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raymond
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Boise, WA
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What should I do now i dont wanna go to school anymore buh my parents keep insisting so what now ? tell me your honest opinion thanks?
JUST NEED to prove to my parents that school aint worth it
ive pitched some ideas to my parents they dont listen
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Michelle M.
Entertainment Industry
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Hello, Raymond !
Quitting school is a serious decision to make and unless you have a serious, viable, logical and sound reason for doing so, you will regret it. It can't be merely oh, I want to quit school. Somehow your awareness of how important education is has gotten lost and there is some reason for it.
Something that you can take into consideration may be what grade are you in ? Also, do you go to a public or private school ? Is the reason for stopping your education based on an emotional, intellectual or social reason ? Also how would you feel about taking and passing a GED and depending on that to obtain employment you would be happy with ? Exactly how and what did you tell you parents ? This all makes a huge difference.
Something you can do is make appointments with both your guidance counselor as well as the school social worker. Get into a detailed conversation with them about what is leading you to stop your education. If you do not have a plan for replacing education, than you can probably start to see why this may not be beneficial to you. When you speak to the people at your school, most likely they will offer alternatives such as changing schools, going to a specialized school such as a Montessori or Waldorf school, or online high school, or home schooling. If you have a disability, the school district might be able to set you up for assisted school at home. You can find out if your school offers that if that is the case.
Another thing you can do to get an idea of how difficult it is to get a job when so many people are being let go from the labor force, even fast food places, changes are happening rapidly. Read employment notices on employment websites and get an idea of what is required to obtain a job. This increases the competition you will have in the job market and people with High School Diplomas, GEDs and college degrees will take priority over you for jobs you may really want.
There's more at stake than just employment, too. How about personal growth ? Do you have a plan for sharpening your social, intellectual and communication skills ? If you don't have a plan in place for this, how will that affect your progress with emotional growth ? Education is an overall many faceted experience.
Honestly, we are all bothered by school at some time or another in our life. You're not alone. If it's because you're bored, do something about it. How involved are you with school clubs, activities and events ? You will most definitely need to make a change since I think your parents would never agree to have their child leave school. Change school, yes, maybe, but you need to have a calm and serious discussion with your parents. You have a choice and you should make this choice for what will be best in your future. You will greatly limit yourself with no high school or college education. It may be able to be done, but why take that chance. It definitely doesn't happen for everyone.
This advice is just about some things to consider and I wish you all the best in your decisions for your future.
Quitting school is a serious decision to make and unless you have a serious, viable, logical and sound reason for doing so, you will regret it. It can't be merely oh, I want to quit school. Somehow your awareness of how important education is has gotten lost and there is some reason for it.
Something that you can take into consideration may be what grade are you in ? Also, do you go to a public or private school ? Is the reason for stopping your education based on an emotional, intellectual or social reason ? Also how would you feel about taking and passing a GED and depending on that to obtain employment you would be happy with ? Exactly how and what did you tell you parents ? This all makes a huge difference.
Something you can do is make appointments with both your guidance counselor as well as the school social worker. Get into a detailed conversation with them about what is leading you to stop your education. If you do not have a plan for replacing education, than you can probably start to see why this may not be beneficial to you. When you speak to the people at your school, most likely they will offer alternatives such as changing schools, going to a specialized school such as a Montessori or Waldorf school, or online high school, or home schooling. If you have a disability, the school district might be able to set you up for assisted school at home. You can find out if your school offers that if that is the case.
Another thing you can do to get an idea of how difficult it is to get a job when so many people are being let go from the labor force, even fast food places, changes are happening rapidly. Read employment notices on employment websites and get an idea of what is required to obtain a job. This increases the competition you will have in the job market and people with High School Diplomas, GEDs and college degrees will take priority over you for jobs you may really want.
There's more at stake than just employment, too. How about personal growth ? Do you have a plan for sharpening your social, intellectual and communication skills ? If you don't have a plan in place for this, how will that affect your progress with emotional growth ? Education is an overall many faceted experience.
Honestly, we are all bothered by school at some time or another in our life. You're not alone. If it's because you're bored, do something about it. How involved are you with school clubs, activities and events ? You will most definitely need to make a change since I think your parents would never agree to have their child leave school. Change school, yes, maybe, but you need to have a calm and serious discussion with your parents. You have a choice and you should make this choice for what will be best in your future. You will greatly limit yourself with no high school or college education. It may be able to be done, but why take that chance. It definitely doesn't happen for everyone.
This advice is just about some things to consider and I wish you all the best in your decisions for your future.
Ken Walsh
Project Manager
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Ken’s Answer
Hi Raymond,
It is tough to answer your question without knowing if you are in high school, college or something else.
I would say at least graduate from high school. Graduating from college with a bachelors degree is preferrable to give you different options. Graduating from college with a two-year degree at a community college is another option. Many public service jobs, such as becoming a Police Officer, require at least a two-year degree now. If you decide not to go to college and get a job in the trades such as being a construction worker and you get hurt, you will not have anything to fall back on. Once you stop going to school, it is tough to go back. I graduated from college after high school and went back to get my MBA at the age of 35. It was tough to get in the mindset of going to class and studying after being out of school for over a decade. It was also difficult to juggle, schoolwork, a wife, kids and a job all at once. If I had to do it over again, I would have went back to get my MBA in my mid to late 20's. This way I would have had some work experience and not had kids yet.
I hope this helps. Best of Luck!
It is tough to answer your question without knowing if you are in high school, college or something else.
I would say at least graduate from high school. Graduating from college with a bachelors degree is preferrable to give you different options. Graduating from college with a two-year degree at a community college is another option. Many public service jobs, such as becoming a Police Officer, require at least a two-year degree now. If you decide not to go to college and get a job in the trades such as being a construction worker and you get hurt, you will not have anything to fall back on. Once you stop going to school, it is tough to go back. I graduated from college after high school and went back to get my MBA at the age of 35. It was tough to get in the mindset of going to class and studying after being out of school for over a decade. It was also difficult to juggle, schoolwork, a wife, kids and a job all at once. If I had to do it over again, I would have went back to get my MBA in my mid to late 20's. This way I would have had some work experience and not had kids yet.
I hope this helps. Best of Luck!
Preché Smith, MBA, PMP
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Preché’s Answer
Like all the others have said, finish high school. But after that, you have many options. You may look into a vocational school, this is not like regular school. You go there to learn a specific skill and then you can work doing that skill. Another option is to become an entrepreneur, if you have any business ideas then you can try and start a business. You can also go straight to working.
When it comes to your parents, they just want to make sure that you will be able to support yourself in the future. They are probably aware of a lot of things that you may face once you get into the "real world" and they might just want to make sure that you have the best possible options moving forward. If you want to prove to them anything, you have to be proactive for yourself. You said you pitched ideas, go full out, give them a step-by-step idea of your plan, show them the possible outcomes from this plan, give them a 5 year and 10 year plan. The main thing is to show them you have a plan, you are working towards something, you will be happy, and you will be able to support yourself.
Good luck!
When it comes to your parents, they just want to make sure that you will be able to support yourself in the future. They are probably aware of a lot of things that you may face once you get into the "real world" and they might just want to make sure that you have the best possible options moving forward. If you want to prove to them anything, you have to be proactive for yourself. You said you pitched ideas, go full out, give them a step-by-step idea of your plan, show them the possible outcomes from this plan, give them a 5 year and 10 year plan. The main thing is to show them you have a plan, you are working towards something, you will be happy, and you will be able to support yourself.
Good luck!
Katherine Avery
Run a music studio and teach private music lessons; teach college-level religion classes
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Spanish Fork, Utah
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Katherine’s Answer
How old are you? How much school do you have left? There are many people who think that education isn't very worth it in America these days, and the quality of what's offered isn't good quality. But in life in general, people are more successful when they are going toward something, than when they are going away from something. So if you don't want school, what is your idea of what you would do instead?
Read Ken Coleman's book From Paycheck to Purpose and it can help you put into words some ideas for moving forward. You might be able to discuss your ideas with your parents, but even if you can't, you can be getting ideas for what you can do before and after you finish school to be able to move forward as soon as you're done to go be successful!
Read Ken Coleman's book From Paycheck to Purpose and it can help you put into words some ideas for moving forward. You might be able to discuss your ideas with your parents, but even if you can't, you can be getting ideas for what you can do before and after you finish school to be able to move forward as soon as you're done to go be successful!
Ismini Miliaresis
ESG Pursuit Manager
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Charlottesville, Virginia
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Ismini’s Answer
I would suggest really exploring what is making you feel anti-school. Is it that you have other plans, you don't see the value, or does it maybe feel too scary/anxiety inducing? Maybe some soul searching on your reasons will help you have a productive conversation with your parents and help you figure out what you really want. Most jobs are hard to get without a college degree. Do you have a real plan for something that doesn't require that?
Sweta Chowdhury
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Sweta’s Answer
Hi Raymond, I am sorry you're being insisted to go to school despite your liking, however, you should back your thoughts with solid reasoning as to WHY. Have an honest conversation with your parents. Explain your feelings, concerns, and alternative plans you might be considering. It’s important they understand your perspective and that you also consider their concerns.
Aside of reasoning out with your parents which you're doing, try introspecting on some of these questions too -
1) Reflect on why you feel disinterested in continuing school - Is it the academic pressure or something else?
2) Consider different educational paths or career options that might be more aligned with your interests. Vocational training, apprenticeships, or online courses could be viable alternatives that still offer career advancement opportunities.
If completely stopping education is not the best option, perhaps you can reach a compromise. This might involve changing your field of study, switching to part-time schooling, or taking a temporary break before deciding the next steps.
Good luck :)
Aside of reasoning out with your parents which you're doing, try introspecting on some of these questions too -
1) Reflect on why you feel disinterested in continuing school - Is it the academic pressure or something else?
2) Consider different educational paths or career options that might be more aligned with your interests. Vocational training, apprenticeships, or online courses could be viable alternatives that still offer career advancement opportunities.
If completely stopping education is not the best option, perhaps you can reach a compromise. This might involve changing your field of study, switching to part-time schooling, or taking a temporary break before deciding the next steps.
Good luck :)
Diane Kuhlke
Contract Management
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Stow, Ohio
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Diane’s Answer
Hello Raymond,
I wholeheartedly urge you to complete your High School education and earn that diploma. When it comes to college, I understand the pressure you might be feeling, especially when society or your parents have set expectations for you to continue your studies. This traditional route has indeed paved the way to success for many, which is why it's often considered the standard. But remember, times are evolving, and so are the pathways to success.
The best piece of advice I can offer is to carefully map out your life's journey. Get yourself a journal, jot down your aspirations, and formulate strategies to turn those dreams into reality. Remember, it's okay for your plans to change and grow with you. What matters is that you have a blueprint to guide you.
You can explore online classes to acquire new skills - they don't necessarily have to be college courses. Alternatively, you could consider trade schools or even learn directly from a mentor or friend.
I'm rooting for you on your journey. Dare to dream big - even if your dreams are different from those around you. Remember, your success is uniquely yours!
I wholeheartedly urge you to complete your High School education and earn that diploma. When it comes to college, I understand the pressure you might be feeling, especially when society or your parents have set expectations for you to continue your studies. This traditional route has indeed paved the way to success for many, which is why it's often considered the standard. But remember, times are evolving, and so are the pathways to success.
The best piece of advice I can offer is to carefully map out your life's journey. Get yourself a journal, jot down your aspirations, and formulate strategies to turn those dreams into reality. Remember, it's okay for your plans to change and grow with you. What matters is that you have a blueprint to guide you.
You can explore online classes to acquire new skills - they don't necessarily have to be college courses. Alternatively, you could consider trade schools or even learn directly from a mentor or friend.
I'm rooting for you on your journey. Dare to dream big - even if your dreams are different from those around you. Remember, your success is uniquely yours!
Rahul Gopal
Cyber Security Architect
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Hartford, Connecticut
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Rahul’s Answer
It's really important for you to finish high school first. Then, you can move on to undergraduate studies. You can do this at a university, a college, or even a community college if you're worried about the cost. I truly believe that this level of education is the least you should aim for. It'll help you secure a job that can support you and your family financially in the long run. It's all about setting yourself up for a bright future!
Andrew Cheung
Project Management
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Santa Clara, California
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Andrew’s Answer
Raymond,
This is a hard thing to prove to your parents. You may want to consider staying in school, but puruse a college degree that interests you.
- In the meantime, you need to find an alternative job that can give you some financial support.
- Have a proof of concept. Find someone else in that industry that is successful and explain how you will be able to copy/replicate that success in that job/career.
- If you are not able explain how your time could be used better than going to school, your argument will not hold much weight.
This is a hard thing to prove to your parents. You may want to consider staying in school, but puruse a college degree that interests you.
- In the meantime, you need to find an alternative job that can give you some financial support.
- Have a proof of concept. Find someone else in that industry that is successful and explain how you will be able to copy/replicate that success in that job/career.
- If you are not able explain how your time could be used better than going to school, your argument will not hold much weight.
Noel Dargan, SHRM-CP
Performance Management
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Raleigh, North Carolina
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Noel’s Answer
Hello Raymond:
If you are referring to Highschool I do encourage you to finish if you already haven't but perhaps you could finish virtually or any other alternative options your school district may provide. If it is college you do not wish to pursue it is always easier for parents to digest if you come with another plan. I went through this with my one of my young adult children and he was just better at more hands-on learning than classroom settings. If you have a career or interest in mind go to your parents with the plan to get there such as a trade program or apprenticeship opportunities you have researched.
If you are referring to Highschool I do encourage you to finish if you already haven't but perhaps you could finish virtually or any other alternative options your school district may provide. If it is college you do not wish to pursue it is always easier for parents to digest if you come with another plan. I went through this with my one of my young adult children and he was just better at more hands-on learning than classroom settings. If you have a career or interest in mind go to your parents with the plan to get there such as a trade program or apprenticeship opportunities you have researched.
Jared Stoker
System Administrator
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Syracuse, Utah
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Jared’s Answer
Really depends on you. If it's just high school I would recommend completing it to get your diploma. My oldest graduated HS a year early because she wanted to be done. My 2nd will only have 3 required classes his senior year and he is going to a trade school for the other time.
When I say it really depends on you is the important part. If not going to school, what are you doing? What are you doing with your time if not at school? If it's productive and rewarding then go for it. Your parents just want to see you succeed and school is generally the best option from 16-24. If you have other opportunities that can propel you to do something you want and make $100k/year then go for that. If you skip out on education and your best prospect is working minimum wage jobs for the next 2-3 years, then definitely stick with school.
When I say it really depends on you is the important part. If not going to school, what are you doing? What are you doing with your time if not at school? If it's productive and rewarding then go for it. Your parents just want to see you succeed and school is generally the best option from 16-24. If you have other opportunities that can propel you to do something you want and make $100k/year then go for that. If you skip out on education and your best prospect is working minimum wage jobs for the next 2-3 years, then definitely stick with school.
Karen Kitchel
Community Volunteer
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Saint Paul, Minnesota
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Karen’s Answer
Talk to a school counselor about how you are feeling and ask for their suggestions. Finishing high school will be a requirement for almost any job you want in the future. If you're in college, perhaps a short break from school will help you decide what you want to do. Put together a plan to present to your parents such as how long of a break you need, what you will do during that time including what decisions you need to make such as considering a different school, finding a job, etc.
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