Should I even consider applying to boarding school?
Hi, I am a 15-year-old who is interested in applying to Choate Rosemary Hall this year. I have been waiting for this moment for the last year, and now I am just made of anxiety.
I have no concerns regarding the required testing or application process. I think I can achieve results in the 85TH+ percentile. I can get the necessary recommendation letters, and have no problem writing an essay.
I have been dancing for about eight months, and have completed recreational courses through Coursera. I am soon going to start volunteering at a local farm.
I am pretty much a typical mediocre applicant, however that will change when you see my school record. I have a history of truancy, mediocre grades, and two suspension’s.
I can definitely raise up my grades, and attend school on time for the next few months. However, I am not sure if that would make a difference considering this change in behavior is so close to the application date.
I have seen other students statistics, and I am a bit scared and question if it’s even worth applying. I feel like nothing I do will be enough. The only decently interesting thing about me is my truancy problem.
4 answers
Darya’s Answer
Let's take a closer look at the solution to your problem:
1. Show the fact that you analyzing yourself, your past problems, including absenteeism and suspensions, are part of your history. It's important to think about what caused these problems and demonstrate what lessons you've learned from them. Admissions committees often strive for growth and resilience.
2. The fact that you understand and strive to improve your grades and punctuality indicates maturity and readiness for change. Admissions committees, again, often value a candidate who can demonstrate change, so be sure to indicate this in your application.
3. Engaging in activities like dancing and volunteering shows your initiative and interest outside of academics. Keep building on these experiences, as they can strengthen your application and show your passions.
4. While it's important to be aware of your difficulties, focus also on what makes you unique and what contribution you can make to the school community. Think about your interests, hobbies, and how you could bring a new perspective to the campus.
I wish you only luck, and I'm sure that u will studying there! With love, Darya
Neil’s Answer
As far as your prior performance, I never really cared for school at your age, either. But I always enjoyed going to the library and reading and to be honest with you if you are thinking about your long-term hopes in life, you will not get much of an education in school. You just won't. You will learn some things, sure but the real education in life you will find is not found in a classroom. Its on the field. Its experience, its hopefully your smart, decent parents.
I do wish you luck. If you do not get in, it really is not the end of the world. Will you be bummed out? Sure. But once you have a few more years under your belt in life, you will have a different perspective and see that while it may sound like a great opportunity( and it just may be), your life will ultimately take on other priorities that getting into a certain school will not determine your fate.
I wish you best of luck!
Chinyere’s Answer
I can understand how apprehensive you must be applying to Choate Rosemary Hall, with your particular school record; however, let me put your mind at ease—you are not the only applicant with that feeling. Many students fear competitiveness, but indeed there is always something more behind grades and suspensions.
Here are the reasons why you should still apply:
1. Improvement Counts
Improvement is a virtue that an admission committee loves. If you can show that you have invariably made a change in your grades and attendance, that would manifest resilience and a commitment to change, which records some plus on your side. Be honest about your past, but focus on how you've learned from it and what steps you're taking to do better. Schools like Choate look for students with potential, not just a perfect track record.
2. Diverse Interests Matter
Your diverse interests in dancing, online courses, and volunteering at the farm demonstrate initiative and an effort to grow in areas beyond academics. Giving these activities your attention will paint that full picture of you: someone willing to work and take up passion-driven activities toward community engagement.
3. Your Story is Unique
You may think that the only distinguishing factor about you is a truant history, but the fact that you are willing to admit this and do something for self-improvement is a powerful tale. After all, it's not the mistakes that have been made, but rather how those mistakes are learned from and moved on that's impressive. If you present your honesty and personal growth well in your application, admission officers may respect that.
4. Potential Over Perfection
Schools like Choate look beyond the ordinary grades and test scores. They want to find the enthusiastic, inquisitive, and determined kids who will truly capitalize on their educational experience. If you can prove that you'll take advantage of what Choate has in store for you, they might just overlook your mistakes, especially if your work shows improvement lately.
5. Always Worth Applying
Even when you are doubting it, apply. You never really know what it would have been if you never went through with the application. Sometimes schools take risks on certain students with remarkable stories, and you just might be one of them.
Be truthful and speak about your past, yet at the same time, of how you have learned from it and why this drive will render you successful here at Choate. It's about your history, but equally about your efforts at improvement, and your desire to attend the school. Applying to boarding school is a learning experience itself, no matter the outcome.
You’ve been waiting for this moment, so don’t let fear hold you back from trying.
Best wishes!
Michelle’s Answer
I absolutely love your excellent question and I am happy that you've reached out to Career Village for advice !
Firstly, I want to say - go for it - I support your venture to enter a Boarding School 100% ! Regardless of your personal background, you will one day realize the favor you will do for yourself. Boarding School will be an entirely different environment and socialization process that will help you to achieve to your fullest. Choate Rosemary Hall's tag line is Be Undefinable ! The authentic personal growth you will obtain from this experience will be inspiring and help you make the choices that will see you through life and moving forward, not looking back.
Although I did not attend Boarding School, I attended private school for nine years as a child, K - 8th grades. It was very different from public school which I went to from grades 9-12. I always had a good social experience throughout school, but I will tell you that you may find today that the students in boarding/private school can be nicer and bullying is understood to be not allowed. You have gone through the peer pressure stage and have recognized that it is now time for you to move forward, realizing that you'll be a teen for a short period of time but will be an adult for most of your life. What you do now will greatly affect your life ten years from now. You are very fortunate to have realized this now. You also seem talented and ambitious and that should not be underestimated based on what one might have done in the past. You've grown and I think that boarding school - whether rooming on campus or day school - will help you make great discoveries about yourself, others and the world.
The highlight of Choate Rosemary Hall is that you will get to create your own schedule and that includes a program of Dance ! Since you seem to like working with animals (if that's the type of farm you'll be volunteering at), they also have a Science Research Program.
To alleviate any worry you may be experiencing, know this: boarding schools do accept underprivileged students. That can mean whatever you take it as, but in other words, you don't have to be a stellar student with straight A's and a perfect record. Choate also offers student grants and you can also apply for financial assistance from their Beyond the Classroom Fund. There is a grant that you can apply for from the National Association of Independent Schools. I have left a link for you below of a list of some scholarships for private schools.
It will help you out to attend any events at Choate, events like expos, open day or orientations. Become familiar with the school even if it will be a while until you are a student there.
So, basically, my advice is to pursue this, don't let anyone or anything stop you because it will be an experience that you will treasure your whole life ! Best wishes to you !
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