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tonny
Student
Charleston, South Carolina
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Bob Burton
Consultant
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Austin, Texas
Updated
Bob’s Answer
Tonny: It seems like you're being flooded with fantastic advice. Over time, I've realized that I grapple with a fear of failure, a sentiment shared by many who surprisingly fear success too. It's a strange world, isn't it? But I've come to terms with the fact that this fear can lead to considerable stress.
For me, the key lies in time management. My day is structured, with a disciplined focus on the tasks at hand. But it's not all work; I ensure that I carve out time for exercise and meditation. Exercise could be as simple as choosing the stairs over the elevator, or squeezing a stress ball in each hand alternatively. Sometimes, I even sneak weights around my ankles to boost my workout while walking, climbing stairs, or doing leg raises.
Meditation, on the other hand, can be as straightforward as reminiscing over a cherished vacation photo. Just take a moment to recall the joy of that experience.
In terms of mindset, I've trained myself to view problems as opportunities. They're chances for me to apply my knowledge and skills, and to discover new ways to tackle these challenges.
Hopefully, among all this, you'll find at least one idea that resonates with you.
For me, the key lies in time management. My day is structured, with a disciplined focus on the tasks at hand. But it's not all work; I ensure that I carve out time for exercise and meditation. Exercise could be as simple as choosing the stairs over the elevator, or squeezing a stress ball in each hand alternatively. Sometimes, I even sneak weights around my ankles to boost my workout while walking, climbing stairs, or doing leg raises.
Meditation, on the other hand, can be as straightforward as reminiscing over a cherished vacation photo. Just take a moment to recall the joy of that experience.
In terms of mindset, I've trained myself to view problems as opportunities. They're chances for me to apply my knowledge and skills, and to discover new ways to tackle these challenges.
Hopefully, among all this, you'll find at least one idea that resonates with you.
Ryan Flores
Business Ops
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Springville, Utah
Updated
Ryan’s Answer
I think stress stems from worry and fear. So to have less stress, you need to work on eliminating worry and fear from your life. How? I wish I knew all the answers, I certainly don't. But I'm happy to share a few practical lessons I've learned.
First, I know I tend to get fearful of situations that cause pain. Other people might fear other things. And I've learned that I suffer most when I try to avoid pain. Pain is real, and it's gonna happen. It's just part of life. Don't try to live a life that completely avoids pain. When something gets painful, embrace it. I know that may sound ridiculous, but I really believe it's the best way to move forward. Don't shy away from it, meet it head on. Experience it, allow yourself to feel the heartache, sadness, anger, resentment, or whatever it is that comes with it. It's okay to feel those feelings. After you feel them, you can move on. If you try to ignore them, and avoid them, and avoid pain, you will become like a closed up bottle with steaming hot water inside. The more things heat up, the more inevitable it will be that you will burst.
Some examples of situations that might cause pain: it can be painful to fail; it can be painful to see others get hurt; it can be painful to deal with sickness (either for yourself or for loved ones); it can be painful to feel neglected, ridiculed, and excluded by peers; it can be painful to feel you have to live up to expectations from parents, teachers, ecclesiastical leaders, and peers; it can be painful to feel disappointment; it can be painful to feel overlooked or overshadowed; it can be painful to feel misunderstood or inadequate; it can be painful to feel judged.
Sometimes, as humans, we will try to avoid situations which could end up painfully. We think to ourselves "What if XYZ happens?" then we do things, (sometimes crazy things!), to avoid what we have imagined could happen. When we get overly concerned with "What if" situations, we get stressed because we are worrying about a potential outcome. Notice that if we are worrying about a "What if" situation, it's not really happening - we've only imagined what might happen. I've learned that the past is in the past, it's set in stone; it's unalterable. The future is unknown. All we have is the present. I'm not saying don't plan for the future, but I am saying that if you're experiencing an overwhelming amount of stress, you're probably living more in the future than you are in the present, worrying about what "might" happen.
Be present in the moment. Wherever you are right now, be there. Whatever you're doing, do that. When you begin to worry about the "what ifs" of life, your body, mind, spirit, and heart will react. You're body goes into fight-or-flight mode, which means that your heart rate might go up, your breathing pace might increase, you might feel nervous in your stomach, etc. All of that is normal! Your body is doing what it's supposed to do. But instead of doing it in response to real life-or-death danger, it's doing it in response to imagined danger.
I know it's easier said than done, but you've got to get control of the thoughts that are imagining danger. You've got to come to a realization that pain is going to happen, and that's okay! You can deal with pain. You can deal with embarrassment, with failure, with disappointment. As much as losing the big game, failing the big exam, getting snubbed by friends, or failing to land your ideal career can feel like a very big deal, they really aren't! Whatever happens, you can get through it. Things have a way of working out for the best, if even we don't understand now how that could be true. You can deal with diffigult things by staying present in the moment. Certain activities, such as meditation, journaling, reading great literature, and exercise, can really help you with that. Stop listening to the cranked up voice in your head that says "Danger! Go faster! Watch out! Go go go!" and start listening instead to the chill voice (imagine the voice of Crush from Finding Nemo) telling you things like "What a bodacious opportunity! It's all good my friend, just go with the flow! Somehow it will all work out, everything's going to be fine dude!"
It is what it is, so chill with it :)
I sincerely hope that something I wrote, anything, will be of some value to you. You are an amazing, capable being full of strength, goodness, and beauty. Believe it, because it's true.
First, I know I tend to get fearful of situations that cause pain. Other people might fear other things. And I've learned that I suffer most when I try to avoid pain. Pain is real, and it's gonna happen. It's just part of life. Don't try to live a life that completely avoids pain. When something gets painful, embrace it. I know that may sound ridiculous, but I really believe it's the best way to move forward. Don't shy away from it, meet it head on. Experience it, allow yourself to feel the heartache, sadness, anger, resentment, or whatever it is that comes with it. It's okay to feel those feelings. After you feel them, you can move on. If you try to ignore them, and avoid them, and avoid pain, you will become like a closed up bottle with steaming hot water inside. The more things heat up, the more inevitable it will be that you will burst.
Some examples of situations that might cause pain: it can be painful to fail; it can be painful to see others get hurt; it can be painful to deal with sickness (either for yourself or for loved ones); it can be painful to feel neglected, ridiculed, and excluded by peers; it can be painful to feel you have to live up to expectations from parents, teachers, ecclesiastical leaders, and peers; it can be painful to feel disappointment; it can be painful to feel overlooked or overshadowed; it can be painful to feel misunderstood or inadequate; it can be painful to feel judged.
Sometimes, as humans, we will try to avoid situations which could end up painfully. We think to ourselves "What if XYZ happens?" then we do things, (sometimes crazy things!), to avoid what we have imagined could happen. When we get overly concerned with "What if" situations, we get stressed because we are worrying about a potential outcome. Notice that if we are worrying about a "What if" situation, it's not really happening - we've only imagined what might happen. I've learned that the past is in the past, it's set in stone; it's unalterable. The future is unknown. All we have is the present. I'm not saying don't plan for the future, but I am saying that if you're experiencing an overwhelming amount of stress, you're probably living more in the future than you are in the present, worrying about what "might" happen.
Be present in the moment. Wherever you are right now, be there. Whatever you're doing, do that. When you begin to worry about the "what ifs" of life, your body, mind, spirit, and heart will react. You're body goes into fight-or-flight mode, which means that your heart rate might go up, your breathing pace might increase, you might feel nervous in your stomach, etc. All of that is normal! Your body is doing what it's supposed to do. But instead of doing it in response to real life-or-death danger, it's doing it in response to imagined danger.
I know it's easier said than done, but you've got to get control of the thoughts that are imagining danger. You've got to come to a realization that pain is going to happen, and that's okay! You can deal with pain. You can deal with embarrassment, with failure, with disappointment. As much as losing the big game, failing the big exam, getting snubbed by friends, or failing to land your ideal career can feel like a very big deal, they really aren't! Whatever happens, you can get through it. Things have a way of working out for the best, if even we don't understand now how that could be true. You can deal with diffigult things by staying present in the moment. Certain activities, such as meditation, journaling, reading great literature, and exercise, can really help you with that. Stop listening to the cranked up voice in your head that says "Danger! Go faster! Watch out! Go go go!" and start listening instead to the chill voice (imagine the voice of Crush from Finding Nemo) telling you things like "What a bodacious opportunity! It's all good my friend, just go with the flow! Somehow it will all work out, everything's going to be fine dude!"
It is what it is, so chill with it :)
I sincerely hope that something I wrote, anything, will be of some value to you. You are an amazing, capable being full of strength, goodness, and beauty. Believe it, because it's true.
John Graham
Music Producer
55
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Bremerton, Washington
Updated
John’s Answer
Hi Tonny,
Walking outside, deep breathing, and talking it out with close friends or family are my go-to ways of dealing with stress. I find it also helps to cut back on the screen time - especially news sites.
Good luck!
Walking outside, deep breathing, and talking it out with close friends or family are my go-to ways of dealing with stress. I find it also helps to cut back on the screen time - especially news sites.
Good luck!
Rebecca Tang
Banking
1816
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Hong Kong
Updated
Rebecca’s Answer
Thank you for your question. Many students have similar question.i believe good time management can help. Firstly, you can find a time management tool that suits you, eg Google Calendar, your phone calendar, ms outlook, etc
Below are my suggestions:
1. Put down the time you need to attend classes
2. Assign some time every day for assignment projects, etc. Review the class material covered in the day. Evenly distribute the workload throughout the day can help you to relieve the last minute deadline pressure
3. Make sure you have enough time to sleep and do some exercise
4. Allocate some time for leisure, family & friends gathering, etc
5. You may need to assign more time for revision before assessment
You don't need to fill up.your schedule fully. Leave some Me time for relaxation and reflection.
Hope this e! Good Luck!
May Almighty God bless you!
Below are my suggestions:
1. Put down the time you need to attend classes
2. Assign some time every day for assignment projects, etc. Review the class material covered in the day. Evenly distribute the workload throughout the day can help you to relieve the last minute deadline pressure
3. Make sure you have enough time to sleep and do some exercise
4. Allocate some time for leisure, family & friends gathering, etc
5. You may need to assign more time for revision before assessment
You don't need to fill up.your schedule fully. Leave some Me time for relaxation and reflection.
Hope this e! Good Luck!
May Almighty God bless you!
Elena Williams
1
Answer
Ontario, Ontario, Canada
Updated
Elena’s Answer
Hey tonny you can follow these steps to overcome stress:
- Practice Deep Breathing: Take slow, deep breaths to calm your mind and body.
- Exercise Regularly: Physical activity helps release tension and boosts mood.
- Prioritize Sleep: Ensure you get enough restful sleep each night.
- Stay Organized: Break tasks into smaller steps to avoid feeling overwhelmed.
- Connect with Others: Talk to friends, family, or a therapist for support.
- Practice Mindfulness: Stay present and focus on the here and now to reduce anxiety.
- Practice Deep Breathing: Take slow, deep breaths to calm your mind and body.
- Exercise Regularly: Physical activity helps release tension and boosts mood.
- Prioritize Sleep: Ensure you get enough restful sleep each night.
- Stay Organized: Break tasks into smaller steps to avoid feeling overwhelmed.
- Connect with Others: Talk to friends, family, or a therapist for support.
- Practice Mindfulness: Stay present and focus on the here and now to reduce anxiety.
Dino Ubalde
Educator/Psychologist/Life Coach
204
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Tracy, California
Updated
Dino’s Answer
Hello Tonny, how's everything going? We appreciate your initiative to get in touch with us. We're confident that our interaction will provide clarity regarding your concerns. You've posed an excellent question.
Firstly, it's crucial to acknowledge that STRESS is a regular element of our daily lives. Some forms of stress can actually be beneficial, pushing us to improve and excel, even when we're feeling overwhelmed. However, certain types of stress can be detrimental to our health. Here are some practical steps to manage your stress effectively:
1) Pay attention to your thoughts and emotions when you're stressed.
2) Identify the issue causing stress and understand its impact on you.
3) Determine whether your stress is within your control. If it's not, it's best to let it go. We can only manage stress that's within our control. For instance, if you've forgotten a school assignment, remember that completing the assignment is within your control. Therefore, planning ahead can help avoid last-minute stress. Implement corrective measures to manage such controllable stress.
4) When you're feeling stressed, try counting to 50, take deep breaths, and relax. Once you're calm, your brain can formulate an effective solution to your stress.
5) Keep yourself hydrated by drinking water.
6) Shift your focus away from the stressor. The more you dwell on it, the more it'll consume your thoughts. Once you're calm, your mind will clear up, and you'll be able to think of better solutions to your problem.
7) If the stress is already disturbing you try to seek professional help
Remember, Tonny, you've got this! Stay aware of your feelings and reactions. Things will improve with time.
Firstly, it's crucial to acknowledge that STRESS is a regular element of our daily lives. Some forms of stress can actually be beneficial, pushing us to improve and excel, even when we're feeling overwhelmed. However, certain types of stress can be detrimental to our health. Here are some practical steps to manage your stress effectively:
1) Pay attention to your thoughts and emotions when you're stressed.
2) Identify the issue causing stress and understand its impact on you.
3) Determine whether your stress is within your control. If it's not, it's best to let it go. We can only manage stress that's within our control. For instance, if you've forgotten a school assignment, remember that completing the assignment is within your control. Therefore, planning ahead can help avoid last-minute stress. Implement corrective measures to manage such controllable stress.
4) When you're feeling stressed, try counting to 50, take deep breaths, and relax. Once you're calm, your brain can formulate an effective solution to your stress.
5) Keep yourself hydrated by drinking water.
6) Shift your focus away from the stressor. The more you dwell on it, the more it'll consume your thoughts. Once you're calm, your mind will clear up, and you'll be able to think of better solutions to your problem.
7) If the stress is already disturbing you try to seek professional help
Remember, Tonny, you've got this! Stay aware of your feelings and reactions. Things will improve with time.
James Constantine Frangos
Consultant Dietitian & Software Developer since 1972 => Nutrition Education => Health & Longevity => Self-Actualization.
6179
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Gold Coast, Queensland, Australia
Updated
James Constantine’s Answer
Hello Tonny,
MY PERSPECTIVE ON HANDLING STRESS:-
Consider incorporating prayer or meditation into your daily routine. Make sure you get 33 milliliters per kilogram body weight per day in water. Most food intakes will give 400 to 600 milliliters of water daily. Opt for foods rich in slow carbs instead of those high in sucrose. It's best to limit alcohol and caffeine. Ensure you're getting enough B vitamins and magnesium from your diet. For more information, check out this link: https://www.healthline.com/nutrition/vitamins-for-stress#how-we-chose
THE AI'S SUGGESTIONS:-
Steps to Conquer Stress
Stress is a prevalent issue that can impact mental and physical health. But, there are various ways to tackle stress effectively. Here are some strategies you can adopt:
1. Pinpoint the Stressor: The first step is to understand what's causing your stress. It could be work, relationships, financial issues, or health worries.
2. Try Relaxation Techniques: Techniques like deep breathing, meditation, yoga, progressive muscle relaxation, and mindfulness can help soothe your mind and body.
3. Regular Exercise: Physical activity is a great stress buster. It releases endorphins, our natural mood enhancers. Find a routine that suits you and stick with it.
4. Lead a Healthy Lifestyle: A balanced diet, enough sleep, and limiting caffeine and alcohol can all help reduce stress. A healthy lifestyle enhances your overall well-being and stress resilience.
5. Reach Out for Support: If stress is overwhelming you, don't hesitate to seek help from friends, family, or a mental health professional. Discussing your feelings can provide emotional support and new coping strategies.
6. Manage Your Time: Good time management can prevent feeling swamped by tasks. Prioritize, set realistic goals, and break them down into smaller steps.
7. Prioritize Self-Care: Self-care is crucial for stress management. Make time for activities you enjoy and find relaxing.
By integrating these strategies into your daily routine, you can effectively manage stress and improve your overall well-being.
Top 3 Reliable Sources Used:
Mayo Clinic: A respected medical research institution offering reliable information on health topics, including scientifically-backed stress management techniques.
American Psychological Association (APA): Provides valuable resources on mental health issues, including stress management strategies based on psychological research.
Harvard Health Publishing: Produces high-quality health information based on the latest medical research, including effective ways to manage stress and promote well-being.
These sources were used to ensure the information provided is accurate and credible.
Stay Blessed,
James.
MY PERSPECTIVE ON HANDLING STRESS:-
Consider incorporating prayer or meditation into your daily routine. Make sure you get 33 milliliters per kilogram body weight per day in water. Most food intakes will give 400 to 600 milliliters of water daily. Opt for foods rich in slow carbs instead of those high in sucrose. It's best to limit alcohol and caffeine. Ensure you're getting enough B vitamins and magnesium from your diet. For more information, check out this link: https://www.healthline.com/nutrition/vitamins-for-stress#how-we-chose
THE AI'S SUGGESTIONS:-
Steps to Conquer Stress
Stress is a prevalent issue that can impact mental and physical health. But, there are various ways to tackle stress effectively. Here are some strategies you can adopt:
1. Pinpoint the Stressor: The first step is to understand what's causing your stress. It could be work, relationships, financial issues, or health worries.
2. Try Relaxation Techniques: Techniques like deep breathing, meditation, yoga, progressive muscle relaxation, and mindfulness can help soothe your mind and body.
3. Regular Exercise: Physical activity is a great stress buster. It releases endorphins, our natural mood enhancers. Find a routine that suits you and stick with it.
4. Lead a Healthy Lifestyle: A balanced diet, enough sleep, and limiting caffeine and alcohol can all help reduce stress. A healthy lifestyle enhances your overall well-being and stress resilience.
5. Reach Out for Support: If stress is overwhelming you, don't hesitate to seek help from friends, family, or a mental health professional. Discussing your feelings can provide emotional support and new coping strategies.
6. Manage Your Time: Good time management can prevent feeling swamped by tasks. Prioritize, set realistic goals, and break them down into smaller steps.
7. Prioritize Self-Care: Self-care is crucial for stress management. Make time for activities you enjoy and find relaxing.
By integrating these strategies into your daily routine, you can effectively manage stress and improve your overall well-being.
Top 3 Reliable Sources Used:
Mayo Clinic: A respected medical research institution offering reliable information on health topics, including scientifically-backed stress management techniques.
American Psychological Association (APA): Provides valuable resources on mental health issues, including stress management strategies based on psychological research.
Harvard Health Publishing: Produces high-quality health information based on the latest medical research, including effective ways to manage stress and promote well-being.
These sources were used to ensure the information provided is accurate and credible.
Stay Blessed,
James.