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Lori
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why not make a career at home?
why do people think having a perfectional career is all people can do or want in life? to be honest I want to be a housewife I want to stay home and take care of my house and my baby because that is a job as well as all these other ones that were listed.
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angie azur
Writer | Artist | Death Doula | Yoga | Meditation | Psychology | Philosophy
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why not make a career at home?
why do people think having a perfectional career is all people can do or want in life? to be honest I want to be a housewife I want to stay home and take care of my house and my baby because that is a job as well as all these other ones that were listed.
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Hello, Lori,
This is a great question, and one my son asked me, too. (well, not exactly) He wants to travel in a van around the US and doesn't know why he should go to college to get a certificate because he doesn't agree with society and doesn't want to "work" like everyone does because everyone seems miserable. Well....there you go. It's difficult to disagree with him....but....this is what I said:
Right now, you are young. You have your whole life to decide what you want to do and how you want to do it. BUT, being young doesn't last long. Once you miss the college-age years, it's difficult to go back. So, while you are young and still maturing, why not get a degree?
A degree is something that can never be taken away from you, even if you never use it. It will open doors up for you that are closed right now. And even if you marry your best friend and live happily ever after, that does not guarantee you security. What if's happen, all the time, and you might need to work. If you have a degree in something, you will make more money than if you don't. I think it's mature to have safety nets, and a degree is a great safety net.
Being a stay-at-home mom is wonderful - it's the job I do and have loved. But I did go to school and have the option to get an out-of-house career if I want one....if, say, my husband was to die, get sick, or leave me...I have options.
My two cents - and I hope you spend them well.
Angie
why do people think having a perfectional career is all people can do or want in life? to be honest I want to be a housewife I want to stay home and take care of my house and my baby because that is a job as well as all these other ones that were listed.
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Hello, Lori,
This is a great question, and one my son asked me, too. (well, not exactly) He wants to travel in a van around the US and doesn't know why he should go to college to get a certificate because he doesn't agree with society and doesn't want to "work" like everyone does because everyone seems miserable. Well....there you go. It's difficult to disagree with him....but....this is what I said:
Right now, you are young. You have your whole life to decide what you want to do and how you want to do it. BUT, being young doesn't last long. Once you miss the college-age years, it's difficult to go back. So, while you are young and still maturing, why not get a degree?
A degree is something that can never be taken away from you, even if you never use it. It will open doors up for you that are closed right now. And even if you marry your best friend and live happily ever after, that does not guarantee you security. What if's happen, all the time, and you might need to work. If you have a degree in something, you will make more money than if you don't. I think it's mature to have safety nets, and a degree is a great safety net.
Being a stay-at-home mom is wonderful - it's the job I do and have loved. But I did go to school and have the option to get an out-of-house career if I want one....if, say, my husband was to die, get sick, or leave me...I have options.
My two cents - and I hope you spend them well.
Angie
Kim Igleheart
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A college education will help you be able to help your children with their homework. It will help you to carry on a conversation with the professional moms who are temporarily out of the workplace due to childbirth - you will meet them at the playground. It will help you to converse at social events. It will help you to discuss the world's complexities when your children become older.
And, yes, it prepares you for the what if's. I was 38 when I came too close for comfort to dying in a car wreck. That would have left my husband and stepson to fend for themselves (I was the primary wage earner). Sadly, death, illness, disability - all are realities of life. At a young age, we don't believe it will happen to us. We'll always buy insurance, "later."
Raising children to their full potential is not an easy task, and, if we had more stay at home moms like there were when I was young, things might be better. If you choose to be a stay at home mom, please have a strong support group (family, friends, church, etc) - people who you can rely on if things fall apart, for one reason or another. And please do something to keep yourself intellectually challenged - technology, on-line learning, etc. There are lots of free on-line classes through MOOCs. Learning is a lifetime process.
Also, I know it seems forever many years away, but think about what you will do when your last child leaves home. You might be about 40-45 years old at the time, about 20 years before normal retirement age.
Kim
And, yes, it prepares you for the what if's. I was 38 when I came too close for comfort to dying in a car wreck. That would have left my husband and stepson to fend for themselves (I was the primary wage earner). Sadly, death, illness, disability - all are realities of life. At a young age, we don't believe it will happen to us. We'll always buy insurance, "later."
Raising children to their full potential is not an easy task, and, if we had more stay at home moms like there were when I was young, things might be better. If you choose to be a stay at home mom, please have a strong support group (family, friends, church, etc) - people who you can rely on if things fall apart, for one reason or another. And please do something to keep yourself intellectually challenged - technology, on-line learning, etc. There are lots of free on-line classes through MOOCs. Learning is a lifetime process.
Also, I know it seems forever many years away, but think about what you will do when your last child leaves home. You might be about 40-45 years old at the time, about 20 years before normal retirement age.
Kim
Catherine Alviz-Radi
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Catherine’s Answer
Staying at home to take care of the family can be a good life. Just make sure you can have an open discussion about it with your future partner.
You don't need to have a career to feel good about yourself, but you need to find ways to balance the home activities with your own personal growth.
You don't need to have a career to feel good about yourself, but you need to find ways to balance the home activities with your own personal growth.
Alexis Supan
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Ignore what other people think! People can have they're opinions but you should choose the life you want.
The one good reason people would discourage you to be a housewife is because if you end up with an abusive partner, as many do, you may have no way out.
Making your own money gives you freedom and safety.
The one good reason people would discourage you to be a housewife is because if you end up with an abusive partner, as many do, you may have no way out.
Making your own money gives you freedom and safety.