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Felix
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Do I really have to choose a career?
I don't find any careers appealing and I have no skills or interests.
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Doc Frick
Career Coach and Mentor
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While it is easy to pinpoint work benefits like a good salary or a flexible schedule as contributors to job satisfaction, your considerations should go deeper; your ideal career should also suit your personality. For example, a career that involves talking to people throughout the day may be a dream job for extroverts, but introverts may prefer working quietly on their own.
You may never know what you ‘want,’ (who truly does), but you definitely know what you like and the things that interest you. Look at how you spend your time. Look at what’s already under your nose. Look at what you spend most of your time thinking about/talking about/learning about. Chances are there will be a few main topics that rise to the top that get you really excited and energized to have conversations about. All of those personal interest areas have companies making products and services in that domain.
My no. 1 piece of advice is EXPLORE, EXPLORE, EXPLORE. Don’t let one potential job title or skill set constrain you. If you think an internship sounds interesting but isn’t what you expected to try, that’s OK! At this stage, you want to follow your instincts and try as much as you can. You don’t need to jump into a 12-week long program to get a taste of different roles. Externships, short-term courses, part-time work, and Forage job simulations can all give you inside views into different fields and career paths without having to tie yourself to a full-time job.
You may never know what you ‘want,’ (who truly does), but you definitely know what you like and the things that interest you. Look at how you spend your time. Look at what’s already under your nose. Look at what you spend most of your time thinking about/talking about/learning about. Chances are there will be a few main topics that rise to the top that get you really excited and energized to have conversations about. All of those personal interest areas have companies making products and services in that domain.
My no. 1 piece of advice is EXPLORE, EXPLORE, EXPLORE. Don’t let one potential job title or skill set constrain you. If you think an internship sounds interesting but isn’t what you expected to try, that’s OK! At this stage, you want to follow your instincts and try as much as you can. You don’t need to jump into a 12-week long program to get a taste of different roles. Externships, short-term courses, part-time work, and Forage job simulations can all give you inside views into different fields and career paths without having to tie yourself to a full-time job.
I like nothing and nothing interests me though. I don't really talk ,think, or learn about anything
Felix
Thank You Michelle. The beautiful thing about learning is nobody can ever take it away from us.
Doc Frick
Thank You Karin. We should nevermind let what we cannot do interfere with what we can do.
Doc Frick
Thank You Alina. The best way to find ourselves is to lose ourselves in the service of others.
Doc Frick
Michelle M.
Actress
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Michelle’s Answer
Hi, Felix !
Most people do choose a career, however, you don't have to choose one now. You seem to have an interest in art modeling because you have asked a question about it in a different post. There seems to be an issue that you may need to explore about what you're experiencing if you are having feelings of no interest in anything at all and you think life is a waste of time. Not speaking, thinking or having any interests and not liking to learn has pretty much a root cause. You won't see a change unless you take active steps to resolve what is causing you to feel and be the way you've expressed.
You reached out here with another question about art modeling. You then ask if you have to choose a career - is this question just for confirmation that your feelings are right ? You are just going to have to choose a career when you want to. No one can tell you what to do, especially people who do not know you. If you don't talk, have no interests, don't think and don't want to learn, why do you care about reaching out here ? Something is motivating you to reach out for assistance for something other than a career. This needs to be explored.
Many times when people feel the way you do, it's because some event has changed them and they get settled into a comfort zone. No motivation, no interest and nothing changes. Just worse feelings. It's hard to get out of that comfort zone but you can break out of it if you are true to yourself, express exactly what is bothering you and reach out for in-person assistance to explore this.
If you want what you have now, do nothing. If you do not want what you have now, you're going to have to take active steps to resolve any issues that may be holding you back. This will have to be done with a counselor in person or a social worker, not on this website. Where you're at right now will take some time to see change, but you will need to be ready to do it and initiate the first step towards counseling or whatever appropriate assistance so that your root issue can be effectively addressed.
I wish you all the best. Don't hesitate to take that first step.
Most people do choose a career, however, you don't have to choose one now. You seem to have an interest in art modeling because you have asked a question about it in a different post. There seems to be an issue that you may need to explore about what you're experiencing if you are having feelings of no interest in anything at all and you think life is a waste of time. Not speaking, thinking or having any interests and not liking to learn has pretty much a root cause. You won't see a change unless you take active steps to resolve what is causing you to feel and be the way you've expressed.
You reached out here with another question about art modeling. You then ask if you have to choose a career - is this question just for confirmation that your feelings are right ? You are just going to have to choose a career when you want to. No one can tell you what to do, especially people who do not know you. If you don't talk, have no interests, don't think and don't want to learn, why do you care about reaching out here ? Something is motivating you to reach out for assistance for something other than a career. This needs to be explored.
Many times when people feel the way you do, it's because some event has changed them and they get settled into a comfort zone. No motivation, no interest and nothing changes. Just worse feelings. It's hard to get out of that comfort zone but you can break out of it if you are true to yourself, express exactly what is bothering you and reach out for in-person assistance to explore this.
If you want what you have now, do nothing. If you do not want what you have now, you're going to have to take active steps to resolve any issues that may be holding you back. This will have to be done with a counselor in person or a social worker, not on this website. Where you're at right now will take some time to see change, but you will need to be ready to do it and initiate the first step towards counseling or whatever appropriate assistance so that your root issue can be effectively addressed.
I wish you all the best. Don't hesitate to take that first step.
There is no root issue, I'm just lazy and unmotivated
Felix
Jerome Dees Jr.
Sales Professional and Networking Expert
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Jerome’s Answer
Where do you want to be when you get older? I grew up in a pretty rough area and knew I wanted more than what was around me. That pushed me to do some pretty fun things over time I didn't think were possible.
If you are content to work retail and get by, there is nothing wrong with that.
If you are content to work retail and get by, there is nothing wrong with that.
I just want a house and car, probably not going to get that anytime soon though
Felix
Dilawar Hussain
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Dilawar’s Answer
Hi Flix,
You must choose a career because you have to do something for living and serve. If you can't finding interest then explore the things you have little interest in which may develope your interst and become you know more about the things well. You need to discuss with experts about the career oportunities they are already seeking. Thanks
You must choose a career because you have to do something for living and serve. If you can't finding interest then explore the things you have little interest in which may develope your interst and become you know more about the things well. You need to discuss with experts about the career oportunities they are already seeking. Thanks
I don't have even the least bit of interest in things. To make money I think I'll just do simple jobs like retail or fast food
Felix
Nishita Kandikuppa
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Nishita’s Answer
Hi Felix! Thank you for your question. It is normal to not know what you want to do but the only way to know is to not be afraid to try anything and everything! When I was 12 years old, I would look at design magazines and have the urge to never put them down. Eventually, I applied for summer courses at Universities and realized that everything about design made me happy. Work and school never felt stressful or overwhelming. As you're a student, take classes that you have no idea about like psychology, 3D modeling, art - really anything that you don't have much knowledge about. Pick a new hobby each month and do your best to spend time learning it. Either you will love it or hate it and you can continue it or pick a new hobby the following month. Challenging yourself to step outside your comfort zone is important - how will you know until you try it? Good luck to you! I hope you find something that makes you happy and gets you excited very soon.
Thanks but I won't. I don't want to waste my time on stuff that I know won't make me happy
Felix
Dr H
Dr. H's Research
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Dr’s Answer
Hey Felix! I totally get where you're coming from. It can feel overwhelming or even frustrating when you don’t feel motivated or interested in anything at all. You’re not alone in this—many people go through phases like this, especially when there’s pressure to pick a career or figure out what to do next. Here’s the thing, though: there’s no rush.
It sounds like you're in a place where you're unsure of what excites you, and that’s okay. Everyone’s path is different, and not having a clear passion or direction right now doesn’t mean you’re falling behind. It might just mean you're in a season of exploration, even if you don’t feel like actively exploring at the moment.
Here’s what might help:
### 1. **No Need to Decide Right Away**
You don’t have to choose a career right now if you’re not ready. Careers aren’t one-size-fits-all, and you don’t have to make that choice until you feel like you’re in a place where you understand yourself and what you want. And guess what? Even adults change careers, so you’re not locked into a decision forever!
### 2. **Explore Without Expectations**
It sounds like you might be feeling a bit stuck. Sometimes, taking small steps to try new things without the pressure of making it "the one" thing can be refreshing. Maybe take on a simple job in retail or fast food like you mentioned, but also give yourself permission to not be fully invested in it yet. You're not committing forever—just dipping your toes into the water.
### 3. **Start Small**
If trying new things feels overwhelming, just start with small, easy-to-access activities—watch a documentary on something you’ve never thought about before, play around with a hobby (even something low-stakes like doodling, gaming, or cooking). You don't have to love it right away, but sometimes even just a little distraction can lead to new insights about what makes you tick.
### 4. **Be Kind to Yourself**
It’s okay to not be motivated right now. Your feelings are valid, and sometimes taking the pressure off yourself can help you move forward at your own pace. You don't have to have everything figured out—this is just a chapter of your life.
### 5. **Talk It Out**
Sometimes when you're feeling disconnected, talking to someone can help. It doesn’t have to be a career coach or counselor, but just sharing your thoughts with a friend, family member, or someone you trust could bring new perspectives.
It's all part of the process. One step at a time, and before you know it, you might stumble across something that sparks a little curiosity or interest, even if it’s not a "big life-changing moment."
You’ve got this! Don’t feel like you’re alone in this—lots of people go through periods of feeling unmotivated, and they eventually find their way when the time is right.
It sounds like you're in a place where you're unsure of what excites you, and that’s okay. Everyone’s path is different, and not having a clear passion or direction right now doesn’t mean you’re falling behind. It might just mean you're in a season of exploration, even if you don’t feel like actively exploring at the moment.
Here’s what might help:
### 1. **No Need to Decide Right Away**
You don’t have to choose a career right now if you’re not ready. Careers aren’t one-size-fits-all, and you don’t have to make that choice until you feel like you’re in a place where you understand yourself and what you want. And guess what? Even adults change careers, so you’re not locked into a decision forever!
### 2. **Explore Without Expectations**
It sounds like you might be feeling a bit stuck. Sometimes, taking small steps to try new things without the pressure of making it "the one" thing can be refreshing. Maybe take on a simple job in retail or fast food like you mentioned, but also give yourself permission to not be fully invested in it yet. You're not committing forever—just dipping your toes into the water.
### 3. **Start Small**
If trying new things feels overwhelming, just start with small, easy-to-access activities—watch a documentary on something you’ve never thought about before, play around with a hobby (even something low-stakes like doodling, gaming, or cooking). You don't have to love it right away, but sometimes even just a little distraction can lead to new insights about what makes you tick.
### 4. **Be Kind to Yourself**
It’s okay to not be motivated right now. Your feelings are valid, and sometimes taking the pressure off yourself can help you move forward at your own pace. You don't have to have everything figured out—this is just a chapter of your life.
### 5. **Talk It Out**
Sometimes when you're feeling disconnected, talking to someone can help. It doesn’t have to be a career coach or counselor, but just sharing your thoughts with a friend, family member, or someone you trust could bring new perspectives.
It's all part of the process. One step at a time, and before you know it, you might stumble across something that sparks a little curiosity or interest, even if it’s not a "big life-changing moment."
You’ve got this! Don’t feel like you’re alone in this—lots of people go through periods of feeling unmotivated, and they eventually find their way when the time is right.
Thanks for trying to help, unfortunately this isn't a period, I think I'll be like this my whole life, I will not eventually find my way
Felix
That's not true Felix ☺️. You will find your way because I know you will. You are just in your zone right now unclear of what you want or what really interests you. Perhaps you have been just doing what others have been telling you and now you are just used to following it around but now you are at that comfort zone which you don't wanna do anything and only want to stay put. The world seems like not much anymore due to the life stages you have experienced. Perhaps in your life things happened that caused this uncertainty and over time you will figure it out. But I would like to tell you to not to give up ever. You have dreams Felix and I know you do. You want to be somewhere and if not now you did want to be somehwere before so why let your dreams go away.
Dr H
No I don't, I don't have dreams. I never had dreams, I just want a car and a house
Felix
Before I continued my MBBS I gave up on life. I didn't want anything. I didn't want to move just wanted to stay in one room and never go outside. I would play games sometimes or do a little writings or nothing I would most of the time stay in a corner without talking just day dreaming, ofcourse my parents were not okay with that but they were too busy to even help or understand. I was like that for a very long time man. I did not open a book to study even, I didn't care about any career, I didn't want them I just wanted to travel away go where nothing is needed. Even I thought of going to a jungle living on my own and believe me I looked into it. 😅 What I am trying to say is that, it happens when you are on your own. .
Dr H
Maybe no friendships, or hardships or family cause your interests to fade. But I know somewhere inside you Felix you want something. Even if that thing is little as a piece of dust.you still do want to be somewhere. You are just not digging deep enough you are making your mind think like you know nothing and you got no interest. Try thinking opposite of that for a while. Just a little while smile and think yes you did like something and you do like something now. Even if that little thing starts with a color. ☺️ I dunno if this helps but I juste wanted to give what I think might. No beggie just some diggin.
Dr H
What happens? I don't believe things will just "click"
Felix
I just want money. I do know nothing and I do have no interest, I just sit on my a$s all day 🤪 I don't like anything now. I don't have favorite colors or favorite anything. No it didn't but to be fair nothing helps
Felix
No Felix things won't just click alone. I didn't let things click alone. I actually wanted to know my existence. Sooo when I was into day dreaming I kinda went stronger towards my faith too. I don't know if you believe in God or not. But I do and he helps, he shadows and one things he doesn't do is give more than what his beings can handle. And he knows you are strong and you can handle this. AND MAAAN a car and a house that's really good to know. Sooo ever thought how you gonna get that car and house.
Dr H
I don't although I have had what you might call "signs" then why do people off themselves? I'm not though. No, just work, it's a pipe dream honestly, maybe just an apartment but really a place of my own.
Felix
From what I can tell you are struggling with personal space, and free will though correct me if I am wrong.
Dr H
Now Felix, about what you been saying before, so, You say you don’t have dreams, no interests, no favorite colors, and that nothing helps. Maybe that’s true right now. But I don’t think it’s the full story of you.
You want a car and a house—that’s something. So let’s start from there. Not with big dreams, not with passion, but with practicality. If that’s what you want, what’s the simplest, least painful way to get there? No career talk, no ‘find your passion’ nonsense. Just: What’s the easiest way to get money?
Dr H
And before you say, ‘Nothing interests me enough to work for it,’ think about this—if you had all the money you needed right now, what would you do with your time? If the answer is ‘sit around all day,’ cool. But what next? What if sitting around gets boring? What would make it not boring?
I’m not here to argue with you about having dreams. But I will say this—people don’t stay the same forever. Even when you’re sure you will.
Dr H
I don't know, I would honestly sit around and do some things that I can't mention here. Sitting would get boring but I wouldn't know what else to do. I will, I have no interests, hobbies, or passions
Felix
The easiest way would be working but unfortunately the job I want only pays 9.50 an hour
Felix
I get it, Felix. If you had everything you needed, you’d sit around and do whatever comes to mind. And yeah, maybe that would get boring, but you don’t know what else you’d do. That’s fair.
I’m not here to tell you what you should care about. But I don’t think people are born without interests—sometimes, we just don’t get the chance to notice them. Maybe the things that could matter to you haven’t crossed your path yet. Or maybe you’ve already found them, but for some reason, they don’t feel like they’re yours to claim.
Dr H
You don’t have to force yourself to care about things. But maybe—just maybe—there’s something out there that would make you feel something if you gave it a chance. Not passion, not excitement. Just… something.
And if that ‘something’ ever shows up, I hope you won’t turn away from it just because you’re used to feeling nothing.
Dr H
Felix you can do many other things not just one job that pays 9.50 and hour man. You know you mentioned to Admin that therapy doesn't work for you. Honestly I don't think it's therapy you need. It's keep talking about it and figuring out. You have been holding your thoughts in that is making you feel unsure and lost. I do t know if you have friends or colleagues but I even understand if you don't. And Yea if you are willing to work that's a good sign.
Dr H
I'm begrudgingly willing, I don't want to but I have to. Wdym many other things? I'm NOT working a second job if that's what you mean
Felix
No Felix I meant working something other than earning 9.50 a day. There are a single jobs that help you learn a lot.
Dr H
You also mentioned retail and fast food. If working in fast food is something you want, you could definitely do that—but what if you thought bigger? Not just working a job, but maybe learning the business side of it, or finding a way to make it your own?
The same goes for retail. It’s not just about selling things—there’s so much that goes into it, from branding to customer experience to even running your own store one day. If you ever get curious about how businesses grow, how trends work, or even how people buy things, retail could be a place to learn those skills.
Dr H
You don’t have to settle for just 'working' if you don’t want to. Even if you’re not sure what you want yet, just keeping that bigger picture in mind could change the way you see things. It’s okay to start somewhere, but you can always aim higher too.
Dr H
Mate, It’s not about working a second job—I wouldn’t suggest that if you already don’t want to work one. I meant more like considering different paths, not just settling for the first thing that pays. If you have to work, might as well look at options that could lead to something better for you long term, right?
And yeah, I get why you’d feel that way about therapy. Sometimes it’s not about someone telling you what to do—it’s just about getting stuff out of your head and actually talking through it. Holding things in makes it worse, and even if you don’t have people you trust to talk to, that doesn’t mean you have to deal with it all alone.
Dr H
I'm not interested in those things and I don't want to run my own store, I'm much more of a follower
Felix
Like what?
Felix
I mean, sometimes it helps just to talk things out without expecting a solution right away. Like, not in a ‘therapy session’ way, but just getting things off your chest, even if it’s messy or doesn’t make sense at first. Holding it all in makes it feel worse, but when you actually say things out loud (or type them out), sometimes you realize stuff you didn’t even know was bothering you. It’s not about finding instant answers, just untangling things bit by bit.
Dr H
I think we mixed two parts together one your job choice speak and the therapy. But if you were a asking me about the jobs. Then, bro.
So, in retail and fast food, there are different roles in both.
If dealing with customers sucks, back-of-house work in kitchens, stocking, or warehouse jobs might be less stressful. If you want something steady but quieter, maybe something like night shifts in stocking or even security work.
It’s not about chasing some ‘perfect’ job—just figuring out what drains you less while still paying the bills. Even if it’s just a small shift, it could make things a bit easier for you.
Dr H
Soooo I also wanna ask do you like playing games? Youtubing or anything sort?
Dr H
No, not really, why?
Felix
I was trying to know if u did because you could actually sit on that chair and do something without moving off your zone 👀 so I thought to ask. 😏 🤔
Dr H
No, besides I wouldn't be successful
Felix
I won't be making enough money to pay bills so thank God I don't have any
Felix
😅😅 Man you should see my awful moments of failures pfft, I diffenetely don't get successful on my root. But, I make others successful in theirs Felix and you saying that you won't make it. Ehhh I don't agree because everyone makes it, it's just how you keep that mind sit. Not arguing not trying to convince you buuut saying it of experience bro. And Yea in Utah, I havent been there but I do know some job opportunities there I can send over to you as well if you want but dunno if they are gonna help but worth checking, so Yea in that region I don't know how the hardship of rents and bills are, but for now seems you are okay. All I am saying, you will be successful man.
Dr H
The last person who told me that I laughed so hard, (no offinse), slammed her that one things she was laking and now she I pursuing that path she thoggtt she lost. she was an artist degree yet worked as an examiner she lost her art and dream of opening a gallary, but now somehow, she knows she can do it
Dr H
You Felix you got something hidden speciality that you don't see it but others do. You just have to accept yourself that you can do it. Bruh beacsue if you can't.... Then why in heaven's sake am I trying so hard to on my success when everyone tells me I won't make it. Yet you? You are telling yourself.... That's a big gap bro.
Dr H
I am here if you want anything man, I don't know if things will help or clear up but I have had friends in your position some slightly different even but they are growing. 😊 So will you. You are never alone an you have never been. Because..... A ghost may have been watching..... Or just God 😉.
Dr H
Please stop wasting your time, I won't be successful and I don't even know what that means, plus I don't want to be, I just want somewhere to live and a car
Felix