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Alaina
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Bluffton, Indiana
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My parents won't let me do anything with K-POP and I LOVE it, I want to be a K-POP dancer/singer, etc. I don't know what to do how should OI get them to let me do this?
What is the best thing for me to do/say for them to be alright with me liking and wanting to do K-POP.
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John Hand
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Hi Alaina,
Answering as a fellow musician who convinced their parents to buy my first drum set...
I'm going to recommend a change in perspective for both you and your parents. Instead of your goal being getting them to allow you to pursue K-POP, how about making your goal to get their support in doing it.
Sing, dance, learn songs, learn dances, write songs, make up dance routines, watch tutorials online, record yourself, show them the videos, dance and sing to your videos - do all of this in your shared family space as much as possible. Do it until it drives them insane. Your goal here is to show them that this is your passion and the only way you will leave them alone is if they not only let you pursue it, but support you by sending you to dance classes, singing classes, and help you find a mentor, group, or agent who will help you continue building those skills.
My question is: why K-POP? Why not just pop? If it has to be K-POP, the ultimate display of your passion and drive would be to learn to speak Korean (if you don't already). Make that your goal and ask for your parent's support. Seek out some Korean friends who can help teach you some basics. Look for classes, groups, or videos online. Go to a nearby Korea town and try to make friends with everyone there. If that's your thing, make it known and seek out opportunities to really give it your best. If your parents see that you're really passionate about it, and especially if they see that you're talented, they'll have no choice but to support you with your goals.
Of course, they'll want to share with your success and happiness. However, they will likely want to use it as a reward for things like: making good grades, going to college, making good choices, etc. So, don't expect them to support you with your passion if you just want to drop out and chase your dream. Show them that you're willing to do the work to support your own K-POP lifestyle. What might that look like?
You may also want to do some research on K-POP stars to understand how they got their start. That will help give you an idea of the steps you can take to work towards those goals.
Answering as a fellow musician who convinced their parents to buy my first drum set...
I'm going to recommend a change in perspective for both you and your parents. Instead of your goal being getting them to allow you to pursue K-POP, how about making your goal to get their support in doing it.
Sing, dance, learn songs, learn dances, write songs, make up dance routines, watch tutorials online, record yourself, show them the videos, dance and sing to your videos - do all of this in your shared family space as much as possible. Do it until it drives them insane. Your goal here is to show them that this is your passion and the only way you will leave them alone is if they not only let you pursue it, but support you by sending you to dance classes, singing classes, and help you find a mentor, group, or agent who will help you continue building those skills.
My question is: why K-POP? Why not just pop? If it has to be K-POP, the ultimate display of your passion and drive would be to learn to speak Korean (if you don't already). Make that your goal and ask for your parent's support. Seek out some Korean friends who can help teach you some basics. Look for classes, groups, or videos online. Go to a nearby Korea town and try to make friends with everyone there. If that's your thing, make it known and seek out opportunities to really give it your best. If your parents see that you're really passionate about it, and especially if they see that you're talented, they'll have no choice but to support you with your goals.
Of course, they'll want to share with your success and happiness. However, they will likely want to use it as a reward for things like: making good grades, going to college, making good choices, etc. So, don't expect them to support you with your passion if you just want to drop out and chase your dream. Show them that you're willing to do the work to support your own K-POP lifestyle. What might that look like?
You may also want to do some research on K-POP stars to understand how they got their start. That will help give you an idea of the steps you can take to work towards those goals.