important to note that not everyone can achieve or get away with this.
Bob Echols
Retired lawyer and ethics officer--current blogger and author of the For Our Friends the Animals quartet.
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Fairhope, Alabama
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Bob’s Answer
What a wonderful question. You show by raising this type of issue a keen insight into some of life's problems.
Allow me to rephrase your question and substitute the word "focused" for the word "determination."
Because being focused requires that you home in on one or two goals exclusively, it is difficult for humans to maintain that level of attention for any period of time. It takes lots of energy and willpower to remain concentrated on any one target, and as you well know in life there are many disruptions and interruptions.
So, dear Eva, accept that your focus or determination will wane from time to time, but when you notice yourself drifting from your goal, simply place yourself back on the path of accomplishment.
One time tested way to get back on the path is to have in mind clear, definable, attainable objectives for yourself. Know what you want to achieve and write those objectives down somewhere so you can always refer to them.
Then when you find your focus or energy flagging, and you will, trot out that list of goals, remind yourself who you are and what you want to accomplish, and get back about it.
You will go far in life, Eva, and your journey will be more pleasant when it is both motivated by your goals and full of forgiveness for yourself when you take an occasional wrong turn.
May God bless you!!
Allow me to rephrase your question and substitute the word "focused" for the word "determination."
Because being focused requires that you home in on one or two goals exclusively, it is difficult for humans to maintain that level of attention for any period of time. It takes lots of energy and willpower to remain concentrated on any one target, and as you well know in life there are many disruptions and interruptions.
So, dear Eva, accept that your focus or determination will wane from time to time, but when you notice yourself drifting from your goal, simply place yourself back on the path of accomplishment.
One time tested way to get back on the path is to have in mind clear, definable, attainable objectives for yourself. Know what you want to achieve and write those objectives down somewhere so you can always refer to them.
Then when you find your focus or energy flagging, and you will, trot out that list of goals, remind yourself who you are and what you want to accomplish, and get back about it.
You will go far in life, Eva, and your journey will be more pleasant when it is both motivated by your goals and full of forgiveness for yourself when you take an occasional wrong turn.
May God bless you!!