Im Completely lost within myself and my future college choice, please help!!!
Hi! Im currently a Senior in high-school, around the Dmv area. I have never really thought about what I wanted to have a degree in or in general what lies ahead of me. In the beginning of the school year i was thinking about majoring in Nursing specifically wanting to be a PICU Nurse. But later on realized My family can't afford to spend that much money but also wasn't planning on being in school for a long time. Then around like November, I was thinking about majoring in Forensic, and after having a not so friendly encounter with a Forensic Teacher in a different school, i felt unmotivated. But now I'm either thinking about joining the Marines/ Train to become a State Cop/or just go back to forensic. Especially since i have already applied to 2 Universities for Forensic Science and BioTechnology (Pre-Forensic Studies). I know it might sound cheesy but i just want to work to give me parents someone to rely on, Im the oldest out of my siblings and I don't know what I'm doing on CommonApp. Ive been just putting information I know and later on asking friends and my parents about other things. Im First-Gen and I very exhausted and overwhelmed. Please help!!
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Michelle’s Answer
There's some information that you probably need to know that may help you sift through it all and come to a decision. First, the cost of college can be lessened with applying for Federal Student Financial Aid, Work Study, Scholarships and Grants allowing your family to not have to foot the whole cost of college. Next, you will be meeting very supportive and some not so supportive people through school and work. Don't allow the negative people to influence you if you have a real interest in a specific career.
You have some options after high school graduation, not wanting to spend a lot of time in college. The first thing to consider is enrolling at a four year college full time for a Bachelors Degree or a two year community college full time for an Associates Degree. Your option for joining the military is there, too, but you'll have to be 100% certain that is what you want to do, not just thinking about it, but talking to recruiters and gaining an understanding of military life.
You can also take a full time job and take one course at a community college in the subject you are interested in. When you feel the time is right, you can then enroll in college full time working towards a degree in your career interest. You may be able to get more focused guidance if you visit as many schools as you can and apply in person or at their website and visit the academic counseling office and the financial aid office. This way it won't be such an elusive thought, it would be tangible and you can figure it all out better than from CommonApp. Go for orientations at the colleges, too. If you do everything for this online, it's sort of one dimensional, so get a full idea for each college so you can connect with it.
You have already found out what only thinking about it can be like when you said that you are " very exhausted and overwhelmed." You've made the first step by reaching out to us so you're off to a good start with this. Consider what your parents would like to see you do - weigh out the "support" factor when discussing your options with them.
I know that this will sound simple, but take it as just a reminder. Try not to take any action that you're not sure of. Only apply to colleges if you're sure. Only take a full time job if and when you are sure about it and most definitely, do not enlist in military service unless you are 1000% (one thousand percent) positive it is for you. This means that it's perfectly fine if you do not know what to do after high school. Give yourself the time you'll need to feel confident, prepared and enthusiastic about what you choose. Don't do things because you think they're expected of you and try not to compare yourself with others. You deserve room to explore your options and make the choice that will be best for you in your current circumstances.
I hope this helps and I wish you all the best !
Z’s Answer
I'm sorry to hear that you're experiencing so much stress with college applications. You're willingness to help your family and to provide additional support is so commendable. It sounds like you're still in high school based on what you shared, I'd highly recommend going to your homeroom teacher or career / academic counselor and seeking their advice. While friends and family can certainly be helpful with college applications, your school designated counselor is trained in this area to help you figure out your next steps.
Additionally, you are just at the start of adulthood, please know that you do not necessarily have to choose your major / career path right now. Some universities offer students the choice to be "undecided" for their first year until they've learned more about what it is that they really want to do. Take the time to slow down and really discover what it is that you're interested in and what you want to achieve, 5, 10, 15 years from now.
Lastly, seek financial aid / scholarships. Even if you don't think you qualify, at least do the research to see what programs are out there and what type of financial assistance is available to you. There's a lot of different types of aid from loans, to scholarships, to grants - you may be able to alleviate some of the financial burdens that are stressing you out.
You got this!
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Martha’s Answer
Michelle has given you a lot of good advice so please it may take re-reading and time to digest it all. One of the key things she said is not to take an action unless you are truly comfortable with it. It would be fine if you took a gap year next year to work, take a course or two at a community college, and consider your options further.
In addition, I would suggest asking your high school guidance counselor help you identify and evaluate your options. He / she may be busy but this is precisely what they are there for.
Below are links to resources for first-generation college students, including scholarships. Wishing you good luck!
Martha recommends the following next steps:
Natasha’s Answer
If you decide the civilian life is what you'd prefer, talk to your school counselor about those smaller scholarships that lots of students leave on the table. $200 here and $500 there adds up! You don't necessarily have to rely on your parents, it's YOUR degree after all!
A critical note about a nursing degree; it gives you countless career options! You can work for the Red Cross, work in manufacturing, work with the elderly, with babies (as you indicated in your question), work at a middle school, do private home health care, the options are endless! As a current nurse, I can tell you that you won't be at a huge disadvantage for going to a state school vs some fancy private nursing school when it comes time to get a job. You of course want to pick the best option you have, but just don't let that stress you out too bad because no matter what school you go to, we all take the same test at the end (that'd be the dreaded NCLEX).
Most importantly remember that whatever path you pick doesn't have to be permanent. You've got an entire life to live, don't feel like this choice you make at 18, while very important, is a permanent decision, you can always change your career. And I'm sure if you ask your parents they would want you to be happy rather than worry about taking care of them (and that's not cheesy, that's thoughtful and sweet).
Dr’s Answer
It sounds like you're going through a lot of back-and-forth with your future options, and that's totally normal, especially since you're still in high school and just starting to navigate all these paths. Here are a few thoughts to help clear things up a bit:
1. **Financial concerns**: College can feel like an insurmountable cost, but there are so many financial aid options out there, like scholarships, grants, and work-study programs, that can help take the load off your family. It's worth doing some research or talking to a counselor about what’s available.
2. **Exploring career options**: The uncertainty you're feeling about nursing, forensic science, and the military is really common. You don’t need to have it all figured out right away. Have you considered trying something like a gap year, where you could work, take a few courses, and just get a better feel for what you're into? It’s totally okay to take your time.
3. **Community college**: You might want to look into starting at a community college before committing to a big university. It’s more affordable, and it can give you time to explore different fields before deciding on a major. You could even start looking into internships or volunteer opportunities in nursing, forensics, or law enforcement to get a real sense of what those careers might be like.
4. **Talking to people**: Don’t be afraid to reach out to your high school counselor or academic advisor. They’re there to help you figure out your next steps, whether it’s college applications, military options, or finding scholarships.
5. **The military**: If you’re thinking about the military, I’d recommend talking to a recruiter to get a clearer idea of what that commitment looks like. It’s a big decision, and it’s essential to be 100% sure before jumping in.
Remember, you don’t have to have it all figured out right now. Life’s not a straight path, and it’s okay to take it one step at a time. Keep reaching out to the people who can guide you and give yourself space to breathe through the process. You’ve got this!
Chinyere’s Answer
First of all, take a deep breath. It's completely normal to feel overwhelmed with such important decisions. You're doing great by seeking help and exploring different paths. Here are some steps to help you find clarity:
1. Self-Reflect: Think about what excites you, where your strengths lie, and what kind of work environment you see yourself thriving in. Reflect on past experiences and subjects that made you feel passionate.
2. Research: Gather information about each option you're considering. Look into the pros and cons of pursuing nursing, forensic science, and law enforcement. Information is power, and the more you know, the easier it will be to make a decision.
3. Financial Aid and Scholarships: Explore scholarships, grants, and financial aid options. There are many resources available to help first-generation students. Websites like Fastweb and the College Board are great places to start.
4. Seek Guidance: Reach out to school counselors, teachers, or advisors. They can provide support, advice, and resources. Additionally, they can help with navigating applications like CommonApp.
5. Explore Alternatives: Consider community college as a more affordable option. This can allow you to complete general education requirements at a lower cost before transferring to a four-year university.
6. Talk to Professionals: Connect with people already working in your fields of interest. Their insights can help you understand what to expect and make an informed decision.
7. Stay Flexible: It's okay to change your mind. Many people switch majors or career paths during their education and beyond. Focus on what feels right for you now, and remember that your journey can evolve.
Your determination and willingness to support your family are incredibly commendable. Balancing your own aspirations with family responsibilities is tough, but you're on the right path by seeking advice and exploring your options. You've got this, Alina!
Best wishes!
Anca’s Answer
Let me share with you briefly about the beginning of my career in IT.
After graduating from an Economics University majoring in business and marketing, I realized that I didn't want a career in this field and that I was more attracted to the technical industry. SO, no experience or studies at that time, JUST a strong desire .
I needed a start, so I went to a telecom company and offered to work for them without being paid, as volunteer ( keep in mind that back in time volunteering wasn't as in vogue as it is today). I asked the opportunity to learn and shadow.
After a few months of dedication and hard work they offered me a job.
Good luck! Keep searching and keep dreaming ;-)
Kim’s Answer
Just a further explanation about military careers. If you enlist in the military, they make many of your major decisions for you, and you must willingly carry out orders. They decide your job - even if you were "promised" a particular occupation, if they have an unfulfilled need in another area, you might have to do it. They decide where you live. Even though they try to honor your preference, again, if there is a need for troops on the Canadian border, away you go.
You don't just "quit" the military. There is a procedure to follow. If you just quit, that's a crime. Not only do you go to prison, it follows you the rest of your life - it's called a dishonorable discharge.
So, be sure! But, if the commitment is 2 yrs, that goes by fast (not sure if that is offered anymore). Four years is a bit more. And, you will get lots of top-notch training, and be able to earn money towards your education. It isn't for everyone, but, for many people, it's a great start into adulthood without spending any money!
Kim
Patrick’s Answer
Throughout your educational journey, you'll encounter both supportive and less supportive individuals. It's crucial to stay focused on your goals and not let the negativity of others sway you, especially if you're passionate about pursuing a specific career. Whether you choose to attend a four-year college for a Bachelor's degree or start with a two-year community college for an Associate's, you have options that can be tailored to your pace and interests. If you’re not sure about committing to college right away, consider taking a job while studying part-time at a community college, which will allow you to explore your academic interests while gaining real-world experience.
The military is another option, but it’s important to be 100% certain this is the right path for you. Take the time to speak with recruiters and fully understand what military life entails before making such a commitment. Remember, there’s no rush to make a decision; it’s okay to take a step back and evaluate your options carefully.
Visiting schools in person, attending orientations, and speaking directly with academic counselors and financial aid offices will give you a more well-rounded, tangible perspective of each institution. Navigating this process solely through websites or applications can feel one-dimensional, so getting a direct sense of each college’s environment will help you make a more informed decision.
Most importantly, don’t rush into any major decisions just because you feel pressured. It’s completely fine if you’re unsure of what to do after high school—allow yourself the time to figure it out. Take action only when you feel confident, prepared, and enthusiastic about your choice. Don’t let external expectations or comparisons to others cloud your judgment. Your path is uniquely yours, and you deserve the time and space to explore it.
I hope this guidance helps you find clarity. Take care, and I wish you all the best as you navigate this exciting, albeit challenging, time in your life.
Natalie’s Answer
Start by giving yourself some grace. The pressure to figure everything out right now is heavy, but remember that many people change their minds about their major or career path even after college starts. You don’t need to have everything mapped out perfectly today. In fact, I've changed careers a few times since graduating! And even still, as the world changes and evolves, there are always new fields and jobs being created. For example, who would have thought a few years ago how many jobs we'd have in AI!
It’s great that you’re thinking about different paths like nursing, forensic science, the military or law enforcement. What I’d suggest is really diving into why each option interests you, and what your long-term goals are. Are you looking for a job with stability? Are you passionate about serving others or working in a high-intensity field? Understanding your "why" can help guide your decision. Also, don’t hesitate to talk to professionals in each field (maybe through LinkedIn or informational interviews) to get a clearer picture of what those jobs actually look like day-to-day.
In the meantime, take a step back and focus on what feels right for you right now. If forensic science still calls to you, that’s great! If you want to consider other options later, that’s great too. And as for your college applications, don’t stress too much about getting everything perfect—take your time to gather information, ask for help from your parents or school counselor, and focus on being honest in your responses. They want to see the real you, not a perfect answer.
Lastly, remember, you’ve already accomplished a lot by getting to this point, especially as a first-gen student. That is HUGE in itself. Take it one step at a time, trust yourself, and know that it’s okay to not have all the answers right now. You're doing great!