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patrick
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is it okay to be treated badly and not to reciprocate?
is it okay to be treated badly and not to reciprocate?
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Nico Cerceo
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Hello, Patrick!
I'm optimistic that your query doesn't stem from personal experience of mistreatment from a family member, friend, or stranger. I want to start by emphasizing that if you, or anyone around you, ever feel unsafe, neglected, or abused, it's crucial to reach out to a trusted adult or school faculty member. They can provide the necessary guidance to report any ill-treatment.
In the thick of a heated moment, when harsh words are flying or even worse actions are unfolding, deciding on the best course of action can be difficult. Part of you may want to escape the situation (the flight response), while another part might be urging you to retaliate (the fight response). Each situation is unique, and you might have heard the advice, "Pick your battles." However, the safest course of action is usually to remove yourself from the situation. It might seem easy for an outsider to say this, but I assure you, the simplest part of such a situation is to step away.
Reacting negatively only adds fuel to an already burning fire. More negative actions will only fan the flames. Even positive reactions can provoke the bully or abuser to escalate their behavior in a bid to regain control. The best option when faced with mistreatment is to walk away and seek a safe space.
Your question gives a glimpse into your character. By asking, "Is it okay to be treated badly and not reciprocate," it suggests that you, or someone you know, have been responding appropriately to poor treatment by removing yourself from the situation. That's commendable!
Here are some tips to help you, a friend, a family member, or even a stranger navigate challenging social situations that involve poor treatment.
Create safe space between you and the harasser by walking towards the nearest trusted ally.
Consult with a school guidance counselor, a mentor, other school faculty, or any other trusted adult to assist you.
Combat strong emotional feelings with creative outlets, such as creative writing, artwork, video games, reading, etc.
If ill treatment continues, DO NOT give up. Continue to follow the prior steps until the situation is handled by a qualified individual.
I'm optimistic that your query doesn't stem from personal experience of mistreatment from a family member, friend, or stranger. I want to start by emphasizing that if you, or anyone around you, ever feel unsafe, neglected, or abused, it's crucial to reach out to a trusted adult or school faculty member. They can provide the necessary guidance to report any ill-treatment.
In the thick of a heated moment, when harsh words are flying or even worse actions are unfolding, deciding on the best course of action can be difficult. Part of you may want to escape the situation (the flight response), while another part might be urging you to retaliate (the fight response). Each situation is unique, and you might have heard the advice, "Pick your battles." However, the safest course of action is usually to remove yourself from the situation. It might seem easy for an outsider to say this, but I assure you, the simplest part of such a situation is to step away.
Reacting negatively only adds fuel to an already burning fire. More negative actions will only fan the flames. Even positive reactions can provoke the bully or abuser to escalate their behavior in a bid to regain control. The best option when faced with mistreatment is to walk away and seek a safe space.
Your question gives a glimpse into your character. By asking, "Is it okay to be treated badly and not reciprocate," it suggests that you, or someone you know, have been responding appropriately to poor treatment by removing yourself from the situation. That's commendable!
Here are some tips to help you, a friend, a family member, or even a stranger navigate challenging social situations that involve poor treatment.
Nico recommends the following next steps: