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Alaina
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My parents won't let me do anything with K-POP and I LOVE it, I want to be a K-POP dancer/singer, etc. I don't know what to do how should OI get them to let me do this?
What is the best thing for me to do/say for them to be alright with me liking and wanting to do K-POP.
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John Hand
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Hi Alaina,
Answering as a fellow musician who convinced their parents to buy my first drum set...
I'm going to recommend a change in perspective for both you and your parents. Instead of your goal being getting them to allow you to pursue K-POP, how about making your goal to get their support in doing it.
Sing, dance, learn songs, learn dances, write songs, make up dance routines, watch tutorials online, record yourself, show them the videos, dance and sing to your videos - do all of this in your shared family space as much as possible. Do it until it drives them insane. Your goal here is to show them that this is your passion and the only way you will leave them alone is if they not only let you pursue it, but support you by sending you to dance classes, singing classes, and help you find a mentor, group, or agent who will help you continue building those skills.
My question is: why K-POP? Why not just pop? If it has to be K-POP, the ultimate display of your passion and drive would be to learn to speak Korean (if you don't already). Make that your goal and ask for your parent's support. Seek out some Korean friends who can help teach you some basics. Look for classes, groups, or videos online. Go to a nearby Korea town and try to make friends with everyone there. If that's your thing, make it known and seek out opportunities to really give it your best. If your parents see that you're really passionate about it, and especially if they see that you're talented, they'll have no choice but to support you with your goals.
Of course, they'll want to share with your success and happiness. However, they will likely want to use it as a reward for things like: making good grades, going to college, making good choices, etc. So, don't expect them to support you with your passion if you just want to drop out and chase your dream. Show them that you're willing to do the work to support your own K-POP lifestyle. What might that look like?
You may also want to do some research on K-POP stars to understand how they got their start. That will help give you an idea of the steps you can take to work towards those goals.
Answering as a fellow musician who convinced their parents to buy my first drum set...
I'm going to recommend a change in perspective for both you and your parents. Instead of your goal being getting them to allow you to pursue K-POP, how about making your goal to get their support in doing it.
Sing, dance, learn songs, learn dances, write songs, make up dance routines, watch tutorials online, record yourself, show them the videos, dance and sing to your videos - do all of this in your shared family space as much as possible. Do it until it drives them insane. Your goal here is to show them that this is your passion and the only way you will leave them alone is if they not only let you pursue it, but support you by sending you to dance classes, singing classes, and help you find a mentor, group, or agent who will help you continue building those skills.
My question is: why K-POP? Why not just pop? If it has to be K-POP, the ultimate display of your passion and drive would be to learn to speak Korean (if you don't already). Make that your goal and ask for your parent's support. Seek out some Korean friends who can help teach you some basics. Look for classes, groups, or videos online. Go to a nearby Korea town and try to make friends with everyone there. If that's your thing, make it known and seek out opportunities to really give it your best. If your parents see that you're really passionate about it, and especially if they see that you're talented, they'll have no choice but to support you with your goals.
Of course, they'll want to share with your success and happiness. However, they will likely want to use it as a reward for things like: making good grades, going to college, making good choices, etc. So, don't expect them to support you with your passion if you just want to drop out and chase your dream. Show them that you're willing to do the work to support your own K-POP lifestyle. What might that look like?
You may also want to do some research on K-POP stars to understand how they got their start. That will help give you an idea of the steps you can take to work towards those goals.
lynette Nantongo
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lynette’s Answer
Alright, so you want to live your best K-POP life, but your parents are throwing the brakes on your dream? Don’t worry, I’ve got you. Let’s figure this out together because no one should stand between you and your "Bangtan Bomb" energy (except, well, your parents right now).
Step 1: Make Them Understand Your Love
First, you’ve got to explain your K-POP obsession to them in a way that doesn’t make them roll their eyes. Don’t just scream, “BUT I LOVE IT!” (trust me, they’ll ignore you). Instead, try this:
“Mom, Dad, you know how you love [insert something they’re obsessed with, like gardening or soccer]? K-POP is my thing. It makes me happy, motivates me, and gives me something to look forward to.”
It’s all about making them see that K-POP is more than music to you—it’s your passion, your escape, your sparkling dream!
Step 2: Show That You’re Serious
Now, they’re probably thinking, “This is just a phase,” but you and I both know that’s not true. So prove them wrong! Start practicing your dance moves, learning Korean, or even singing your heart out. Let them see your effort. Bonus points if you don’t break any furniture while practicing choreography in the living room.
Oh, and tell them about the hard work it takes to become a K-POP artist. Say:
“K-POP idols spend years training to sing, dance, and perform at a high level. It’s not just about fame—it’s about discipline, teamwork, and passion!”
They’ll start realizing this isn’t just you daydreaming about glittery stages (even if it kind of is).
Step 3: Start Small
Instead of asking for a one-way ticket to Seoul, ease them into it. Say:
“I’m not asking to be in a K-POP group tomorrow—I just want to start by dancing, singing, or joining a group here. Can I take a class or participate in a local performance?”
This way, they see you’re not diving into the deep end. You’re just…wading in the kiddie pool for now.
Step 4: Show Them K-POP Isn’t the Wild West
Your parents might think the K-POP industry is all glitz, glam, and questionable life choices. So, introduce them to the positive side of it. Show them clips of idols being kind, hardworking, or funny. Show them talent, dedication, and hard work. Maybe sprinkle in a little,
“See, they’re good role models! Look at them donating to charity and supporting each other!”
Step 5: Involve Them (Yes, I Said That)
This might sound insane, but ask them to watch a performance or music video with you. No, they might not love it at first, but who knows? Maybe your dad will end up stanning EXO. Or your mom might think TWICE is adorable. Stranger things have happened!
Step 6: Make a Plan (Parents LOVE Plans)
Say:
“I want to follow my passion, but I know it’s important to balance it with my responsibilities. I promise I’ll keep up with school and chores if I can practice K-POP.”
If they see that you’re organized and not just winging it, they’ll start taking you seriously.
Step 7: Respect Their Boundaries, But Stay Persistent
If they still say no, don’t start a dramatic K-Drama-style meltdown. Respect their opinion but keep showing your love for K-POP in small ways. They might warm up over time when they see how much it means to you.
Step 8: Keep Dreaming Big!
If nothing else, remind them that this dream fuels your happiness. Tell them:
“I know the road might be hard, but K-POP inspires me to dream big and work hard. Isn’t that what life is all about?”
And hey, if they still won’t budge, keep practicing in secret, keep learning, and keep believing. The stage is calling your name, and you’re going to answer it someday—maybe with your parents cheering you on when they finally see how incredible you are.
Step 1: Make Them Understand Your Love
First, you’ve got to explain your K-POP obsession to them in a way that doesn’t make them roll their eyes. Don’t just scream, “BUT I LOVE IT!” (trust me, they’ll ignore you). Instead, try this:
“Mom, Dad, you know how you love [insert something they’re obsessed with, like gardening or soccer]? K-POP is my thing. It makes me happy, motivates me, and gives me something to look forward to.”
It’s all about making them see that K-POP is more than music to you—it’s your passion, your escape, your sparkling dream!
Step 2: Show That You’re Serious
Now, they’re probably thinking, “This is just a phase,” but you and I both know that’s not true. So prove them wrong! Start practicing your dance moves, learning Korean, or even singing your heart out. Let them see your effort. Bonus points if you don’t break any furniture while practicing choreography in the living room.
Oh, and tell them about the hard work it takes to become a K-POP artist. Say:
“K-POP idols spend years training to sing, dance, and perform at a high level. It’s not just about fame—it’s about discipline, teamwork, and passion!”
They’ll start realizing this isn’t just you daydreaming about glittery stages (even if it kind of is).
Step 3: Start Small
Instead of asking for a one-way ticket to Seoul, ease them into it. Say:
“I’m not asking to be in a K-POP group tomorrow—I just want to start by dancing, singing, or joining a group here. Can I take a class or participate in a local performance?”
This way, they see you’re not diving into the deep end. You’re just…wading in the kiddie pool for now.
Step 4: Show Them K-POP Isn’t the Wild West
Your parents might think the K-POP industry is all glitz, glam, and questionable life choices. So, introduce them to the positive side of it. Show them clips of idols being kind, hardworking, or funny. Show them talent, dedication, and hard work. Maybe sprinkle in a little,
“See, they’re good role models! Look at them donating to charity and supporting each other!”
Step 5: Involve Them (Yes, I Said That)
This might sound insane, but ask them to watch a performance or music video with you. No, they might not love it at first, but who knows? Maybe your dad will end up stanning EXO. Or your mom might think TWICE is adorable. Stranger things have happened!
Step 6: Make a Plan (Parents LOVE Plans)
Say:
“I want to follow my passion, but I know it’s important to balance it with my responsibilities. I promise I’ll keep up with school and chores if I can practice K-POP.”
If they see that you’re organized and not just winging it, they’ll start taking you seriously.
Step 7: Respect Their Boundaries, But Stay Persistent
If they still say no, don’t start a dramatic K-Drama-style meltdown. Respect their opinion but keep showing your love for K-POP in small ways. They might warm up over time when they see how much it means to you.
Step 8: Keep Dreaming Big!
If nothing else, remind them that this dream fuels your happiness. Tell them:
“I know the road might be hard, but K-POP inspires me to dream big and work hard. Isn’t that what life is all about?”
And hey, if they still won’t budge, keep practicing in secret, keep learning, and keep believing. The stage is calling your name, and you’re going to answer it someday—maybe with your parents cheering you on when they finally see how incredible you are.